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Are you inviting everyone whose wedding you've attended?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 79
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What's your stance on reciprocal wedding invites? Did you automatically add them to your guest list if you were invited to their wedding? Or did it depend on how long ago their wedding was?



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  • MrsHamm
    Savvy September 2019
    MrsHamm ·

    We invited some people that we attended their wedding. It depended on how long ago the wedding was and are we still close to that person/couple. If we aren't close to the anymore, we did not invite them.

  • Amber
    VIP May 2020
    Amber ·

    Neither of us have really been to any weddings, so this one doesn't apply to us LOL If we had been to someone's wedding fairly recently, then yes we would invite them.

  • Brittany
    Devoted October 2020
    Brittany ·

    Yes, we invited the ones we have been to their wedding for. We haven't had many people get married in our group of friends besides family, so only a few couples were invited because they paid us the respect of inviting us to theirs.

  • Kellie
    Dedicated June 2020
    Kellie ·
    Negative. I haven’t been to a wedding since I was like 12.
  • Ashley
    Dedicated May 2020
    Ashley ·
    It depended on if we still talk to them. A few we invited but one we didn’t.
  • Samantha
    Expert October 2020
    Samantha ·
    No. I wish we could afford to reciprocate every invitation but we just can’t.
  • Erin
    Devoted November 2019
    Erin ·
    Depends. How long ago was the person’s wedding? Am I still in touch with that person?
  • Denise
    Super September 2019
    Denise ·

    I've only been to one wedding and she was on the guest list, but that's because she's a cousin

  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·

    Family weddings yes. some people who's weddings i've been to and are now divorced yes.

  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
    Meghan ·

    There's a couple of couples whose weddings we went to but aren't invited to ours. One set we had a falling out with and aren't really friends with anymore so that's why they're not invited and the other I'm just not that close with and they live out of state. I'm pretty sure the only reason we ended up invited to their wedding was because she wanted me to petsit her chinchilla while they were in town for the wedding. We were def. last minute invites.

    Overall if we went to their wedding they're invited to ours though.

  • Sara
    Devoted June 2020
    Sara ·

    I haven't really attended that many weddings, but no. This was a big thing with fiance. I had to tell him weddings are tit-for-tat and just because we went to someones doesn't mean they have to go to ours. Everyone has a different budget and different social anxieties.

  • Marcus & Marlisa
    Dedicated June 2020
    Marcus & Marlisa ·
    I did invite couples whose wedding we been to. I felt they thought enough to invite us and spend their money on us so it's only right we extend the same offer. And all of them recently got married so we are still close to them
  • Gmm
    Devoted October 2019
    Gmm ·
    Nope...don’t believe in obligatory invites when I last saw them at their wedding 10 to 20 years ago and haven’t maintained much contact.
  • Jess
    Devoted October 2019
    Jess ·
    Nope. mostly because we just lost contact and aren’t close anymore not because of any hard feelings though.
  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
    Brittany ·

    I've only been to two weddings; one was my aunt's wedding and yes she will be there because we are fairly close and she is helping me with planning the decor elements of my big day. The second wedding I attended I was a bridesmaid in and that bride is my matron of honor.

  • Chinda
    Dedicated December 2020
    Chinda ·
    No. We all became distant once they became new parents and my children are older (10 and 6 years old) they feel like they can’t do a lot anymore and just want to stay home instead of going to parks and zoos.
  • Erin
    Super April 2021
    Erin ·
    Yes, but I’m also inviting people who invited me to their wedding when I couldn’t afford to go.
  • Martika
    Expert September 2019
    Martika ·

    I have been to two wedding in my life, I was 6 and 11 and it was my dad's friends wedding. I actually did invite one of the couples to my own wedding. They are very close family friends. Unfortunately they are unable to attend. Most of our friends are either single or in relationships and not ready to get married yet. My FH did just get asked to be in one of his groomsmen's wedding so I guess that'll be one that we are invited to and having them at ours.

  • Amanda
    Expert October 2019
    Amanda ·
    We haven't been to many weddings, but the couple's that we're still close to we invited.
  • Future Mrs. A. 💍
    Super November 2020
    Future Mrs. A. 💍 ·
    Oh man this had been topic at home with FH. He feels like we have to invite everyone To our wedding that we were invited to theirs in the past which I totally understand but we have lost touch with many of the people so I feel like if we don’t speak to you frequently anymore or you haven’t had a serious impact in our life especially since the engagement and they don’t need to be invited

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