Ask for money as a gift?

The best way to not sound offensive is to not ask for money. Usually, if you don't register people will give you cash as a wedding gift!

View Quoted Comment I agree we did a small registry just cause his family is into physical gifts. Hoping we get some honeymoon money.

Just don't register.

I feel most people give cash no a days anyway. I agree with the PP, don't register.

I had a honeymoon fund but I also listed on my registry page on my website that any gift is appreciated and if it is a physical one, then sending it beforehand would be much appreciated because I also didn't want to deal with having to transport back all the physical gifts

I'd do a little insert or website blurb that says
Registry/gifts:
We kindly appreciate the offer, however as we will be moving out of state after our wedding we sadly cannot take physical gifts with us.
It makes the point you're not being rude you just can't take stuff with you. And gives the hint money is okay

As long as there is no registry they will bring cash!

I’m not doing anything on internet. My save the date rsvp and invitations will be physical. I’m sure some of them don’t even know This exist and I don’t want to explain them what is this how to use it etc.

View Quoted Comment That sound good!

View Quoted Comment I am also wanting honey moon funds. Are you adding anything on the invitations when sending them? I'm thinking of adding a small card

Don't register. People will get the message.

Don’t ask for money, just don’t register. If anyone asks about a registry, specify that you don’t have one because you’ll be moving cross country after the wedding. They’ll get the hint, and if they don’t...they’re probably the type that just don’t like giving cash and would get you a physical gift whether you asked for it or not — these people will always exist, but in general most people understand that everyone wants cash and no registry means that our prefer no physical gifts

View Quoted Comment I’m thinking about it!! Let me know if you decided something.

We only put together a small registry on our site and didnt really mention it anywhere else. We got 15/30 gifts from it and walked away with several thousands of dollars. People know money is the best gift.

View Quoted Comment Yes Melanie. I was thinking of doing something like this on a small card with the invitations. Let me know what u plan on doing. I can get ideas too

Gifts

Your love, laughter and company on our wedding day is the greatest gift of all.

However should you wish to honor us with a gift, a honeymoon fund and card box will be available the day of.

Refer to our website for online honeymoon funds

With love, Jesse and Teresa

It is always offensive to ask for money, however you do it. There is a long tradition, however, that when a couple are moving immediately ( within a month or so) after the wedding, people send gifts after the wedding, to the new address. It is fine to pass the word that you will be packing to move, before the wedding. And anything sent to you after... Date ... Should be held until you move, then sent to new address. Many registries are set up so you can request items be sent directly to your new place. Or to someone you know in that city, or a mail place that will hold things for pickup. When they hear this, some people will just give you money, or gift certificate s anyways. And others will give you small , portable this GS. Especially when I was in the army, and later in grad school, there were a lot of people who wanted to marry with army and school friends nearby, near the time they finished up. It was very common for shower hostesses to suggest " good things come in small packages" type gifts. So that one box shipped Fed Ex ground ( cheap but trackable) would hold all the presents from the shower. A way to keep people conscious of your upcoming move. A lot of people want to give actual boxed gifts they pick out. Especially for the shower, which is a second gift, and traditionally some are for the bride, ( her trousseau or hobby things) and others for the household. From earrings to cell phones, DVD's to small kitchen things, and gift certificates for some household linens and towels, there can be enough real but small gifts for a party. And some will happily give a small real thing, and some money.
I had family in Finland and Denmark who came to my wedding, and relatives who could not take the time and money to travel. And one aunt brought over 21 gifts shower gifts. In a small size carry on. From polished and carved Jade jewelry, to small pop up screen DVD player, a laptop and 2 cell phones, nothing too valuable for customs, and some foreign language music and videos,( movies) a party in a small carry-all. So maybe try to make the point that your real problem is portability, you are moving. Without saying, please give money. And many will see money as easiest, and those who don't may be very considerate in their choices .

Some registries I think give you an option to hold the gifts until you say to send them. If you want to register then you can wait until you move for them to be mailed to you. I think I saw this on an Amazon registry....

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There should never be any mention of gifts or registries, even to say not to give gifts, in a wedding invitation. You can have a card with your wedding website listed for more information, and have that information on the website (as long as it's not on the front page), however.

View Quoted Comment To each their own but I'm doing it. There is a lot of new modern things every one is doing at weddings. I dont think one should not say what someone must do or not do at their own wedding. Opinions are fine but demanding I think is a little too much.