Anyone NOT doing a garter and bouquet toss??

I'm not doing either, it makes pple uncomfortable anyways.

I am not doing either, I agree with Lulu about making people uncomfortable.

I dont have many single people coming to my wedding so thats my excuse for not doing it. Theres plenty of things that are tradition in my family that im not doing, i just havent told my mom im not doing them :/

This thread pops up every once in awhile and is always very divided... but I will most certainly NOT be doing them. I personally think they're stupid- and I won't get up to do them at other people's weddings either.

I've watched too many children catch them next to an adult... or been through so many "Planned" ones (where they make sure a certain guy/girl catch them) that I find them both uncomfortable and boring.

Either that or a girl gets punched out and, to me, it's just not worth it.

Absolutely not. After 29 years and countless weddings having my name yelled out by the DJ to get my tush on the floor for the bouquet toss, not a chance I'm subjecting the four single girls at my reception to that. I'm giving my bouquet to my grandma, end of story.

And the garter toss just makes me squeamish anyway.

If you want to do it, have at it -- a lot of people have fun, outgoing friends who enjoy that (and it can help signal to the other few single people there that you don't have a ring and would LOVE to dance). But if you think it'll make people uncomfortable, to hell with tradition.

I'm not, for the same reasons as you. We let the DJ know and I don't think anyone will miss is.

My mom, pulled the tradition card in the beginning but I explained my reasons as to why I didn't want some "traditional" things and she is now excited for such a "non-traditional" wedding, which is mainly because it is a Friday night.

Male couple. We are obviously not doing either

I'm not! They're over-planned and cheesy.

So far we haven't planned to do one.

Edited to add that I like the idea someone suggested to me in a thread I posted on what to do with the bouquet and garter. We are having an anniversary dance and the couple who has been married the longest will be presented with both and asked to give us some advice.

That is exactly how I feel it makes everyone involved uncomfortable. I'm just going to tell the DJ were not doing it and let my mom find out the day of. I honestly don't think anyone will even notice!

I'm tempted to do it only because a good chunk of our single female guests will be my sorority sisters, who I think would have a blast with it. FH has said he doesn't want to do the garter toss though (which I think has more to do with not wanting to remove my garter in front of my 89 year old Nana than his friends not being up for it)

There aren't any single guests except for kids.

Not doing either. I am looking into something else for the bouquet toss though, such as having my bouquet be able to be divided so I can give parts of it to our mothers/grandmother. FH wanted to do the garter toss still but I nixed it. I just simply don't want him up my dress in front of all those people.

We're not doing either of them, but instead doing an anniversary dance. All the married couples get up on the dance floor and the music starts playing. Our band leader will start at "One day or less", and we will leave the floor. Then "one year or less", "five years or less" and so on and so forth until the last couple is on the dance floor. When the longest married couple will be presented with my bouquet (or a replica of it). It's a great way to do something fun without the typical garter/bouquet toss.

I was watching 4 weddings and a woman gave her bouquet to the couple at the wedding that has been married for the longest time. It was very cute I thought. So maybe you could do that instead of the flower/garter toss

@Kitkat that's a really great idea it will get everyone involved and the couple that's remaining would be proud to be the last ones dancing!

KitKat - that idea is so cute, I love it!

On the topic, not doing either garter or bouquet toss here either. I don't think anyone will really even notice or miss it.

I'm not doing them. It would just be awkward for me.

Doing a bouquet toss--none of my friends are married. I'm thinking we will do the garter toss but maybe I will either have it like, on my ankle or hand it to FH myself. neither of us has any interest in him reaching up my dress in front of all our family and friends.

At the last wedding I attended, everyone seemed pretty excited about both the garter and bouquet toss. I didn't plan on doing them but I think once FH finally gets involved in the planning, he will want to do a lot of the traditional stuff. I hope I'm wrong.