Anyone else NOT doing a bridal shower and/or engagement party?

We are skipping the engagement party. Of all the married people I know, NO ONE has done engagement parties lol. My sister is having a bridal shower and so will I, but it won't be anything extravagent. Probably 20-30 people MAX.

I know I never hear about engagement parties in PA Either! I'm in the pittsburgh area and I just told everyone, we aren't having an engagement party.

We had an engagement party 12 years ago.... I did not want a shower, but since people have waited 12 years I am having 2-not my choice. 1 in Buffalo with FH famiy and 1 here in Cbus.

We didn't have an engagement party, and initially I said I wasn't too keen on a bridal shower, but I have a feeling a surprise shower is in the works. My mom is not a good secret keeper! I totally think it's fine to not do either.

@Ladylee---I think that's a pretty good idea on any of the parties that you don't really want anyway. If you want me to have it then you're the one planning it.

No engagement/shower/bachelor/bachelorette parties! No engagement pictures either. It's actually not a tradition in Russia to have even engagement and engagement ring.. but that's a MUST for me.. Lol My wedding will be a 1 week trip to Hawaii, paid for all my guests, so I feel that it's enough and covers ALL the parties.

We are doing showers because our friends requested it but we did skip the engagement party. We got engaged two years ago and are finally in the final count down to the wedding. We just didn't want to do an engagement party so far ahead of time and now it just seems silly since we've been engaged for so long.

If the family wants a party, why don't you suggest that they have a dinner party/ barbecue/ cookout party where you can get your friends and family together and everyone can just have a good time. No gifts, no stress, just fun and food with people you like and family, of course? If you are in York, there are lots of places that you could have an outdoor event for the "engagement party" without a lot on expense and if someone wants to bring a gift and can afford to do so, let them. But I would make it known that gifts are not required.

No engagment party, but yes to a bridal shower

We also skipped the engagement party also but we will be having parties. I know that MOH is planning a big shower for me just dont know any details...its a secret..lol and I am also having a bachlorette party again planned by my MOH. My ladies are pretty fun so I could only imagine what it's goin to b like

Well I think traditionally you don't throw yourself a shower...so I feel like that's at the discretion of your bridal party (or friends or co-workers or whatever) to do...I don't think I'll have a shower, my mother is mad the wedding isn't local and that she can't invite her entire extended family so she said if she can't invite the distant cousins to the wedding I won't have any showers...so no showers for me. I'm a little sad about it, but much prefer not exploding the guest list to have a shower...so it was a tradeoff I was willing to make!

My mom can't afford much and either can we, so no engagement party or bridal shower. Most likely have a bachorette party. I am jealous that so many girls I have heard had a engagement party then bridal shower :-(

Im not! lol

Well I don't own anything sexy lol, because I am not having sex until marriage so I need bridal shower bad lol.

Ha ha ha future Mrs Nalley...the other reason I'm happy to not be having a shower is that I do not want anything sexy from my family or from fh's family...it just creaps me out to think about someone else shopping for sexy items for me, and really how wierd is it is be like "honey, do you like this...does it turn you on?" cuz your aunt thought it would...CREAPY

Actually that is weird, with my side of family, sex is number one in marriages and that we are cool about sexy things. BUT if his side of family was there, oh my goodness, they would judge me. Yep they are one of those religious freaks that make people not want to be christians, ughh. I am a Christian dont get me wrong, but being sexy to your husband is important. I can finally go shopping for lingerie soon for honeymoon, yes I am that eager for sexy honeymoon lol. Is thinking about getting a tattoo which will pisses off his parents lol. Again, I know some christians who has tattoos lol. Sorry the parents make me twitch.

We aren't having either. We can't afford it. There's nothing wrong with that.

WE didn't have an engagement party. I am having a bridal shower...but I am not involved at all in the planning and I don't know when it is.

No engagement party, no bridal shower, wasn't even going to have a bachorlette party but my daughter is insisting on throwing me one! Did I mention she is 13? I think she really just wants to dress me up! LOL!

Typically my great aunts throw the bridal showers in my family...I'm a little bitter because my gma died in nov and since then her sisters havent really talked to any of her family...so I am the only girl to NOT be getting a bridal shower. It hurt but what can you do. So unfortunately I'm not having either but theres nothing wrong with that.