Am I being unreasonable for not wanting kids at my wedding/reception???

Too much. I almost had "Adult ceremony & reception" on my invites but removed it after getting advice here on WW.

Specify the exact # of seats reserved- that should be enough.

My stationer was trying to get me to put that on our formal invitations i told her that was tacky and she said it totally is but she has so many people request it that she just puts it out there now. LOL im sure people dont care about being tacky. Im just specifying exact number of seats and addressing to Mr, and Mrs. Smith.

Honesty isn't tacky FlightyFlutist. I have sought advice on wording from close friends of all ages and no one is offended by my words or what me and FH want for our wedding.

WW is a different crowd from a couples own personal friends and family.

Not to mention its about getting right to the point that the wedding is an adult only affair, and there is nothing wrong with that.

You can have an adult wedding but I think it's totally legit if someone has a breastfeeding baby and has to drop out. My bff is breastfeeding every few hours (the baby doesn't take a bottle) and wouldn't be able to be in a wedding party or even attend the wedding if her son wasn't invited.

Honesty isn't tacky but putting on an invite who is NOT invited certainly is.

We are not having kids either other than the ring bearer and flower girl but they not staying for the reception. My FH has a autistic cousin who is 12 we are making a exception for only if the parent can't get a babysitter

Wow....to the ones who said a crying baby 'will ruin their day' I hope you never have a baby that cries in public. That is a bit ridiculous. I understand an adult only reception, but some mothers breast feed, some don't have sitters they trust. Turn on the news, everyday there is a story of a babysitter gone wrong. I'll have kids all over my ceremony and reception and I couldn't be happier. These are families you are trying to inconvenience for your wedding day.

Candi a baby crying in public is very different than a baby crying while you are trying to say your vows. I definitely dont want that.

I guess it's all in the view of the guest, Massy. Parents can't expect their kids and babies to be invited every where, nor should they expect they be accommodated. It's ridiculous. We are nipping it in the bud because from reading from what people went through on here, if you do not make it perfectly clear who is and who is not invited, parents are going to assume they CAN bring their kids and babies.

Candi c, a baby crying during my vows would definitely make me see red. Luckily, I'm only inviting kids in the family and none are babies. I think people feel so strongly about no kids at wedding because of parents like you who believe a baby should be able to disrupt someone's ceremony because it's so magical.

OP, I hear you when it comes to wanting an adult only wedding, I really do. We are doing the same. However, I believe our views about why to be adult only is where we differ.

When you complain about "whiny" kids ruining your "moment", you seem immature and selfish. I never understood the mentality of it being "your moment." Has everything in your life been about the one moment that you are saying your vows, all eyes on you, that it could be ruined by a crying infant or bored child? If so, I really feel for you.

For me, I am excited about the whole process and in joining my life with my FH as Husband and Wife. I'm excited to be one half of a great team. We are going to have many great "moments" and a large number will not happen on our wedding day.

Stick to your guns about having an adult only wedding, but maybe look deeper for why you think of them as such a hindrance. You really rub people the wrong way with the language you use to describe kids.

Also, @MustLoveCats, it is tacky. End. Of. Story.

Edited because I saw OP came back and did not ghost.

The OP did say there would be infants if they invited children, but did she say the ages of the children of the parents making comments?

Nope. She never did. That info was omitted; perhaps intentionally.

@Chip- I disagree. Usually love does extend to the offspring. When my friends had children I became an aunty. I love all of my friends children. They are family. Not saying that people aren't allowed to have adult weddings. I totally get it. But it's not usually because you don't have love for the children.

Normally I am not a fan of the "its your day" mentality but this is one area where I agree with it. We only had the kids involved in our wedding and did not include any others. Our venue was a winery who, with the exception of special events, does not allow anyone under 21. Because of that we felt our wedding would not be an environment for a lot of young children. The kids in our wedding were taken home by their other grandparents after dinner. We did not have anyone try to add their kids but we did have some ask if they would be invited in the initial stages of planning. We politely explained that they would not and would understand if that caused a guest to have to decline our invitation. Most of our wedding party has kids and not one of them complained about having to get a babysitter. You are planning and paying for this event (I assume anyway) so this is one area where you can make the call.

MLC- the adults only statement really belongs on your website not near your STDs or invites. And you can honestly skip the third line in your statement. Saying you can't host them is enough, but your third sentence basically says that you don't want to host them, which is tacky even if you put with respect in front of it.

We have invited many kids with their parents. To us, a wedding is about family...and most families include kids. We have a bunch of kids in our wedding party as well...can't wait!

JSmith2U, not everyone wants a website. We are not having one. We are personally sending things directly to guests without the use of technology. And that's fine that you have your opinion, but for many others who differ with you, there's nothing wrong with what we are doing for our wedding. Thanks for the concern.

You are not being unreasonable. A lot of people choose not to invite children. We are choosing not to invite children because for our guest list of 100 adults, children would add another 25 to our guest count. We just couldn't do it with the venue space. But, be prepared for people to decline the invite if they aren't able or willing to find child care for the evening.

Candi I don't have a problem with babies crying in public. I have a problem with them crying at my wedding.