Are thank you cards dead or something?

I feel like they are going by the way side :-( I haven't gotten a single thank-you card in the last two years. If I get anything, it has been a thank-you text message.

Ugh. I know. I write thank you cards for everything. Seems like people don't think they're worth the time anymore. In fact... I'm actually thinking of writing DH a thank you card after Christmas... We love getting mail and all we get is junk mail :/

No, manners are dead. RIP Manners.

Possibly.

I wrote them, but personally, when I get them, I barely even read them! I think they're just so silly.

i.e. I could not make my sisters wedding shower (co-ed) so I had a custom designed, pretty expensive, gluten free (for her) cake made for the party. She LOVED it, called me, texted me, etc, as people normally do. Then I got the thank you card and it was just odd.... the phone call was more than enough for me. I felt bad she even wasted a stamp.

I wish thank you voicemails were a thing. I'd prefer them.

@FutureMrsBrbr glad to know I'm not the only one. I'll still think 4 or 5 months after a wedding "wait... I still haven't gotten a thank you from them, WTF?" that's definitely an "old" tradition I think should stick around.

@Finallymrsjkr that is such a cute idea! I might steal it haha. All we get is junk mail and credit card offers, and FH's face always lights up when we get something other than that. That's a cute and simple surprise

As RAR said, manners are dead. Just like customer service.

Thank you cards aren't dead some people just don't have manners.

@m a thank you card after a verbal thank you through a call or text may not be necessary, I agree. But she's your sister. I don't think most couples will call each one of their guests to tell them thank you. Those weddings I didn't receive a thank you card from, I also never heard any sort of thank you in general.

My mom and I were just talking about this! She asked me to please please remember to send them. She's still mortified that my one of my siblings never sent any.

I sent Thank You cards for both of my bridal showers, and to anyone who gave us a wedding gift/card. I can see not sending a card for shower gifts if you personally thanked that person at the time you received the gift, but since you can't know who gave you what at the Wedding I can't imagine not sending a thank you.

I send thank you cards for everything. I have a drawer full of different options in my office to make it convenient. I don't understand why people don't think it's necessary.

Yes! Send them! Otherwise call each of your guests to say thank you... people spent a lot of money and time to come celebrate with you and brought you a gift. The least you can do is write a paragraph thanking them and wishing them well. People think it takes so long. Enlist you spouse, they received the gifts to, and spend each night for a week writing 10-20 each. It'll be done in no time!

That's gross. I send them for every possible reason; it IS necessary, and it really sets you apart from everyone else.

A thank you is absolutely necessary. In some circumstances, a phone call will suffice. Sometimes an email thank you will suffice. I think, for wedding and shower gifts, a physical thank you card is necessary and appropriate. I side-eye anyone who doesn't send one.

I think Thank You card is very necessary and I already purchased cards (same design as my STD and Invitation as a package) so I can hand write to our guests later.

I got a Thank You card from a co-worker that I didn't even attend wedding (however we got a gift for him as a group) and I thought it was very nice

Not getting thank you cards feels oddly personal to me. I know it shouldn't, but I really do take it personally. Recently, one of my close friends got married. I was in the wedding and got her a really nice and expensive gift. Several others I know got thank you cards, but I still haven't received one. It is possible it got lost, but...

I guess the way to remedy this is to realize what upsets us and then not do that to other people. So you can bet I will be Johnny on the Spot with my thank you cards.

Did you send a gift? Or just attend the wedding?

A thank you is definitely something that should never turn electronic. Pen to paper is the way to go. Always.

I was with one of my couple friends one weekend and my parents house was conveniently in the middle of our trip, so we crashed there for the night. Well my friends sent my mom a thank you note for it. She was SO happy! Words can't even express how nice she thought it was. These friends are now my mom's favorite people. So sending a thank you definitely goes a long way.

DH and I just finished writing ours. Our hands are crampy, it took forever and a lot of postage, but definitely worth it to properly express gratitude to those that got us a gift. I mean, c'mon people, just do it!