Allow Newborn at Wedding???

And if you're worried that the baby will cry, just kindly ask them in advance to step out if the baby becomes disruptive. Or you could even say, "you can go __here__ if the baby starts to cry" if you don't want to say it so blatently. My older daughter was awake A LOT and probably would've let out some piercing screams because that's how she was. However, my younger daughter slept over 20 hours a day for her first couple months.

Most people understand with a newborn that it can be hard to leave them at home. People also dont know whether or not the mother is nursing...in which case they can assume she is and if thats the case, its hard to leave a baby for hours at a time. Most guests would understand that/accept that. Let them bring the newborn.

I'm with Deirdre on this one. I don't even see why this is an issue. The baby will most likely sleep through it, and if it doesn't, the parents sounds respectful enough to leave. Personally, I'd never tell a mom that her one month old baby needs to stay with a sitter. That's too young. If someone told me I couldn't bring my infant somewhere, I wouldn't go at all. And I'd probably be pretty offended. I can understand a toddler staying with a sitter. But a newborn? No way.

I agree with everyone who stated there should be an exception made. Being so young and if solely breastfeed, the parents wouldn't have any other choice but to bring the newborn along or not attend at all. I know my newborn wouldn't take a bottle until it was finally forced at 6 months. Babies that young usually sleep 90% of the time, it's not like this newborn will be running wild throughout the ceremony or reception. As others have pointed out parents sound respectful enough to remove the baby from the area if the baby began to get fussy or crying.

I'm with all the others, newborns sleep most of the time, and if your friends are respectful enough to ask, then they are respectful enough to know that if the baby starts to fuss one would leave the ceremony with the baby and one would stay. I say let them come, it's not like a baby is a toddler or older child who can run around and disrupt things.

Put yourself in their shoes...Would you want to leave your newborn at home? You do run the risk of the baby crying so have a talk with them now. Call em up and ask them to take the child outside if he/she starts to cry.

I love babies, so I was actually begging our friends to bring theirs (who will be about a month old) to the wedding!

A newborn shouldnt really count as a guest. no children still applies, cuz they said they would leave their 2 year old at home. but who would want to leave their one month old baby? a two year old would require a meal, but an infant doesnt. if anyone attending got offended because someone brought their newborn, thats just silly. and i agree with pp, just ask them to go outside if the baby starts to cry.

Someone mentioned that it was considerate of them to ask for permission...I totally disagree with this. If you have it plainly expressed in writing that NO children are admitted and it's an adults ONLY event then it's incredibly rude for them to ask for special consideration just for them and put you in such an uncomfortable spot. Not sure what you should do but best of luck! This stuff is always touchy and I have no idea why it is. I wouldn't take my newborn to a casino where its adults only drinking, loud music, partying, etc.....I have no idea why the concept of "adult event" is so hard to understand when it comes to weddings

From experience it is so incredibly hard to leave a baby, especially a newborn. My good guy friend got married last Sept and Ardyn was maybe 3 months and I was still uncomfortable leaving her with my mom in the hotel room but I did because I was afraid to ask otherwise and they weren't even an adult only ceremony/reception. Maybe ask him if there is a chance that they can bring one of their moms to stay with them in the hotel room and maybe bring the baby for a little bit at the reception for mommy to see or the mom can go to the hotel room in between? Honestly though..the baby will sleep the whole time and if not a bottle will hush it right up. Just talk to them about it. Express your concern. Good luck.

I think it would be fine. Newborns sleep alot anyway. If the baby should start to cry at special moment in the ceremony then most people would excuse themselves to take care of the child. Also if the child did cry and it ruined you day( to all that say it will) then I think you need to remember what that day is about. It is not about silence it is about you marrying the love of your life! Remember that and nothing can "ruin" it for you!

Thanks everyone for the feedback! I ended up sending an email back to my friend and said that, although I would prefer not to have children there, I totally understand that they wouldn't want to leave the baby so soon, so if they needed to bring him along they could. I just dont know why they would even consider bringing a 4 week old baby to a wedding anyways! Oh well, we'll see what happens

Nita, I think that was a good response. Personally, I would not bring a newborn to a wedding. I went to a Christmas party a week after my daughter was born....she stayed at home with my parents.

I had no qualms leaving her in the hands of her grandparents. She is now getting married, so guess what, no harm by being left with her grandparents for 3 hours or so.

I will say that no one, other than my parents, ever "babysat" my daughter, until she was 7 years old. So there was my protective phase. ;-)

LoveDevine - I feel similarly to that. For me, when my girls were each born, they were more of an extension of myself than anything. They were breastfeeding, so I was lucky to go to the grocery store for an hour by myself. Even then, I was so stressed that the baby would start crying and need me and I wouldn't be there.

I breatfeed Sage so I didn't go anywhere without her, couldn't do pump because I'm allergic to latex. I don't think I could have brought my newborn to a wedding though cause I'd have been worried about germs lol so I would have sent a polite reply back saying I'm sorry but I can't make it. That's me though.

I am a mommy of a 9 month old & let me say that my daughter WILL NOT be left with anyone..Too hard for me to do it.. I also think the newborn should be allowed to come.. I think asking a new mommy to leave her one month old with a sitter is a little disrespectful. And everyone telling you that NB`s sleep most of the time is very TRUE. One month olds cant do anything but lay there.

The fact that this couple had enough tact to ask you about it first suggests to me that they would have enough tact to excuse themselves during the ceremony if the baby was being loud.

But, I also don't understand the problem with having kids at weddings and think they should witness them. We have about 15 kids under 10 invited to our wedding...and if they cry, so be it. It's not going to ruin my day in any way.

We allowed new borns at our wedding and I hope its not a situation im ever put in with Aiden. Its one thing if you have close family you trust with a newborn to watch them for a few hours and arent breastfeeding but since me and hubby dont have any family near us there is no way I would hire a sitter for a newborn. It was wonderful of them to ask though and get your permission and you handled it very well.

Ooooh this is hard. On one hand...putting myself in her shoes (all the while never having had a child myself)...I can imagine leaving your newborn at home would be difficult. On the other hand...how much fun can you possibly have with a newborn in tout?? She may luck it out and have a quiet baby who sleeps through the wedding, but what if it's a fuzzy baby who cries all through the wedding? Hmm...I gonna go with..if you really really want her there...let her bring the newborn. Your guests will just have to understand an exception needed to be made.

*can't imagine

Woops..nevermind...no correction was needed. Dang looks like it's time for bed for me