Anyone NOT having the wedding they always dreamed of?

I wanted to elope and my fiance said no. Does that count?

I'm getting more than I ever thought I'd get actually. For one I wasn't expecting to find someone and get married again, as my first marriage was pretty bad.

We've saved and saved and we've managed to pull together quite a bit. I bought my own dress when my sisters both used hand-me-downs. Don't get me wrong, I hope to pass down my dress someday, but theirs didn't flatter them at all and hadn't been tailored to fit them and were very very dated.

Neither had their hair and makeup done and I am, which I never thought I'd get to do. Neither of them catered food, one was a self catered deal because her FIL is a chef, but it resembled more of a pot luck.

It's not a competition, but in comparison I feel so grateful to be able to do as much as we have. There's more I would do, like the photo booth I had to give up on getting, but overall I know I'll love it and everyone will have fun.

I'm not having the wedding I dreamed of because I was never the girl who thought about wedding details, even after I meet my fiancee. It took us 3 years together and another year and a half engaged to figure out our wedding vision. Not what I dreamed of but so happy with

I'm not having the wedding I dreamed of but that's because my priorities have changed. I always dreamed of a big wedding but I'm have a small ceremony in an apartment with a dinner of 60 people. We decided on this because we want to buy a house so I'm totally okay with it.

My husband and I tried but with our budget we did a very similar vision. Unfortunately, our DOC literally ruined our wedding by getting drunk, threatening my MOH, throwing our cake in the trash, and destroying decor. We are currently planning a vow renewal in a couple of years because we both felt the wedding was ruined by him.

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I guess I never envisioned myself as a person to be married!! So this is all new, unexpected, exhilarating, and exciting!!! I am trying to not have too many expectations because nothing goes quite the way you want it to!

Well my dream 60 person max wedding is currently sitting closer to 200 people thanks to our parents. I'm sticking hard to the items I have remaining because I feel like I've compromised on so many things already I don't want this to start feeling like somebody else's wedding.

My wedding was wonderful but it wasn't perfect or my 'dream wedding' but in the end it really didn't matter.

This is a great article to read if you're feeling like your wedding day isn't meeting expectations....

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/danielle-rothweiler/your-wedding-is-not-the-most-important-day-_b_9739500.html

'why is it not the most important day of your life? Because it’s a moment. It is a 5 or 6 hour long party and usually a 12-16 hour long day. All you hear from brides that went through it is how fast it went and how much they feel they missed. The day can easily become a blur. To put so much pressure on one day to be the most important day ever and then have it fly by where you can’t remember the details, is setting yourself up for disaster. '

I would have loved a destination wedding, but FH wanted a local wedding because his friends and grandma wouldn't have been able to make it otherwise.

We do have a beautiful venue so I'm no upset, I just feel like we would have saved more doing a destination wedding.

I've always thought of having a beach wedding, not getting married in a church, and inviting everyone I know. So far I am still getting married outside, not in a church, and realizing I'm inviting people who matter most to me <3

@Tiffany; NOT okay. You have every right to have a voice in YOUR wedding. This isn't FH's and FMIL's wedding, it is YOURS and Ohs wedding. Already, your comment sparked huge red flags. You don't need to sit around and "deal with it" Put your damn foot down and say something and take charge. If you let them run all over you now, what are you going to do the rest of your life? Please address this issue with you FH.

OP: My dream wedding is just getting married to my FH. I never really envisioned when or how, just with someone i loved deeply.

Unfortunately we have moved our wedding twice already due to family members and would have been married this time last year so it's kinda frustrating to plan around people that really don't care. Also the people we tried to plan around won't be at our wedding next year either because they have something... so you gotta do what you gotta do. Can't win them all.

My whole wedding is seemingly revolving around what our parents want, versus what we want. Yes, I'm lucky enough that my parents are paying for the wedding and FH's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, but we have absolutely no say. I wanted a wedding of about 50-70 people, but it looks like we will have 120 or so. The only thing so far that has followed my "dream" has been the time of year and the venue itself.

I'm just thankful I have the most supportive man on the planet on my side. FH has been amazing and we are just excited to get married at this point.

We love Watkins Glen, Ny. Like, its our place where we go to destress and just get closer as a couple. We really considered getting married there. But after looking into the venue and the costs and realizing that it would be just as expensive, if not more so, for less people than if we did it at home, we realized that it wasnt worth it. I also couldnt imagine not having my cousins there and I know they wouldnt have been able to afford traveling.

Luckily, our photographer is amazing and she is actually considering going out there with us to do engagement photos. So we will still get our pro photos at our favorite spot (i hope lol)

Yes and no. When I was younger, I always thought about having a fancy expensive wedding with a big princess dress and everything. As I got older and more realistic, and when I found my partner, my dreams shifted. The wedding itself was less important to me. I didn't really need or want all of the fancy stuff. My dream came true when I got to marry my husband, so in that way I did have my dream wedding.

I'm not. I've wanted an elopement with four our closest friends together on a glacier in New Zealand for years. FH is the first bf that shot that idea down. Ironically, he's the bf who counted. Now I'm planning a big city wedding for 150 guests for a three day weekend affair (OOT guests are invited to the RD and Morning-After Brunch). At least I get to plan everything to my liking with little resistance and no cost worries. Go figure.

I never, never thought I would contemplate having a destination wedding. I always wanted something rustic in my hometown with Pinterest worthy decorations and yadayadayada, but my FH is not the man I imagined falling in love with, so my vision has completely changed in order to incorporate his personality and style and needs, which are quite different than my own.

I wouldn't have it any other way though!

I originally wanted to have a Fall wedding in October. But my brothers wedding was suppose to be in November and it would have been to much on everyone so we decided to do a DW in July. & booked everything. Now my brother decided to wait another year! So we could have had the wedding in October but now it's to late. I'm still so excited though!

Growing up, I wanted a wedding on Halloween with costumes and everything. Now I'm a little more grown up and realize that's not happening and I'm fine with it

I NEVER wanted to get married at a country club and here I am, getting married at a country club in less than two months. My dream venue would've had an industrial feel to it and instead I ended up with your typical country club/ballroom setting. For us, bringing in a specific Portuguese caterer from our favorite restaurant was our top priority so that unfortunately severely limited our venue options. I've grown to love our venue now but it took me a while to get over not having the wedding I always envisioned. The most important part is that I'll be married to my love at the end of the day, and that's all that really matters.