Am I Missing Something?!?!?!

Alannah....I guess different people perceive things differently. Also, the amount of stress could also correlate to how big of a wedding one is having, and the other responsibilities going on in their lives.

I had thought I was not stressed at all until I had an issue with my dress. Oh my...I needed several beers that day.

If you don't have a lot done, and your wedding is in June (peak wedding season) you might be behind...It's tough sometimes to secure your vendors when most are booked already. You should at least have all your vendors by now, and have your dress ordered. You will want to be looking into making appointments for things like alterations, hair and makeup now.

I was the same way, I just had a detailed plan of all my diy stuff and deadlines on when I wanted it done. The month of the wedding I only had one thing to do and that was to finalize the already made seating chart.

No ur not missing anything... just before some people stress doesnt mean everyone has to... everyone is different

I guess when you guys say it that way then I guess Im doing ok. I am having a wedding with 200 hundred people. I have a feeling the last month or so is going to be extrememely stressfull!

You may be ahead of the game, or you may not realize how much there is to do. I didn't realize how HARD some things would be! I thought picking a vendor would be easy. You call/email them- they jump through hoops to give you info and you send a check. Easy! NOPE! I can't find a caterer! I have contacted over 30 of them, and no response! It took me 4 months to find a cake!

Somethings were easy, but others were nuts! If you've got alot done, GREAT! But there are a million last minute details you also have to deal with. Get as much done as early as you can!

It depends on how organized you are and if you're completing tasks on time. I was stressed out until I booked my major vendors (still finding a dj) but after that was done it's been smooth sailing for the most part. I think the stress comes from procrastination (which we're all guilty of). But if you've been planning for a while and like Analy said have all your vendors booked then just enjoy it :-)

No, you probably aren't missing a thing. I was pretty low key about everything leading up to the wedding, except our one mishap with the salon to do my hair and makeup (which ended up getting settled).

Have you booked all of your vendors? Don't forget to book an officiant. We totally forgot till about a month before the wedding that we actually needed someone to marry us. If you have your checklist and things are getting done, don't stress.

I found my dress 5 days after my engagement. It was the perfect one for me. People were shocked...saying I was rushing it. How on earth you rush wedding planning 9 months in advance is beyond me...at least I won't be freaking out one month before like a lot of people. If you're not stressed, you're probably good to go! I doubt you're missing anything, you're probably just ahead of the game!

I think it depends on the details of your particular wedding, and the bride. If you are having a particular theme/style for your wedding that can be challenging because you have to look for specific things. I had most of my vendors secured two months after I got engaged, but that's just me. I'm not much of a DIY bride, so my time is spent doing research and that can be stressful if you have a particular idea in your head. For the most part, it's been fun.

I think it varies person to person, how much you have to do. I have been pretty mellow about things, every few weeks we get closer I have an hour freak out because of all the little things I have to do. Mind you I love every detail of it, but it still gets me sometimes of how much I have to do. I have all the vendors, everything is just about paid if it's not already, but I had several DIY projects I wanted to do and that's what was getting me, my projects, and finding music since we're doing it ourselves, and dress fittings, make up/hair trials, completing the ceremony layout with the officiant ect.

Alannah - look at the checklist and make sure you're on target for having vendors etc. The checklist really helps a lot. If you're not doing any DIY, then your stress level will definitely be lower. I had no stress because I had a planner and the extent of my wedding planning was picking colors and writing checks

I agree with some of the others -- review the check list and determine what you need/want to do. If you've already done so and you still feel comfortable (or you take a look and end up with a short list) congrats! If you discover quite a few tasks left, you can still maintain your sanity while taking care of it all.

I'm planning my June 2011 wedding on my own, for about 150 guests. I don't have DIY crafts, and I took care of the more time-consuming stuff early (dress, accessories, venues and vendors). Now, I'm breathing easy because I only have small stuff left.

I'll also have a day-of coordinator so I can relax and enjoy the day instead of worrying about executing everything perfectly. I suggest you do the same, or find a bossy relative who'd love to take the job!

I don't think you are missing some thing but some people the little details matter a big deal?! My stress related problem I will admit is timing at this point, and how I will feel that day. I am what you may call an over achiever, perfectionist freak! I just want the day to run smoothly and I will be fine. But also in regards to that being said some people tend to deal with stress a lot better then other people.

It depends on how much you are DIYing, how many extra details you have, how many vendors you have to organize, and how much help you have...

It depends on the person, I know I'm beyond stressed to a point where I feel sick every now and again and I'm 8. 5 months out ... I'm hoping once I book my DJ, photog, and videog and do my tasting and book my florist and find a dress without wanting to hurt certain people ... and get my bms dresses all figured out and settle on AA Claret or DB Wine for them (sad I alread know the color sash if they have one I want) ... I'm hoping the stress level will drop slightly in May when I'm just paying things off ...

You may not be missing anything. i'm doing things based on my checklist. i was feeling like you for a bit, cause i was watching everyone talkiing about things they had done and i wasn't doing anything, but now i'm on the grind. With me it's different too. the wedding is in NY and i live in PA and i'm here in NY with FH for awhile so i'm trying to do as much stuff as i can before i have to go back to PA so that's why i'm busy

No. I am the same way. I have a June wedding and I have some stuff to do but the major stuff (all vendors, catering, florist, cake, band, ceremony/reception site are done). I just take it one thing at a time. Right now I am finalizing invitations. Once I am done with that I will work on the centerpieces (I've already bought some of the stuff). I think other people are right, people are just different and some weddings are more elaborate than others.

We didn't really get stressed out, even though we did an incredible amount of DIY stuff. Then again, we lived together for nearly 8 years before we could legally get married anywhere. So by the time we got engaged, both of us knew that any day that ended with us being married was going to be a howling success, even if the details weren't perfect.

I'm not too stressed. The only thing that stresses me really is the financial part of it because FH doesn't get paid nearly as much as I do so he can't help with the cash as much as he would like.