Anyone having Jack and Jill thrown for them?

Tacky and rude! Apparently this is a regional thing, not many people outside of New England have heard of them. I'm in MA and they are fairly common but if my bridal party tried throwing one of these, I'd squash that idea real quick!!

We are not "rude". Your idea is rude.

Couples shower=fine

fundraising panhandling party to raise money for the wedding = tacky and bizarre no matter who says "everyone does it here."

I'm always surprised when someone from MA or NE chimes in and says they are common here...that has not been my experience at all lol. I've literally only been to 1, and I've been to tons of weddings. So strange.

Anyway, OP, from what you're describing I'd say that you want to have a Co-Ed shower, which I have heard called a Jack and Jill as well, but that doesn't involve any sales of tickets or fundraising or guests contributing in any way to the cost of the shower or the wedding. So, if that's the case, go for it :-)

Personally I think that might be a little too far apart why not April instead?

I have never heard of this fundraising thing before WW, so not all "people used to do them" lol

I think a couples shower is fine but you can leave out the raffling prizes, maybe do other things instead.

I've never heard of one before. How is your "raffle without raffle tickets" going to go? By definition a raffle is raising money. End of story. Don't call it a raffle if it's not about raising money. Because that's what it is. If it's like others have said just a party with games and prizes I guess that's okay. A bit weird but alright. Maybe you should just do the couples shower and get upgrades for stuff.

So....it has been my experience that you CAN have a raffle without selling tickets...you can simply hand out free raffle tickets lol. That's how you do a raffle without a fundraising aspect.

I agree @Katelina1, I'm from MA and I have never heard of this and would never agree to one.

Maybe it's a Lowell,Ma thing. Lol I know many people who have had them. I don't usually go because I think fundraising for your wedding is gross.

Haha @Renee it could be! I am from the South Shore

I blame a lot of things on the city I grew up in...well that and Lawrence where FH grew up. Haha

Actually, they are a "thing" in the Northeast. They are very popular and people have a lot of fun at them. I thought these forums were supposed to be helpful but all I've gotten out of them is that most people are here to put other people down. I don't know who most of you people think you are, but your condescending remarks are "tacky af". You should all learn to share your opinions without putting down everyone else.

@shauna.. just because they are popular doesn't make them okay. I am in CT and it's all I ever hear about, and yes people begrudgingly attend them because they feel obligated, but no one enjoys spending hundreds to go drink with their friends. the only people who enjoy them are those who win the raffles, if they are even good prizes. a girl on the CT wedding page has been complaining to the group that no one is buying tickets to hers or wants to come and she's going to lose money- people DON'T have fun at them.

@FutureMrs.G I have been to plenty that I have had fun, I have actually never hear anyone complain about them until reading these threads. And, seeing how "fun" in a relative term, maybe you should not decide that nobody has ever had fun at a Jack&Jill. I know all the ones I have been too their friends and family were excited for them and happy to support them. As many couples are paying for their weddings out of their own pockets these days it doesn't hurt people to spend $50 to help support the people providing them with dinner and drinks for a night. Especially, seeing everyone's opinions on how tacky cash bars are, open bars are extremely expensive.

I've never even heard of a Jack and Jill.

No Shauna, they aren't. I have lived hear for way many years and I have never heard of them until I came here.

Weddings are not fundraisers. If you can't afford to have one, don't. Including the open bar part.

Shauna, you must be having a cash bar and honeyfund kinda wedding. Oh bless your heart. Just because you don't like people stating the truth doesn't mean it's condescending.

Actually Shauna, it's not. I live in MA and I have never been to one. In fact, I don't know anyone who has thrown one. Please don't dump lump all of the Northeast in the tackiness of Jack and Jills.

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