Asking for wedding stuff for bday and Christmas?

If someone asked her and she answered that I don't think it's an issue. If she went around telling people then I would call it rude.

I think its reasonable to ask for wedding related stuff for a birthday or Christmas only if the gift is coming from family or a super close friend. Other than that I wouldn't be telling a friend oh yeah for my birthday I think some vases for my centerpieces would be fine. Nah

It depends to me! Like my parents have very graciously offered to help with our wedding, so my birthday is November, and then Christmas, and then the wedding in January! So I've "asked" for stuff for the wedding from them (basically I've said don't get me anything you guys are doing enough) so if it's something like that I don't think it's bad, but if it's just from all kinds of random people it could come across pretty rude....not sure how I feel about that

I think what's weird is having a wish list period. If someone asks and she says she really needs wedding stuff, then that's different than having a wish list to hand out. btw, how did things end up between you and your friend?

I'm on the fence about this. In my family we typically celebrate birthdays and Christmas with gifts, and my mom will directly ask us what we would like. This year I may very well ask for a gift card to Nordstrom, Macy's, or BHLDN and put it towards jewelry or accessories for the wedding, and I don't think there's anything really weird about it. I think it's different to ask for things like table numbers or place cards lol, that's kind of strange.

My mom complains if I don't give her a wish list for birthdays and Christmas. Doesn't mean I'll get all of or even anything off my list, but she likes to have it. I'll probably put a few wedding items on it, like earrings, my perfume, etc., However, I'd never just start telling people that's what I want...

I'll probably put things like my shoes and such on my list for my mom and grandma. They rather get me something I need. I wouldn't ask for decorations though. And I'll only ask if they ask me for a list. I don't see an issue with it. If that's all she needs then I don't see it as a prob. Her family might as well get her something she gets use out of

Adults should not ask for gifts.

I don't see anything wrong with it to be honest. But it is a strange request all in all.

I think asking for things she will need and use that are wedding related is just as valid as asking for things she wants that have nothing to do with it.

I think if it's within a family it's not weird or rude. My future in laws buy sooooooo much stuff for Christmas and beg us for ideas of what to get us. I think they will probably get us some wedding stuff. ETA I think adults shouldn't have wish lists for xmas. My in laws force us though. It's very sweet. They need grand children ASAP Lol

That is a little weird, that she would say "this is what I want for my birthday/Christmas" If you has asked then ya I can understand that, but her just saying that... seems weird.

Like others have said, I can see family since they would ask probably. I was at the fair a few months ago and saw this GORGEOUS card holder that my FH would love but I could not bring myself to spend the money that day and just took a card to possibly order later, sure enough my mom who was with me snuck back and ordered one for my birthday lol. I have also told her that if she needs ideas for Christmas I am still looking for some jewelry for the wedding (I only wear it on special occasions so I dont have a lot and such I am not good at picking it out lol) and as a plus I can wear that for years to come!

All in all its weird for a friend to just give you gift ideas I think.

I agree with the sentiment on here that it's rude to ask for gifts. However, if she's providing you the list because you asked, there's nothing wrong with it. To me it just sounds like she's being efficient. This is obviously important to her - you even stated that there is NOTHING else on her wishlist. If you feel uncomfortable getting a gift she has on her list, maybe you could ask her specifically if there's something else she'd enjoy in her downtime (books, music, etc).

My mom still insists we make a "Christmas Wish List" every year, and this year I told her don't worry about it, you guys are helping pay for the wedding, but she still insisted, so I tried directing her to our registry. She said she wanted to get me something I WANT, not need for the house.

I don't find it weird if someone asks what you want but to say "hey if you want to get me a present, get something for the wedding" does seem a little off.

Yes

That's ratchet as hell. lmao

Do people still ask for Christmas and bday gifts as an adult?!

If someone asks me what do I want for my birthday or Christmas, I will give them an answer. But, we do gifts in my family and friend group. It's different for everyone.

My step-siblings, dad and step-mom, and I exchange (short) Christmas lists every year. I don't know my stepsiblings very well, and want to get them something they need/want. We also had one year where all three of us got parents the same gift, so lists are helpful in avoiding duplicates.

Different families do different things, and exchanging lists works for our family. I don't really see anything wrong with putting wedding-related stuff on a list. One year I had 'quarters for laundry' on my list, at least 'fancy wedding cake topper' is a more fun present to buy.

This is completely dependent on the situation. My parents/grandparents usually only give us cash for birthdays/holidays and I PLAN on using that money towards our wedding but would never say "Hey give me money for the wedding." As far as friends are concerned that's odd and not something I would ask my friends. Plus I love the gifts my friends give me for my birthday. It's always fun and simple and I would rather it be something they want to gift rather than "Hey get me this decoration for my wedding."