Are you inviting your future mother in law to get ready with you on your wedding day?

I absolutely invited my FMIL. She casually was talking about what to do with her hair and I told her I hired someone. I don't think she will be there the entire time because she also wants to spend time with her son. I didn't see the point of her hiring an additional person just for her when I'm already paying the travel fee for the hmua.

I don't really want FMIL there. We aren't close at all, and she's one of those people who is always so nervous and stressed that it makes you stressed to be around her. She also does not want hair or makeup services.

But I feel like it would be rude to not offer, so I think I'll just ask and hope she declines. And if she doesn't, I'll just suck it up and drink a lot to calm the stress.

I invited my MIL to get ready with us and she did! SIL was a bridesmaid, so that was fun for them to be there.

My bridesmaids are helping each other with hair and makeup because getting the whole crew professionally done wasn't in my budget. If I'd been able to do for everyone, I would've invited my mother and FMIL.

We're getting ready at the future in-laws' place, so she'll be there anyway!

You can always use the old "it's not in the budget" line if you want to avoid specifically saying those people aren't invited. OR you can confide in your FH that you want this special getting-ready time with your mom (and share your consideration for the stepmother) but have him present it to his family as a budget issue.

I will ask my FMIL to get ready with us. We are super close, like meet up for lunch or dinner once a week close. Plus, my FSIL is a bridesmaid. Everyone who is getting hair and makeup done will however pay for themselves. It is completely optional and dont mind if they don't have it professionally done.

I think out of courtesy you should extend the invite to your future MIL. It would be rude in my opinion to not too. The fact that you say you didn't plan on it, says to me that you probably didn't think about it until your FH asked. There is no harm in them wanting to spend that moment with you, (that's going to be your family) and if he was asking, that means that someone probably asked because they wanted to spend that time.

You might as well offer and let them decide. I don't think you should mention budget either. It comes off as rude. seems to say "I can't afford you, even though we are about to be family and potential grandma."

You can still get that mom/daughter time on a different day. Consider doing a spa day with your mom only before the wedding.

Now to answer your question, yes, my FMIL will be there, as will be my mom, my sister, the bridal party and the Matriarchs aka. "The Grandmas." I have already accounted for them, budgeted for them and will be making sure these beautiful ladies are spoiled. Because lets face it, without FMIL there would be no FH. Without mom, there would be no ME! I cannot wait to be amongst these ladies and to just feel the love, support, and advice from them all.

My MIL does not have a formal hair stylist so she is going with my mom to the one my mom goes to. She was originally going to come with me and my maids but it will free up more time having her go with my mom.

Nope i rather her sray away from me possible.

It's really up to you. I offered my mom and his mom the same services. She is just as important as my mom and I want them to both look and feel their best. I feel like by not being inclusive you are creating a wall.

Yep, she will be with us and the bridesmaids, but I am fairly close to FMIL. She texts me fairly frequently since she knows the message will never get relayed if she just tells FH

I asked my mom if she wanted hers done - when she said no, I didn't extend the offer to FMIL or FSIL (not a bridesmaid or part of wedding). They haven't asked - but if they did, the cost would have to be their responsibility.

Absolutely NOT! Nope she works my nerves. She won't even know where I'm getting ready. I can't be upset. I need nothing but serenity and tranquility.

Hell no. If she comes then she will act as though all of her relatives can come too - and I can't handle an extra 5-10 people around me, speaking a foreign language, and stressing me out.

FSIL will be getting her hair and make up done as she is married to FH's brother/best man.

I go back and forth about this. But FMIL is very needy, she needs her hand held every step of the way. For example, her sister lives an hour away and she only sees her twice a year. Why? Because it requires initiative. She's a perfectly capable woman with a car who drives every day. She just won't do it unless someone takes her.

I know it'll be more trouble then it's worth; I know myself and it will stress me out to have to worry about her and how she's going to get there/get home/meet up with her sons and husband, etc.

I do wonder if it would be the nice thing to do though. Sigh.

My FMIL will be getting ready with us! She really wanted to get her hair and makeup done since she missed the chance at her other two daughters' weddings so I invited her to get it done with us.

Nope.

I'm leaving it up to her. My girls (which includes FSIL) and my mom will be getting ready with me so she probably will.

I don't think it's rude in your situation. Just explain that you want time with your mom.

I'm having mine come, but we are close and FH doesn't have a step mom.

No, we booked a spa day for both moms together.

Yes I did because she has no daughters, only sons, so I thought it would be nice to ask her and she said yes... Then she invited her SIL and niece to as well.... :/