Are you sending Save the Dates for 2021?

I'm also getting married May 2021!

I actually opted out of sending STDs for the exact reason you mentioned - not knowing what it's going to look like next year. If we have to push the wedding back, I'd be so annoyed that I spent money on the STDs.

When I was asking for addresses, I actually let most people know that it would be in May. I figured I'd send the invitations a little earlier than normal instead - Around January. I think that'll give people enough time to plan for travel and also by January I figure that I'll know if we're still having the wedding in May (hopefully) - only concern I guess is that they may forget about RSVPing that early haha.

With sooo many people rescheduling for next year, I would definitely send save the dates.

We sent our October Wedding STDs in March -

So many people have postponed to 2021 that I would send them out if I were you.

I'm normally very pro-save the dates. I think they're helpful, especially if you/your friends are in the age group where a lot of people are getting married. We sent out save-the-dates for our 2020 wedding and actually-save-this-other-dates for our 2021 reception. If we were starting to plan now, I wouldn't send them to everyone. If you only send them to the people you'd never cut from your list, you'll have a lot more options if you have to change things later on, but your most important people will still be there. There's a chance that some of your friends or relatives won't be able to be there because they didn't have enough notice, but I'd rather be in the position of saying, "I'm sorry you weren't at my wedding because you were busy that weekend," than, "I'm sorry you weren't at my wedding because you weren't invited even though I told you to keep your schedule open so you could be there."



Not that you'd actually say either of those things, but hopefully it gets the point across.

We are getting married on the same day, and plan to send out our Save the Dates next weekend (seven months ahead). Since no one knows what conditions we will be presented with next year, we at least want people to placehold the date and we will reassess conditions before we send out formal invitations. We already know that some of our guests have conflicts with weddings on the same day that were pushed out from this year.

Im july 2021 and i just picked up my save the dates yesterday. Im hoping to get them all address and dropped off on Halloween but well see how far I get haha.

I am sending it because I have family out of town and with wedding being pushed out want to make sure my date is saved plus in the middle of summer if things do go back people are going to want to travel and plan more to do in 2021.

I'm getting married in March and I sent Save the Dates because I wanted to give people notice who live out of town. I totally understand opting out though because of the circumstances. Maybe think about sending a virtual one.

I think you should still send them out per the usual schedule so people can plan. For our August 2021 wedding, I'm going to do e-save the dates 7-8 months in advance. I know some people think e save the dates are tacky, but considering that our wedding may be pushed back or cancelled due to COVID, it doesn't make sense to me to spend $$$ only to have to reschedule or cancel.

On the point of sending early enough to not conflict with other weddings, your guests are going to attend the wedding where they are closest to the couple, regardless of the order of receiving STDs (it isn’t like they rsvp/commit to attending by receiving the STD). And most people aren’t planning vacations right now, or at least not anything large and that far out, so there isn’t much risk of conflict that early communication can avoid.
It seems by waiting you are preventing the possibility of hurting feelings by possibly uninviting them and gaining very little bc it likely won’t have any impact on their eventual decision to attend.
We aren’t sending anything super early, our closest friends and family have already saved the date and everyone else will find out once we know it’s a go.

We're February 2021 and we sent out save the dates about 6 months out. We're getting ready to send our invites out in the next few weeks.

Thank you all. Lots to consider in these interesting Covid times...

My big wedding is March 2021 and we sent our save the dates out at the very end of June.