Are strip clubs a deal breaker?

HAHAHAHA...I knew I liked you for a reason SunshineJenn...LMAO ;-)

They aren't an issue for me. FH actually has never gone because he just doesn't find the appeal. I've gone with my gf's and past bf's quite a number of times. I haven't gone in years though...not because I think they are bad taste, I just haven't had the urge. If FH went I'd be surprised that his GMs thought he'd enjoy it, I wouldn't be upset that that was what he was doing. I would, however, feel slightly uncomfortable with a private room lap dance. Not because of FH, but because of the girl. I've heard some pretty scandalous things...

I too am/was the girl with my dollar out. I've had boobies in my face. Boobies are fun! ( . )( . )

Ok, so I'll change it to "men who have the character, core values and principles I think are imperative for a healthy relationship." Is that better?

Luckily my husband doesn't go - he doesn't like them (says they're a waste of money). He went to one for his bachelor party and he's been on other bachelor parties, but he won't go.

But I wouldn't want to be with someone who goes frequently. Sorry, but I would judge them.

So what you're saying is that if my guy went to a strip club, he doesn't have character, core values and principles? Way to be judgy.

With FH I do not like the idea of him going to them. However I think that stems from the fact that I am the only woman he's ever been with and seen fully naked in person. If I was with a man who had seen other naked women I don't think I'd care as much because I would not be with someone I had trust issues with.

ETA: I should mention that FH does not have any interest in going to strip clubs even for his bachelor party and has informed his best man of this.

I don't think it's a jealousy issue; for me it's more of a taste issue. Not even a morals issue, but like really? He thinks that's a good time? A strange half naked woman dancing on his lap?

But then, I could never date a man who doesn't use commas correctly either. It's an indication of deeper problems ;-)

I did not say anything about lacking character, core values, and principles. But if someone goes to a strip club every weekend, then his character, core values, and principles just probably don't align to mine. I'm entitled to my opinion about it, much like you're entitled to yours. But I'm just one person on an internet thread, so what does it matter in the grand scheme of things?

FH and I talked about it. He doesn't want to go to one for his bachelor party and is telling his guys that. But even if they do it anyway, I won't get pissed over one night. My post isn't about the random outlier event. I'm referring to guys who like strip clubs and go on a regular. Definitely a deal breaker for me!

Strip clubs in ATL is a totally different thing!!!! Those who don't know go to worldstarhiphop.com hahaha.

BTW I don't think OP was being judgy I think she was just saying the type of character that SHE wants/relates too. Not that going or not going to a strip club automatically dictates what type of character you are. One of those reading off of the internet and tone gets lost type of deals.

^^ what EricaTx said.

Maybe it's just me but strip clubs are loads of fun lol. FH and I have gone together and separately but not on the regular.

I think it has to do with your level of comfort and confidence in yourself, but don't make it into a bigger issue than it really is or has to be.

Reg? NO!

The last time my FH went to the strip club was 5 years ago and we went together. He is going for his bachelor party and i am perfectly fine with it, however he doesn't care for it at all

Like Celia said, it's definitely not a jealousy issue. I think just inappropriate for someone in a committed relationship.

I think I'm with the majority, going occasionally for bachelor parties or the odd guys night is one thing but if it was an all consuming urge I would have an issue.

As my dad says, get your appetite wherever you want but come home for dinner

Thanks, Nadia. I don't think any less of any of the ladies here for going to strip clubs with your guy or not caring if he goes. Every relationship is different.

Erica, the posts are jumping around. I was responding to the OP.

Oh. Gotcha.

I'm with MnDex and KirstenM. I like to go along with. Unfortunately, FH wants nothing to do with strips clubs, so I never get to go.

SunshineJenn, no. I'm just saying it doesn't align with who would be a good fit for me.