Are any of you afraid to get pregnant before the wedding?

Well, I can't help you here considering I am 43, had a tubaligation, and already have 3 kids, LOL. But I can understand where you are coming from, I would rather not be pregnant before, as you said, so I could enjoy myself and not have to worry about anything, also, I would think the stress of the day and all the running around would not be good for the baby. Now I was pregnant before I got married my 1st time, we just had a JOP wedding so really nothing to worry about then. Just protect yourself and everything should be fine Good Luck hon!

Against what everyone may think at the wedding.... I am going to go out on a limb here and say, you're potentially taking two of the most beautiful times of a woman's life and combining it into one. You as a bride of course will be simply beautiful on your big day. But I personally think that pregnant women are stunningly beautiful as well!

Financially though, I can see where it would be a problem for you with the fitment of the dress! The nine months ( breastfeeding) of not being able to drink is a small price to pay. That same alcohol will still be there if you were pregnant on your wedding night!

Well I am not pregnant, but I think how some people have the biggest fear of their wedding not going well my fear is being pregnant with an big belly and not getting the dress that I really want. I told my FH after the wedding is fine I would even prefer it to be a year after we are marry.

Jeje.. That had happen to me once, when we sign the contratc the bride wasn't pregnant and a years later at the wedding day she was 4months pregnant...

she got a dress considering the situation and I did some edition on photoshop to reduce a bit the belly ; )

So funny, this was like my one BIGGEST fear before the wedding!! Would it have been a terrible tragedy? of course not, but it sure as hell would have been disappointing and upsetting to not get to wear my dream dress or drink and party like I had planned. We were EXTRA EXTRA careful for at least 9 months before the wedding cause I was so paranoid about it! Once we got a couple months away from the wedding I relaxed because I figured at that point I'd still be able to wear my dress and I'd only have to give up the champagne. We also had a big scuba diving trip planned for our honeymoon and you can't dive if your pregnant. SO yes, I was terrified of this happening to me as well! I feel ya

I'm on birth control right now, but I'd be okay with it if I somehow got pregnant. I'm not planning to spend a whole lot of $ on the dress anyway, so that's not an issue. My only concern would be if the due date fell too close to the wedding date or honey moon.

I agree. I just can't wait until its over. And hopefully my fear will not come true. I know your wedding will not go perfect until the end and somethings happen but you will fix it, but you can fix it if your are pregnant. And I can not cancel my venue.

Just monitor your BC very carefully or if your not usig it STArT!!!!! We want to start afamily right away and FH really wants it now, but I want to enjoy drinks on my wedding night and honeymoon so I'm a big no on it (that and I don't get on his insurance till after the wedding and don't want my pregnancy to be a "pre-existing condition" that would normally be covered 100% gets dropped down to 0% if it happens pre insurance! So I'm gonna throw the b/c away after the honeymoon. Thought about stopping it hte week before but hten I'd be hugely paranoid of spotting or having an extra period during wedding/honeymoon which would really be a HUGE bummer (have got off bc before and had 4 periods in 2 months so be careful!!!!!)

I am being careful. I use to be on BC about a year or two ago. So every month I am freaking out because it comes different times either early or late. And I think I worry too much that I am stress myself out and him big time.

Well then perhaps it might behoove you to get back on untill the wedding? At least then your periods will be regulated and you can schedule them accordingly for the wedding! I am a HUGE fan of NuvaRing.... lets me choose 3 or 4 weeks thent he "off week" so I can move my periods around important events, dates...

This is a big fear of mine, too! We would obviously celebrate the coming of our first child, but I really want my dress and really want to go on a baby-free honeymoon! And now that we're getting to the point where if I did get pregnant I wouldn't be able to lose the baby weight in time for the wedding, I'm really freaking out about my dress, which I already have and love. I have a feeling once we get closer to the wedding it'll stop being a concern of mine. We're always very careful and then on top of it I'm on the pill, but it still worries me knowing my luck!

Ya this was a big concrn of mine too especially around like january and february. now that were only just over 2 months away i douubt i would even be showing so its not a big deal to me. if it happens now its happens.

I guest the further away you are the more you worry but the closer you are to the date than the less you worry. When it was a year or two in advance I figure if I was to have a baby than I do have time to loose the weight and still look great, but now I am about the 8 month mark and nowing if I was 8 months than it will be showing a lot. So I guest these times are hard until I get in the two months range.

That's funny because even though I'm on BC that has been one of my biggest fears! FH and I have always planned on waiting a few years before having babies...

But I'm not really too worried anymore... I'm five weeks away from the wedding so I think I'll be ok!

Yep we worried about it. only a few more months to go though and we are being careful. still. i don't want to be bigger than i am! sheesh. other girls i have known didn't care because they are skinny little things and nothing showed and they still looked amazing. i think all brides are beautiful though. it's great that your FH is excited about starting a family with you and i hope that means he will be highly involved in child-rearing too!!!

I would be ok with it..can't say the same for my FH..he doesn't want any kids till after we are married...I would however be upset if we had to push back the wedding..all that hard work!!

If it happened to me and it was 8 months away, i would still have the wedding...i might try to move up the wedding date 2-3 months. i would pick a flattering gown and still have a celebration....sometimes, i wonder if guys just want the idea of having a baby together and forget all the hoopla of a wedding. it's like their ideal to just elope! LOL

Omg i keep talking to my fh about that i would want to i want to be able to enjoy the married life first and , come one we are trying to look good and lose weight for our wedding dresses and that happens . lovely thing but i want to wait . i do get scared though

I would be devastated... if we had a baby on the way we would have to cancel the ceremony and probably have to go to the court house....... all the planning, etc would go down the drain.

Which sucks cuz I would like to get off my BC so I can make sure we can start a family in the future

Actually my fear about getting pregnant before the wedding is that I'll have some horrible morning sickness and not enjoy any of it! Of course I want to look good, and drink, but it wouldn't be so bad if I had to give those up. Feeling gross on my wedding day though...oh no! I've gone this long, I'm sure we can hold off another month!