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Am i Selfish

Veronica, on December 9, 2020 at 7:25 PM

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My husband and I are currently expecting our first child. We are having our gender reveal on Saturday which both of our families have known about since September. Today, my mother-in-law called asking if her best friend could attend because her plans have changed and she is no longer staying...

My husband and I are currently expecting our first child. We are having our gender reveal on Saturday which both of our families have known about since September. Today, my mother-in-law called asking if her best friend could attend because her plans have changed and she is no longer staying overnight and she doesn't want to travel on her own (my parents live about 2.5 hours from where she lives). My husband's mom is the only one from his family able to attend. His dad and step-mom don't really like parties and don't agree with us finding out gender, his sister has a newborn so with Covid she isn't comfortable attending, and his two brothers live 8+ hours away. My husband is feels I'm being selfish because I don't really want his mom's best friend (who I've only met a handful of times) at our gender reveal while my parents, siblings & their spouses, and my grandmother and grandfather (who are like second parents to me since my mom had me very young) will be in attendance. I just waited it to be close family which my mother-in-law's best friend is not, but I also don't like fighting with my husband over this. So do you guys agree that I'm being selfish for not wanting the best friend at our gender reveal?

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  • Jennie
    Beginner December 2025
    Jennie ·
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    Let that member come, changing the whole plan or location when the event is so close would be not good.

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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    I’m reading some of these comments and thinking to myself...I wonder if any of these women have ever been pregnant before? I would never bring someone the mom to be didnt really know to ANY party ( gender reveal, baby shower) during a pandemic. I most definitely won’t think of bringing a dog. It’s not your fault Covid happened, so you can safely live your life and celebrate the coming of a son or daughter. I think people should respect that. What’s more important to her? Not driving alone for a couple hours or respecting the feelings and safety of her daughter in law and future grandchild.
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