Anyone having Jack and Jill thrown for them?

So thanks for all the assumptions, I simply stated that in my experience I have never heard anyone complain about them. And I have been to plenty because the area I live in they are popular. And you can state your opinions without being so rude about it. I believe honeyfunds are tacky, as are dollar dances, and having engagements parties, bridal showers, and bachelor/bachelorette parties. Nobody needs that many gifts or gifts spent on them. There is no need for that many events leading up to the wedding where gifts are normally expected. Yes I am having a cash bar, and I am not sorry about it. My FH and I are paying for this without help from our families. We are providing dinner and transportation to and from the wedding. We are asking for people to celebrate with us. If its too much to ask that they cover their drinks then they don't have to come.

And Whooop there it is. Cash bar, so what youre saying is my "assumption " was half right.

You were close, ReneeEdward! Shauna, it's rude to make your guests pay for your party.

Yeah.......it is too much to ask.

And for the record, many, many couples here are paying for their own wedding. And their own bar.

I've never heard of it but I think it would be cool

My sister is getting married and she doesn't want a bridal shower; however, family members on both sides keep insisting for one. To make everyone somewhat happy, I am throwing a co-ed shower which is going to be more of a party so that both sides of the family meet and have fun. I thought co-ed showers were also called Jack and Jill showers. I've never heard of buying raffles or "fundraising" for a wedding. Best of luck!

My parents met at a Jack & Jill in the 80's and I think it was common then. We're from MA so by what I've seen they are regional to this area. I even attended a fundraiser type one in my early 20's for a coworker. I didn't realize it was tacky at the time but wouldn't attend/have one now.