Are thank you cards dead or something?

Out of the 4 weddings I went to this summer I got 2 thank you cards.

I'm all for thank yous! Mom always had us write them whenever we got a gift. In college, I forgot to write a thank you to my aunt for the Christmas gift, and it still bothers me.

We were invited to a destination wedding that took place back in June and we couldn't make it. Last month, I started thinking that we forgot to send a gift and FH couldn't remember either. We made up by sending a late wedding/early Christmas gift. I haven't a peep from them so I have no idea if they got it. I realized that we sent it late and they have a while to finish thank yous, but even a facebook message would suffice just to let us know it arrived!

I'm with Minerva. I can't help but feel slighted. I'm still waiting for a thank you note from my good friend whose wedding I was in a couple years ago; got her a nice gift, and we had to travel from one coast to the other, and pay for the hotel. I can't decide which is worse -- that she either didn't send thank yous to anyone at all, or that she thought the bridesmaids didn't need thank yous since we had gotten little gifts?

I also felt smug this week because we just received a thank you card 5 months after a wedding! It was the most gorgeous wedding I've been to, my favorite probably, and the family does not seem like they'd slack on etiquette. Makes me feel super accomplished for getting ours out over a month ago, and way before them, despite getting married nearly 3 months later. Because I'm petty like that.

I think the same thing! Just write the darn thing it's not that hard. 1.thank them for coming

2. Thank them for the gift

3.tell them what you plan to do with the gift (especially if it's money)

4. Closing sentence

5. Sign and send!

I got my hand written Thank You's in the mail within 12 days (and I'm pregnant, working full time, moving, and spent a day in the ER). I even sent them to people whom didn't bring gifts, it even felt a little awkward doing that but I said that was great to see them and hope they had a good time.

No excuse for not getting them out!

My cousin made me right my own name and what I gave in her notebook with a special note so she would definitely send me a thank you card but then didn't, lol.

I wasn't mad at her, but in general it is a bit rude.

But really, did you bring a gift/card for the wedding? If not, you shouldn't expect a thank you note. If so, then they're super rude.

The reception is to thank guests for coming to the wedding. A thank you note is sent for gifts/cards. No gift, no thank you card.

That has been my biggest complaint about all the weddings I have either attended or sent a gift for. Not one freaking thank you card. I get an email thank you from one bride & I'll take that. Otherwise, not a single one. I told FH that we WILL do them and do them in a timely manner.

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Of the last 3 weddings I've attended, only 1 couple sent a thank you. For one of those weddings, I even sent an additional gift to the shower that I was unable to attend, and no thank you for that either. People are rude.

Funny fact-- my boys are 12 and 9-- I make sure they send out their thank you cards for every birthday and Christmas and they receive cards for every gift they give their peers, but, yeah-- both my brothers married in the past 18 months, and neither one sent out a single thank you card. So tempted not to send gifts for any future nieces or nephews who may come along, but why should I punish the kids?

That is just rude to not write a thank you note to your guests.

I wrote them to all but one of my guests...the one ...I asked repeatedly for her new address (she moved after invites went out)..never gave it to me....so just didn't bother anymore.....

I haven't gotten thank you cards for any of the weddings I've been to recently either (and I've been to 4 this summer).

I even sent thank you cards to my vendors, who all loved them. One of my vendors even posted a picture of it on facebook they got so excited. Just adding that to encourage other brides to do so as well...

I've gotten thank you cards from almost all weddings we've attended, but some were freakishly late.

Related, this year, I decided not to mail birthday/Christmas gifts to my niece and nephew because over the last six years, they've never said thank you (and neither does my sister).

Honestly, it's just so much benefit for so little effort. Yes, they are kind of a pain to write, but it's so worth it. If someone didn't send a thank you note I would honestly be really upset about that. I got one recently that was just a photo card with no personal message and frankly I don't know if I'll be giving that person another gift any time soon. I just feel those sorts of niceties are so important. My SIL didn't even get us a card for our wedding and while I did send a thank you (she was a BM) I am still miffed about it.

@Elizabeth I've never attended a wedding or shower and not brought a gift!

I sent thank-you notes to everyone but my in-laws after our wedding. I asked DH to do that one, and he still hasn't (I refuse to write a note to his parents when he's perfectly capable of doing it). We also thanked them repeatedly in person/on the phone.

To be honest, I haven't sent them for Christmas gifts in the last couple years, but the only people that I exchange gifts with are my close friends, DH and close relatives, whom I thank in person. When I gave my mom a birthday gift a week ago, she thanked me in person, said thank you on the phone a few days later, and mailed us a thank-you note. That just seems ridiculous and excessive to me.

@Kahlcara, I think that if you're thanking people for Christmas gifts in person, notes aren't necessary at all. What bugs me about my sister and her children is that I don't even get a verbal (or virtual) thank you.

Then it's rude for them not to send a thank you note! I was sitting here going "everyone's saying it's rude, but I only sent thank you notes to people who gave us gifts/cards because that's what etiquette says" lol.

Ugh. I have written thank you card for everything. Even when I was young. It is so sad that people don't do them anymore.