Am I being a crappy friend?

Did you RSVP no?

Hold up, they are having a potluck reception AND have a registry?!?!?!

A pot luck is just as bad as eating at a restaurant or fast food chain. You don't know the people cooking that food either and you don't know the conditions of the kitchen.

I would go to the ceremony and either skip out on the reception all together or bring something and not eat. Either way I would be celebrating the nuptials of my friend.

I'd buy something from the grocery store but only what I'd want to eat and then only eat my food lol

Yes I RSVP no and texted the groom that we weren't able to make it, didn't give him a reason.

And I also saw on the Facebook event page it's BYOB but they will have a keg. Sooooo

So what? You're not going, and either is anyone else who is reading this thread. Really no need to keep trashing your "friend" now that you've made your decision.

@MrsG, that is a laughable comparison. I know that people cooking in a kitchen have food safety training and there are likely consequences if they mishandle food. However, there are absolutely no consequences for Aunt Jo who lets her cat walk on the kitchen counter while making potato salad that she accidentally leaves on the kitchen counter for an hour. Does anyone inspect her kitchen and fine her for food safety violations? Reputable businesses have a monetary motivator to reduce risk of harm and illness.

Have BBQ delivered....and only eat that ha

I would still go and bring something. I would only eat the food if I knew who specifically made the dish. Or just eat what I brought.

I think it's a great object lesson to anyone considering potluck (or BYOB) or facebook invites; it lets them know exactly how great it goes over. No, no one will tell you to your face, but they'll sure as hell talk about it.

@UnawarePandaBear: I'm sure it is a warning to other potluck/Facebook/BYOB brides, but I'm not sure why OP feels the need to continue posting about her friend and inviting the mean comments, mockery, and judgement. We get the point, plus she already decided not to attend.

I'm just saying... I wouldn't treat my friend that way.

And I wasn't trashing him at all, Celia made a comment about it being a cash bar and I was responding. Geesh.

Such rud.

I would bring a dish and go enjoy myself. I don't agree with what she's doing but my friendships are more important than potluck or no potluck.

Yep Erin.

I would go but that's cause I wouldn't really care that it's a potluck. I'd probably eat beforehand and go to enjoy the ceremony and company.

@beachdreams It's an adequate comparison and it's true. Yes, there are food safety guidelines for restaurants but they are not always followed; therefore, you can't control what people in restaurants expose the food to either. They can still sneeze, cough, not wash their hands in the restroom, pick their noses and then handle your food, with or without food safety training and regulations.

I despise potlucks of all varieties but if this is a good friend, suck it up, bring something in a dish that you can leave at the venue and fulfill your social requirement. Eat a slice of pizza on the way back and complain about the wedding to non-mutual friends later.