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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Are you inviting your parents' friends?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 88

How did you negotiate the guest list with your parents? Are you extending the invite to some of their friends as well? Or keeping your wedding more intimate than that? Are you inviting your parents' friends? Next Question: Are you inviting everyone whose wedding you've attended? Back to the...

How did you negotiate the guest list with your parents? Are you extending the invite to some of their friends as well? Or keeping your wedding more intimate than that?

Are you inviting your parents' friends?


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  • Diana
    VIP December 2019
    Diana ·
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    His mom is having one of her friends!!! But that’s it!!!
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  • Valentina
    Devoted September 2019
    Valentina ·
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    Yes I had too
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  • Mary
    Expert July 2019
    Mary ·
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    Yes, because they contributed financially to the wedding. We allowed it within reason - so long as their additional guests fit at their table, we extended the invite.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I asked my dad how many tables he needed and he said three. I wanted to give the same to my mom in law but she needed more so she ended up with six.
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  • Katelyn
    Expert October 2020
    Katelyn ·
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    Nope, no way. We were trying to keep the wedding guest list small (I wanted no more than 25 people) and we're sitting at about 60 people now and I just had to stop people before they added anyone. I know not everyone will show up, but still.

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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    If someone in my family or my future in-laws were asking to invite their friends i would probably agree if it was under my guaranteed guest count. anything over that i would then ask that person if they wanted to pay for their friends plates

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  • Kayla
    Dedicated April 2021
    Kayla ·
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    I have a very large family (60+ first cousins) so that takes up the majority of my guest list. My parents only want to invite people I personally know so they are only inviting a couple of their friends.
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    Dedicated October 2021
    Millicent ·
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    We're having a large wedding, and close friends of my mom and dad are invited. They've known me when I was a kid, and so I'm not going to feel like they are strangers at my wedding. Close friends of future FIL and MIL are also invited.

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  • Jaime
    Beginner April 2021
    Jaime ·
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    We are not inviting parents friends since we are getting married in AZ and live in PA. My mom asked if she could throw us a mini reception after the fact with her friends and we agreed that would work better.
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  • Brooklin
    Savvy September 2020
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    We invited the ones we knew. I didn't want some stranger coming up to me or my husband, and either one of us being like "Who are you?"

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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated January 2020
    Alyssa ·
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    My parents requested a few friends from our neighborhood, as they weren't allowed to invite any to my sibling's wedding. I didn't mind at all, a few I know won't come and I am lucky enough to know most of them. Same for my fiance's parents. Honestly, there are more "family" members my parents want to invite that I do not know and would prefer not to meet for the first time at the wedding.

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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    We didn't negotiate anything. Our parents haven't even asked if their friends will be invited so no discussion was needed.

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  • ALYSSA
    Devoted September 2019
    ALYSSA ·
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    Only 1, but she couldn't make it anyway.

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  • Tamera
    Expert May 2020
    Tamera ·
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    Yes, I asked both sets of parents for their lists and agreed with most of them. Most were people we had known since we were young, but some were cut, because we didn't know them well.


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  • 8Bitbek
    Devoted October 2020
    8Bitbek ·
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    The ones I know and like, yeah. It's a pretty limited amount, though.
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  • Cassandra
    Dedicated July 2020
    Cassandra ·
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    We’re inviting a couple of my mom’s friends, but they’re like aunts to me more than her friends.
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  • Kimberly
    Savvy October 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    Only the ones that we know and grew up around.

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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
    Michaela ·
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    Yes!! But we are close to our parent's friends. Actually hung out with my parents' friends last weekend for labor day Smiley laugh And I have met almost all of my future in laws friends as well. Even my grandma has a few friends on the guest list. Friends can really become like family.

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  • Tiffany
    Savvy July 2020
    Tiffany ·
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    No if we do not know them well then they are not invited
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  • L. Thomson
    Expert October 2020
    L. Thomson ·
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    Trying to keep things more intimate, but inviting my mom's 2 best friends.
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