Asking for wedding stuff for bday and Christmas?

My birthday was last month. Every year, my parents make a day of it and take me to lunch and shopping (we have a very small family, so we like to spoil each other). I told them this year they didnt' have to do it because they were contributing so much to the wedding (again, I'm their only daughter our of two kids, they make good money, and they wanted to spoil me). They told me "your wedding is not your birthday, now let's go shopping."

I guess my point is, I can understand asking for wedding stuff for Christmas or birthdays if your family still does gifts. However, I would find it tacky if someone I don't usually buy presents for/don't ask what they want just told me to buy them wedding stuff. If they ask and they are really close friends or family, I say go for it (but yes, it'd probably be better to ask for something like shoes or jewelry or a gift card to Michaels instead of actual table numbers or something).

Asking for things in this way can come across rude. My parents & FH parents are helping us with paying for the wedding. We just told them that for the holidays & birthdays we don't want gifts because they are already helping us pay for the wedding. I would never ask for wedding decor as a Christmas gift that's weird.

I told my mom that all I wanted for Xmas was for her to watch my dogs while we are on our honeymoon. This would save me $150 a day (going for 7 days) she is excited to watch the grandpups so. Idk I guess maybe it just depends on what she is asking for..and who she is asking...

If the family or bridal party asked what They wanted as gifts I don't think it would be too odd to list something wedding related. But to just announce it to the world is kinda tacky.

Personally I wouldn't do this. Plan the wedding you can afford. If things have to be gifted to you, it's possible that you didn't plan well.

I guess I'm confused as to what the difference between asking people to buy you wedding stuff and setting up a GoFundMe to pay for your wedding is.

Having a wishlist that you're sending to people would be rude, but if people ask "what do you want for your birthday" then wedding stuff is perfectly acceptable.

I agree with the pps that say that if people ask it is perfectly ok to say something wedding related, but it is rude to tell them that without them asking.. actually it is always rude to tell someone you want anything without them asking.

I see it like this... if you really into scrapbooking, you'd ask for stuff for that. Supplies. It's what your into, you current hobby, obsession, whatever....

Currently, we are all at a time in our lives where that's what we're into. We have wedding on the brain 24-7, and sometimes getting us to think about other stuff is pretty hard. So why not??

Like diy stuff or signage? Hmm that feels a little tacky ... because you are funding your wedding (instead of being a fundraiser with people donating things haha). but I think buying off your registry (a la a crockpot) is a whole different story

This totally depends on the situation. If you asked her what she wants for her bday/xmas and she told you something that happens to be wedding related, I think that's fine. My sister gave me my hairpiece for Christmas last year.

Now, if she just posted to social media that she wants wedding stuff for bday/xmas, then I think it's rude.