A Red Dress? Really?

Eh, depending on her body type - if shes not well endowed then i think that dress could look fine and really not as provocative as it seems. On someone who is very slim and small chested, it becomes a whole different dress than on someone who is very curvy. I'm assuming the former, since she picked it and its not something you can really wear much of a bra with and i dont know many busty ladies who willingly choose to go without.

but im also not a fan of all the 'a woman over a certain age cant wear x, y, and z' rules of fashion.

I agree that red would be very loud, but maybe suggest a deeper red color? I think that would look lovely next to those colors.

I agree if it was a deeper red and covered more it would be perfect!!

Ummm... That's at least 3-4 inches below bra line ( on the model at least). I would maybe look for some dresses that are "her colors" but are more appropriate and send her links with a message " you would look soo good in this". Maybe a shiny blue or more muted red?

You can't tell her what to wear or what not, but you can positively convince here to wear something else.

Edit if I can see the skin under your bra line it's too much for a wedding no matter what your cup size is!

I would definitely have a problem with the neckline, but I wouldn't want to be rude, so I would keep my mouth shut. Does she at least have the bust for this. Ummm...I don't want to assume or be rude, but usually by age 59, gravity hasn't been the best thing for busts. Has she had any work done? Can she pull this off?

Let her wear what she wants, at the end of the day you'll be so busy and having fun you won't even notice it.

My SIL ended up wearing a super low cut and short dress to our wedding (with no bra support no nothing - a bit saggy LOL)... people still talk how inappropriate her dress was AND about how she flashed them on the dance floor when she was jumping up and down.

I think it would look ok- my family for my sisters wedding wore a huge variety of colors- it made everybody's personality pop out!

Based on the other comments this seems like an unpopular opinion, but that dress is completely inappropriate for a wedding. You're right - it isn't the color, it's the neckline. It isn't a nightclub and I feel like when guests dress like that it is totally disrespectful to the couple. Now, obviously you can't say any of those things. But I like the suggestion of asking her if she'd like to go shopping together, and perhaps (not knowing your stepmom) she may be flattered if you kindly say having her match is important to you for the family photos. Or just say you want to spend time together! Good luck! ETA words

I was on the "You can't tell her what to wear" train, but that picture you posted is just... no. Too sexy. Way too sexy.

My mom and mother in law will be wearing either black or silver/charcoal to match the wedding. I advised that before we even started looking for dresses. Granted, they both agreed they wanted to match so it wasn't an issue. However, if you don't like it, say something.

Why would you want family to match the bridal party? I wouldn't want the moms to match the bridesmaids? I don't get it.

If I would have chosen a dress like that to wear to my sons wedding, I would have missed the wedding. No one would have let me out the door to go! That dress is not what one thinks of when one thinks wedding attire. Unless one wants attention. The slit up to "there" is bad, but the plunging neckline down to "there" is awful. I hope she changes her mind.

Step moms are the worst! Mine texted me 3 times to get my approval for a dress. I've told her I really dont mind what you wear, just be comfy. Ughhhh I feel your pain!

You can ask have her to wear whatever you like - it's YOUR wedding. Don't have an argument over it and don't stress about it too much. Just explain to her how you would prefer if she dressed in your wedding colors because it would make you happy when you look back in pictures to see all of your family coordinator with the wedding party.

I would say let her stick with red, but based on the picture, the dress itself is inappropriate!

@stephanie I total missed it. How could I miss a boob shamming thread! Damnit.

Eh. If she is an A or B even a C cup, imho that dress is a complete none issue.

I dislike tremendously the idea that 'where whatever you want' extends only to attractive thin young women. Yes. Know your body and there are dresses certainly more appropriate then others but. Eh. I can't in good conscious cast a stone on that. Clearly she wants to feel valid and relevant. Maybe when she puts it on she'll realize she doesn't like the result. She won't take away from you so I say let it be.

I think it's own choise of your step mom, and it wouldn't spoil anything in your wedding however.

Who doesn't wear black??

I think there is nothing wrong with her wearing a red dress, I agree with others posters that she can wear what she wants. However, the cut is very inappropriate for any guest...family or friend. Maybe buy her a scarf or a big necklace as a Mother's gift that she can wear the day of to cover up some of that skin????

Unless she wears a cami underneath, that dress is entirely inappropriate.

I'm in the camp of "let adults dress themselves", but I would put my foot down on this. It's a beautiful gown, yes, but more for maybe a NYE event out with my husband or a club type environment. I wouldn't want my moms chest in any pictures. If she insists on it, I would limit her in family photos.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be sexy. I would wear that dress myself if I could get the girls to stay in place, but would NEVER wear it to a wedding. It's pretty rude.