Addressing Guest Attire for Wedding?

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I love navy tuxedos - I am completely jealous. The black lapel is the only difference between the navy tux and the navy suit we got. I know exactly what you are talking about. I think since they are wearing tuxedos and not "navy suits", yours will seem more formal. Men's Warehouse was charging the same price for the rental of a navy tux and for buying the actual navy suit.

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No, it is a navy suit. It has the navy vest and everything - just not the black lapel. That is the only difference. They are wearing a navy suit, navy vest, ivory shirt and tie. It isn't just a suit. Only difference is in the black lapel.

Traditionally, navy has been relagated to business suits. It's considered a "younger man's" colour.

Formally, blacks, and greys are what you wear when you convey solemneity of an event.

So to answer your original post, don't listen to your FMIL. You do not need to inform guests about attire. I am sure most people know how to dress for a wedding. If your FMIL wants people to dress a certain way, let her inform them so she looks like the bad guy lol.

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I LIKE this comment. This is how I've always known it as well.

View Quoted Comment I think this is one time I don't really agree with "traditionally". All of the groomsmen are 34 and older. I find gray to be more casual than navy.

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Yeah, now I see.

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You don't have to agree, I'm correct. Grey suits have been around since the Victorian Era, when the members of the court would wear them to affairs.

There's lots of books you can read about the history of clothes. It's rather fascinating.

The advice I’ve seen here previously is to include photos of you venue or a link to its website on your wedding website. Your guests should be able to tell by the venue type what kind of attire would be appropriate.

Don't put anything about dress. Even if you do people will still wear what they want. Most people know how to dress for weddings. They take into account the venue and people having the wedding.

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You might be correct "textbook" wise but everyone has their opinion as we very much seen in this post. People will view the navy suits any way they like. People will see certain colors/styles of suits in different ways. All my groomsmen are under the age of 26. I personally think some grey suits are horrid. But again, personal preference.

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Right, I'm still trying to find a way to incorporate the wedding website. Right on the invite seems too much and having a separate card for the wedding website seems crazy. I don't know if older generations know to look for more information on the website - traditionally invites came with direction cards, registry cards, etc. I hate traditions, lol.

I'm not going to get into the whole navy being casual argument, but I do agree that you should not put a dress code on the invitation. I think it's okay to include on a website, and definitely use word of mouth especially for those you suspect might show up under dressed. However, in the end you really cannot control what people wear. If cousin Johnny shows up in khaki's and a polo it won't be the end of the world.

I don't need to read a book to tell me how formal or informal my wedding is. But thanks for the suggestion.

Literally, I have no idea what anyone wore to my wedding if I don't look it up in pictures. Nobody notices.

I'm not going to get into color formality but I don't think anything regarding dress code belongs on the invitation. Put something on your wedding website if you wish to clarify but let adults wear what they please. If they show up under dressed, they will be the ones looking and feeling foolish, not you.

I posted a similar question a few days ago. Based on this one, the other one going around, and mine, seems people just dress however they feel depending on the amount of self respect they have. I've already accepted that I am going to be disappointed and a bit pissed off at some of our guest, so put your efforts somewhere else. Unfortunately, now they are your family. I guess you can let it go or you can be like my mom who still holds a grudge against her cousin who wore white to their wedding 45 years ago.

Flagging your comment for being disrespectful.

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You do that, and keep up the good behaviour...

You'll go far...

I love that you feel it's disrespectful to point out the flaw in your argument. Yet you have no rebuttal.

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I am just going to delete this thread. But, you were just telling me a minute ago I was rude because I told someone to leave my post - now you are calling me names.