Are destination weddings rude?

Flights and accommodations to Cancun from most of the places in the US our guests will be flying from are WAY cheaper than to Denver and staying in hotels in the city. And Denver certainly isn't super costly like NYC, DC, SF for example. We certainly haven't asked anyone to spend a week with us either. If you choose to travel for someone's wedding, who cares where you have to go? Saying a DW is rude is the same as saying inviting out of towners is rude.

Nah, I'm still gonna say it's a selfish thing to do. Unless you've got an actual logistical reason for it (one family lives in one state, the other lives in another state, and the couple lives in a whole other state still...therefore everyone would have to travel regardless...something like that). Or unless you don't actually want anyone to come, except for immediate family. But people that want to get married in another country, just for the sake of doing it? I feel that is selfish. That's what your honeymoon is for.

Also, my internet must be broken, because any place I've ever looked at to travel to in Mexico is by no means any cheaper than here in the states. I want whatever deals you guys are finding

Having a DW is not selfish. people can do whatever they wish to do.

It's like $300 a ticket to cancun, seriously. You can't even get to DC for that little most of the time LOL.

I guess I just grew up without family nearby and around people who also didn't have family nearby, since my parents were military. And now I live in DC metro where not only is everyone living away from family for the most part, but lots are from different countries. It's all I know.

I actually love them. I wish I got invited to more. I was MOH at a Disney wedding a couple years ago. it was a BLAST.

We are not holding guns to anyone's head & forcing them to travel for our DW. They are doing it because they want to. We are not making them go for a week and mandating that they do wedding activities. It's come, relax, & have fun. Our guests are very excited about it. We had friends who got married at the Ice Hotel in Quebec. We chose to travel & it was one of the best weddings we have been to. The day of we were dog sledding and snow mobilng before the ceremony. Our wedding is about us and what we want. It's our day and we don't want to sacrifice.

Tickets from Houston to DC (for a flight next week) are between 350-700 for a basic ticket. From Houston to Cancun are between 750-1200. And don't get me started on hotels lol, good god they ALL like to overcharge. So I'm still not sure where your numbers are coming from.

Now, a Disney wedding, I could get behind. Love me some Mickey!

You can't base it off a flight next week because those are considered last minute prices.

I looked on kayak at flights and compared DC to San Diego vs. DC to Cancun during Spring break. Both were roughly $450. And that's the height of the season.

ETA: the height of spring season

I think them expecting your and all their other guests to be able to attend is a bit unreasonable especially since yours is shortly after. Honestly if they are having a destination wedding they probably shouldn't be expecting a huge turnout. If I were to do a destination wedding I would only do my immediate family and only if I could afford to bring them along.

Just to echo most of the comments here, DWs are not rude, but expecting ppl to go and being upset when they can't make it is selfish and rude. Our wedding will be a 4 hr drive for us and most of our guests. It works for us though bc we wanted a very intimate wedding and we know those we truly want there will be there. We were able to find a hotel block for $32 for our wedding night and $62 for the night before.

I also agree with SunshineJenn that flights to Cancun are cheaper than most places in the US. Shannon, where did you find flights for up to $1,200 to Cancun? I've never seen rates that high.

@Alejandra, I've never seen flights in to Cancun that expensive either! The package we booked for 12 nights at two different resorts, non-stop round trip airfare with free baggage, all meals, booze, non-stop transfers and a million things I'm forgetting is costing us less than $500 per day. There are much less expensive room options at the same resorts. No one is paying less than that with flights, rental car, hotel and three meals/booze per day in any major US city.

As for DW's being more expensive than local. We couldn't host a ceremony PLUS a full open bar reception in Denver for 25-30 ppl for less than $4,000. No way.

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To each their own! We love that we are having a DW and wouldnt have it any other way. I agree, its not for everybody but a DW doesnt mean you dont care about your guests. I attended my cousin's DW in Africa and it was such an incredible experience. We got heaps of notice and it was well hosted.

They aren't rude at all. Your wedding is your wedding and you can plan it as you please. BUT you can't get mad at people for not being able to attend for work or financial reasons.

We don't really consider ours to be a destination since people can drive there with 3-4 hours but some say it is. It does require people to stay overnight and I realize that might mean people may not be able to attend and I'm ok with it. We wanted a certain feel for the wedding and where we chose to have it is on us. I wanted a true destination wedding on some island or Europe but his Grandma couldn't make it and that was a deal breaker, we both wanted her there. I wouldn't be mad at people for being unable to attend at all...

I understand people have their own time constraints etc. but I'd be really pissed if close friends of ours organised their wedding 2 weeks before ours, particularly with all of the travel involved. What if mutual friends have to choose between attending yours and attending hers???

DW's are not rude. It's rude for guests to think it's rude. How dare you judge someone else's wedding because it personally doesn't fit into your budget or time frame. Likewise, it is rude for the couple getting married to put pressure on their guests.

A wedding is for the people getting married. If as a guest you are unable to attend, politely decline with regrets. It's as simple as that. You can easily celebrate with the newlyweds at a later date

People are going to have their opinions, they are entitled to them. Sure, you can do what you want for your wedding, but people can feel however they do about it.

It's not rude, but... don't expect everyone to attend.

Having one isn't rude, but the pushy expectation of the couple that you'll attend is quite rude. IMO.

I especially agree with those of you saying what happens if we get stuck in France (or if mutual friends do and have to miss our wedding). It's not that much time between and it's unfair of them to pressure us to come. They are going on about their hurt feelings now, saying that they wanted to plan it closer to our wedding and didn't out of RESPECT!