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Mr. & Mrs. N
Just Said Yes June 2017

Am I being unreasonable for not wanting kids at my wedding/reception???

Mr. & Mrs. N, on February 1, 2017 at 10:25 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 65

My fiancé and I do not want any babies/children under 18 at our wedding. Most of our friends have young kids. If we allow them all to bring their kids to the wedding, we may end up with as much as 5 babies under 9 months old, 3 toddlers and about 16 kids 6-11 yrs old. We’ve discussed this with...

My fiancé and I do not want any babies/children under 18 at our wedding. Most of our friends have young kids. If we allow them all to bring their kids to the wedding, we may end up with as much as 5 babies under 9 months old, 3 toddlers and about 16 kids 6-11 yrs old. We’ve discussed this with family members & friends and they all seem to understand our reasons and promise to find babysitters for that day. We've also discussed this with our wedding party and most of them understand, but a couple ladies are hell-bent on bringing their babies, claiming they cannot find babysitters. Really? The wedding is 6 months away. I just think they are using this as an excuse for me to allow them to bring their whiny kids to my wedding. The wedding is in the summer with an outdoor ceremony. I'm afraid a child will get uncomfortable for whatever reason and start crying during my ceremony and ruin my moment. I'm very frustrated and annoyed that my bridesmaids cannot understand. I need some advice!

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  • Mr. & Mrs. N
    Just Said Yes June 2017
    Mr. & Mrs. N ·
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    Fall bride, thank you. I could not have said it alll better myself. You understand exactly how I feel.

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  • NewlyMrsLachney
    Master September 2017
    NewlyMrsLachney ·
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    I'm #teamnokids too!!

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  • Mrs. Lewis
    Dedicated November 2018
    Mrs. Lewis ·
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    I think it's fair to ask for a sitter, especially this far out. Every one should understand. I plan on having kids at both my ceremony and reception mainly because I hAve a Lot of out of owners with kids x besides it's not fair for my kids to be there and there's not to be there, but totally fair to ask for your day to be Adults only! They need to suck it up and respect your wishes for their kids not to come!

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  • Mrs.KatieK
    Master September 2016
    Mrs.KatieK ·
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    I'm going to begin by saying I am team Kids at Wedding.

    If you truly do not want children at your wedding, then you have to stick to your decision. If that means that some of your BMs need to step down, then so be it. (I am in NO WAY saying that you should kick them out of your BP, just that they may want to no longer be part of your wedding day.) Also, expect guests to decline.

    And if it hasn't been mentioned, *do not* put any kind of "adults only" or "no kids" wording on your invitation. (I'm not saying that you are, I'm just trying to cover all bases on this topic to save you, or other readers, some time.) Address the invitation as Mr. & Mrs. Smith, and have the RSVP state "2 seats have been reserved in your honor."

    Best of luck to you!

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    You are not out of line at all. Adult-only weddings are very common.

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