Are you inviting your future mother in law to get ready with you on your wedding day?

No, my FMIL will not be there to get ready with us but I asked FMIL whether she would like to get her hair and makeup done with the bridal party the day of and she declined. I am close with FMIL so it came natural for me to ask.

My FMIL made her own plans to get ready for our wedding. It may be nice to offer but considering it could get you in a sticky situation with his mother and the stepmother I wouldn't press it.

Nope. I may offer to be nice but we aren't super close so I don't think she will take me up on it anyway haha.

Yes I'm inviting mine, but I also have a bridal party of 5 and my mom getting ready as well

So nice to hear of the invitations!

I invited mine, and my FSIL. They probably won't join us since they're doing their own hair and makeup but I definitely wanted her to know she was welcome to get ready with everyone.

She is OOT and i didn't want to risk her feeling excluded.

I will invite mine, but just her. If she would rather get ready with her family she is welcome to decline. I don't want my mom to have professional hair and make up done and not offer that same courtesy to my FMIL.

I didn't think this was common practice. My FMIL actually asked me if I could schedule her hair with our girls. I felt so stunned I said sure. I don't know how the morning will pan out but we get along great. She also knows my mom and sisters so it should be fine.

I think you're okay to say no. I wouldn't say it outright but maybe say that your stylist only has time for you and your mom and give her alternate ideas for stylists??

FH's mom died a few years ago, but I'm not even inviting my mom to get ready with me, I don't think. Too much stress.

My FMIL will not be with me.

My mother, MOH and I will be at the hotel the night before. I did ask FMIL, but she said her friend is doing her make-up, plus she'd have to find a way to get from where she's staying to the hotel. She's also very frugal, so I know she probably would have declined anyway.

Maybe offer to find them someone else.

Yes, FMIL is getting ready with me and the other girls. We're close.

I invited my MIL, but was also spending all day getting ready with my mom and 7 bridesmaids (including my SIL) so it would have felt like I was excluding MIL. She ended up wanting to use her normal hair and makeup person and getting ready separately which was totally fine!

Since it was just going to be the two of you and adding 3 more people would really affect both the vibe and the getting ready timeline, I think it's fair to let FH know that this is something special you and your mom planned together!

Instead of having them in the room with you, could you arrange for the stylists to go to a different hotel room for them either before or after you've gotten yours done?

I invited mine (I try to include her in as much as possible as they are generously helping with a large portion of the wedding), but she is having her normal salon person style her hair and getting her makeup done there. She wanted me to use her hair person but I did a trial and HATED it with a passion, so she's on her own.

My BM, mother, flowergirl and I will be going to get our hair done at a salon nearby my venue prior to going to the venue where the makeup artists will meet us.

I included mine and both FSIL (one in the wedding as its his sister, the other is his brother's wife). We have a massive parlor suite at the hotel with food and cocktails and they are all OOT so it was a no brainer. I think they're all joining us, but the one FSIL is preggers so may not be able to travel anyway.

ETA: I may foot my FMIL but am not footing anyone else's except the tips and covering the travel fees. It's optional for all BM.

Yes, I am.

My mother passed away. So FMIL has really helped with that.

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My FMIL and I have actually already talked about this and she will be there getting ready with me.

I will invite mine to see if she wants to get hair/makeup done with my mom. I also have four bridesmaids.

In your situation, seeing that it's just you and your mom, I would say no. It's a nice quiet moment with you and your mom. Your FH's step sister and cousin who you've never met don't need to intrude. Tell him it's okay if his mom comes, but that's it.

I am, my FH is her only child, so I'm trying to include her in as much as possible! Plus the guys are golfing during the day and I don't want her to be by herself at the hotel

I am inviting my FMIL to get ready with the whole bridal party, mom, and myself. Her and I are very close so I am very much looking forward to having her there with me. It would be weird to invite them if you are not close so I guess if I were in your situation I wouldn't invite them.

I invited both FMIL and FSMIL just today and both declined. FMIL is going to be dealing with out of town family and FSMIL said she just wasn't interested. So it'll be my mom, me, and my girls and I'm fine with it!