Are strip clubs a deal breaker?

One who goes regularly? No. One who goes once in a while, for stag dos etc, yes.

I agree with Mrs. T.

Go's frequently? No. I've never dated men that went to strip clubs. .. even the assholes I dated.

To me...There is something wrong if a guy go's all the time.

This is a definite deal breaker for me.

It's not inherently a deal-breaker in itself, but I would just never get along with the type of man that enjoys them.

I don't care at all, its a guy thing, as long as his P doesn't go in any V's I'm okay

I'm one of those women who accompanies her man to strip clubs...we have fun with it. What can I say...I'm one of those chicks who thinks the female form is a thing of beauty & I'm not ashamed to say that I enjoy looking :-)

If he were to go as a part of a group of guys to a strip club for a bachelor party or whatever, I'd just be bummed I couldn't go too...LOL :-) I trust FH implicitly. For me, looking doesn't equate to disrespect. However, I will agree that there are some situations in which it does...each relationship dynamic is unique & should not be judged :-)

ETA: Because my man (and myself) enjoys going to a strip club, doesn't mean that our characters are questionable. We are both upstanding, hard working, tax paying citizens & I take issue with anyone who would say otherwise just because we attend strip clubs...to each their own...enough said.

FH has gone just for fun when he was a young fellow and in the six years we've been together he has only gone for bachelor parties. For bachelor parties I don't really care because for the most part that's what dudes do. Now I am not too excited when it is time for HIS bachelor party because now he will be the main focus....meh. I definitely wouldn't be happy if he was consistently going all of the time and I wouldn't go with him to one. Call me crazy but I don't want to see him sticking his hands in places or getting grinded on. That's what is done but that doesn't mean I need to see it.

Frequently....I couldn't tolerate. Every now and then...go for it. FH isn't a fan of that type of thing anyway.

Only if he doesn't let me go too

I agree with MnDex. I've been to the strip club with my guy and other male friends and I enjoy seeing the ladies, their flexibility and the variety out there.

I've never had a problem with my guy going to strip clubs, but he only goes for things like bachelor parties, etc. I think the last time he went was almost 2 years ago.

If he went occasionally for a bachelor party, OK. But frequent? No way. Not only would I constantly feel like I wasn't enough (which I would never stay with a man whose actions implied such), but the money he spends on women should only be spent on 1....

Love it KM ;-) LOL :-)

Yep, all the time yes and occasionally no. The trust issues your speaking of are another thing. If you can't trust your gut at a strip club hire can you trust them in general. Ex some of the club's I have been to they have girls dancing that are almost not clothed.

I am on the same page with MnDex.

FH doesn't go. I went once years ago with a guy I was dating. I didn't like it. I live in Atlanta where strip clubs are very prevalent, so i'm sure this topic comes up a lot in relationships. Interesting to see the different perspectives here!

I've never had an issue with it though I've never dated a guy who wanted to go frequently. I think my "line" is a pretty lenient one though when it comes to what he wants to do with his life. It isn't my decision. If he and his guy friends want to go to a strip club, who am I to tell him no? I trust him completely, I know he won't do anything, I know he'll come home and tell me all about it. In fact, I'm also one of those girls who enjoys going as well from time to time. If he invited me, i'd totally go.

I have a few friends who asked me what my FH was doing for his bachelor party and immediately asked "they aren't going to a strip club are they?" Condescending tone and all. Why yes, they just might, and I trust my man enough to know that nothing about our relationship will change because he decided to go look at a few women dance.

My apologies if my post sounds a bit snarky, but I also do take a little offense about the "people of character" comment from the OP. My fiance and I have very strong character that shouldn't be judged because of our choices to visit or not visit a strip club.

Agreed ^

On the same page with MnDex. I'd probably be the girl shoving the dollars down the dancer's g-string and paying for all the lapdances.

If you can't handle your guy even looking at another girl, then you have some bad insecurity issues that need to be addressed.

I'm not a fan, but I wouldn't have to worry about FH. Lap dances are a deal breaker.

I've been to one before, it was really sad. (At least the shady place I went to.) All the girls looked so empty.