Anyone Not having a bridal shower or bachelorette party?

I am not having either I really don't like the idea of going out to celebrate my last night being free...when I have been in a relationship for awhile, or a party where people are to bring me gifts, how is that fun for anyone else?

No shower per my choice because they are boring, but I would have liked a bachelorette party, since I really do enjoy getting together with my friends. No serious talk of a party from my BMs, so I might go without. Oh well!

If someone brings up planning a bach party for you, gently say that you would prefer they not go through the effort/expense, etc and you would just be happy ot have them come to the wedding.

I initially declined on all the fanfare as well, but now being 40 days out I've totally embraced my friends wanting to celebrate our big day. I stopped thinking of it as a "farewell to singledom" and more like a "welcome to your new life" celebration. It's just hard to say no when you have so many wanting to celebrate with you. Really, it's just another excuse for me to hang out with my best girls. As far as gifts go, I'm not asking for anything, but I'm also not going to refuse any token of love whatever it may be.

My fiance wants to have a joint bachelor/bachelorette party, and our wedding party seems cool with organizing one. Meanwhile, I have NO desire to have a shower, so I'm declining offers. It makes me feel bad because my mom is really pushing for one, but I mean ... I don't want one!

Not having a shower, but the bachelorette party is up to my Matron of Honor/Sister. If we do anything I would just like to get together and watch some girly movies and drink wine...nothing crazy!

I didn't initially want a shower, but apparently that's going to happen regardless, so I have come around to the idea.

I have declined a "traditional" bachelorette party, but my matron of honor says "We will at least do a Spa Day" and my maid of honor says "what are you even saying, we are having one". So, we shall see!

The only reason I didn't want either was because I know how expensive just being in a wedding is, and then add a shower, then add a bach party and its gets sooo expensive and I just couldn't see asking / wanting my friends & family to foot all these bills bc I am choosing to have a wedding.

IM DEFINITELY HAVING A BACHELOR/ BACHELORETTE PARTY IN VEGAS BUT NO SHOWER.... IM NOT ALL ABOUT THOSE BORING EVENTS... MARDIS GRAS THEMED WEDDING!!! YES!!

I want one! But nobody wants to throw me one. lol My MOH is taking me out drinking one night, sounds fun but I'm in my 30s and drinking and partying isn't my style. It was when I was younger.

We're old, so a shower is out of the question. That being said, I have a few local friends who may organize an evening for me. One of my friends wanted to do a whole weekend at the beach, which I nixed politely. I told them a baseball game or a nice dinner out in the city was all I wanted.

I hate going to showers so I don't want one. Bachelorette party is a different story! Can't wait!

I'm skipping the bridal shower (and bouquet and garter toss), but having a bachelorette party. 4 of my 5 ladies are out of state so I wanted to have extra time hanging out with just them. It'll be very laid back and mellow.

I do not plan on doing either, I do not feel the need for either the bachelorette party or the bridal shower, and FH has no desire whatsoever for a bachelor party, so he will not be doing that, either.

No shower - not the done thing in the UK. Am having my hen though, actually two

So being a guy, I had no interest in having a shower. My cousins, and my moms friends would not hear of this. My mom throws the shower for whenever my cousins got married or her friends' kids, so now, we must have one. The guest list is huge. But hey, people want to buy me gifts.. Let them.

Bachelor party - of course. I'm not missing this right of passage,

I totally understand, all my friends and family are all over the country so I don't think it'd be very easy. I might see if the day before my wedding I can maybe hang out on the beach with all of my girls but other than that I don't have much interest in bachelorette parties. However, my hula class may throw me a bridal shower, but they do little parties like that for a lot of people. My sister (MOH) is trying to figure out how to throw a shower too, but I'm not sure it'll work lol!

No shower and we will have a joint bachelor/ette (more like a local get-together) with a few close friends a few days before, not the night before!

No to both here. I think a small get together with the girls--maybe going out to eat would be enough. I am not having a bridal party either. I live out of state so I would hate to have one here without my family and friends from back home

Neither here.

Not doing either.

My family and the vast majority of my friends live in other states, so no one to throw it for me (almost all of our guests, other than FILs, are going to be from out of town). I can't afford to go home for anything like that, and I find showers boring in the first place. As far as bachelorette parties go...yeah, not happening. I'm not a drinking/dancing/partying sort of person. If my friends do insist on doing one I'm going to request something quiet - staying in and playing board games is more my style.

Neither one for me too. All of my friends live out of town, and we are having a DW, so whatever festivities we have will be done down there. A bridal shower didn't even appeal to me, but that could be because I don't have anyone in town to throw me one.