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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Are you inviting kids?

Lynnie, on April 30, 2018 at 4:43 PM

Posted in Planning 137

Oh the dreaded guest list... it's one of the toughest parts of wedding planning and can have a big impact on everything from your venue size, to your budget, to the number of favors you need to order! It's a tricky balance trying to keep everyone happy, but at the end of the day - not everyone can...

Oh the dreaded guest list... it's one of the toughest parts of wedding planning and can have a big impact on everything from your venue size, to your budget, to the number of favors you need to order! It's a tricky balance trying to keep everyone happy, but at the end of the day - not everyone can make the cut. ✂️✂️✂️

So it's time to share - who made your list??


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First question.... are you inviting kids? Did you have a cut-off based on age, or did you go adults only?


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137 Comments

  • Jen
    Super May 2018
    Jen ·
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    We did not invite any kids. We do not even have kids in the wedding party. When making our guest list, kids were the first thing we nixed.

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  • C
    Dedicated March 2019
    Chelsea ·
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    We're inviting only close family with children. Trying to limit the amount of children in attendance.

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  • J
    Devoted June 2018
    Janette ·
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    There are a lot of kids and our wedding wouldn't be the same if we didn't include them.
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  • Tanya
    Expert May 2018
    Tanya ·
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    Child free wedding.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    My son will be there so if anyone brings kids they are more than welcome but we didn't put the kids names on the invites. FSIL is bringing her 2 daughters and so far no one else is bringing their kids. My son is a little disappointed by that but most of the people want to enjoy Vegas child free

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  • Kristen328
    Super September 2018
    Kristen328 ·
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    We basically invited in circles. We drew the line at cousins, youngest being 15. I originally had my out-of-state cousins' kids on the guest list (ages ranging from 4 to 13 or something like that) but it was too many kids that I have no relationship with, and a few who I've never even met so I nixed that. FH has three kids - ages 8, 10 and 12 so they'll be the only young kids there and quite honestly they won't stay long into the reception.
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  • Heather
    Expert August 2018
    Heather ·
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    Ours is kid friendly, as our children are in the wedding party. Everyone on our guest list is super close family and friends. Only 40 people, which we wanted a small, intimate wedding.
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  • Brenda
    Devoted May 2018
    Brenda ·
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    I invited kids. There aren’t many coming (8 kids of 110 guests) and some of the younger ones invited are my niece and nephews.
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  • HJKvr
    Expert September 2018
    HJKvr ·
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    Initially I had ALL THE KIDS on my guest list. But, being 40.... most of our friends and family have kids and multiples at that. So when I realized I had no less than fifty (50!!) children on the list I realized I needed to make some cuts. So I compromised by cutting all children of friends and only leaving family. Which is still around 30. But I'm really really hoping not everyone brings their kids. When a lot of our friends told me that they wanted to come for the party and they were leaving their kids at home anyway, I realized it would be pretty simple to just cut all of them out. I'm still not 100% comfortable with the final number on our guest count but it's better than it was. Fingers crossed we get some declines.

    I also have a zillion cousins and I'm inviting most, but not all, of them.

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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    We are doing adult only with the exception of my flower girl, my two ring bearers and my nephew who is 13.

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  • H
    Devoted June 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I initially never even thought about not including kids. Kids have always been welcome to weddings I've been too. And I'm an el. Ed major, so children are my jam.. haha. But after a while, I honestly thought about no kids, just for budget reasons (it would save us over $1200) because I already have a huge, close family and most of my cousins are already 3 kids deep. However, I'm actually closer to their kids, as I am only 21, than I am with most of the adults, as they are closer to my parents age since they are technically my 2nd cousins. My FH also has 5 nieces and nephews and alot of my 1st cousins are 18 or younger, but were close, so I knew I needed to have kids. Also, the venue is over an hour away for most of the guests, so most of them I assume will be staying in a hotel, so trying to find over night child care would be really hard and expensive. So there will be around 80 "kids" (under the age of 21) at our wedding if everyone RSVP's. I havent sent out STD yet as our wedding is over 1 year and 1 month away...
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
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    We have children so they will be there as well as my 2 nieces. All are teenagers though so not quite the same as having a bunch of toddlers taking over the dance floor.

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  • Lucky
    Devoted October 2018
    Lucky ·
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    We are inviting kids. My FH has a son that is 8 and I figured it would be nice for him.

    Also I live in Utah, so in where I'm from its normal to have kids at the wedding.

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  • Preslee
    Expert May 2019
    Preslee ·
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    We had about 250, no children at all. We are essentially having 21 and up, I believe we will have one that is 20.

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  • FutureMrsS
    Expert October 2018
    FutureMrsS ·
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    We are including kids that are immediate family only. Kids of friends, coworkers, ect...I did not address the envelope for.

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  • Kristina
    Master August 2018
    Kristina ·
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    Originally, no kids other than our two flower girls.

    But FH's family doesn't do child free weddings, so we had a lot of offended people. Three more kids were added to that count, then one taken away because his mom didn't want to pull him out of school (They start in early August??? Hm.)

    Then my aunt asked if she could bring my 10 year old cousin as her plus one, because I've always been very close to her and treat my cousin more like a niece or sister, so I said yes to that as well.

    So in total, 5 kids, which I can deal with Smiley smile

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  • Shinee
    Expert September 2018
    Shinee ·
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    We kept our list to close family and friends that we keep in contact with. My side of the family is quite bigger than my FH’s but I did not invite my cousins I haven’t seen in 5+ years or those who don’t even know my FH. We are having kids because I do have a fair amount of cousins who are younger who we see often and they love my FH.

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  • Sarah
    VIP July 2018
    Sarah ·
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    We are inviting kids, though it is interesting because my brother and a cousin of mine both got married last year and kids were not invited to either. To me, a wedding is about blending the two families, and so kids would be invited.

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  • MrsRies&Love
    VIP May 2018
    MrsRies&Love ·
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    Our guest list is adults only, except for a few infants who are still being breast fed!

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  • Tnt
    Dedicated September 2022
    Tnt ·
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    We will have probably about 10-12 children under the age of 18 ranging in age from 2 to 17 most are close family members but some of FH friends are traveling from out of town and have children. If any misbehave hopefully not my own 3 teenagers I won't let it ruin my day.

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