A Prenup? Yes or No?

We aren't doing one, we don't have enough assets at this point. I hate the whole idea of it, BUT, if we had enough assets I do think it's a smart decision. It's one of those times you kind of need to remove your emotions and make a business decision.

@ Barbara You bought across some really good points. I feel like when it comes to most legal documents ppl don't take the time out to read it or they read it and still sign it despite the fact that there's language in there that they don't understand. Def a good idea.

I think everyone should have one that states no one has to pay spousal support in case of divorce.

We aren't getting one but I think they are a good idea. I don't see it has planning for a divorce.

Why not write a will to protect your assets and have them go where they should? Not trying to be smart, just honestly wonder. Prenups seem negative in their function. A will would be more well-rounded, no?

We aren't fh said no. And said we won't be needing one.. I agree though with him. With Christ at the center of our relationship we will try daily for a healthy relationship.

I think we are going to, but only because my FH owns part of a business and if that business were ever to go under, he wants to protect me from them going after my money. It's not about it not working out for US, but about the possibility that one day in the future their business doesn't work out.

Nope, thank you.

We're not getting one because we don't have enough money/assets for one to be necessary. If we did I would want one, but due to religion FH is against it. Luckily its not an issue for us.

We don't have diddley squat so no prenup for us!

We didn't want to but did- ours families insisted on it. Purely because FH has family money and investments and I have land, in the case of divorce they effect to many other people.

While we both have plenty to protect we are choosing not to get a prenup. It's a decision we are both at peace with.

To all the ladies saying that divorce will never happen to you: just remember that the person you marry is not the person you divorce. Nobody goes into a marriage thinking they will get divorced and the worst thing you can do for your marriage is be that blind.

No Prenup.. 1. Its for people that think there marriage would end. 2. For people that love is a fad. 3. If they are richer then rich. 4. If they know there spouse isn't faithful, honest, trustworthy and isn't loyal. Marriage is a pledge to be taken seriously, those vows said to each other in front of families and friends are said because there is true love. If not why spend so much money on a wedding.. People should just do the court so years later get divorce. Or just live together so no one gets nothing.

We're doing it. We both have assets we want to protect in the off-chance of divorce, and FH's family also owns a business.

I don't see it as a sign of a lack of trust. It's a legal way to insure both parties' rights in case something happens. We had our lawyers negotiate with each other, trusting that each would represent us well. We were pretty much uninvolved in the process except for signing the papers.

Thank you Amy S. I was trying to think of some way to state how wrong Annie was in her assessment of why people have prenups but couldn't say it as elegantly and to the point as you did.

@Annie, people don't need to be richer than rich to need a prenup. My FH has money due to his company & I have an okay salary, but not one that could pay for our house my FH bought years before I met him, and definitely not one that could pay off any debt that his business would have acquired in order to go bankrupt if that ever happens. With a prenup, this means my money is safe and we can still have money to start working our way back up again. Plus it means they can't take our house.

We seriously thought about getting one because FH's sister went through a NASTY divorce, and she strongly suggested it. But then we realized that right now we don't have any assets (we each have cars, but that's about it). Whatever happens after we get married will be "our" money.

I don't think prenups are a bad idea. I think it's people being smart. It just didn't apply to us in our current situation.

I was just thinking, that my cousin had a prenup,and she just got divorced and STILL got screwed out of everything - she's a lawyer and makes a ton more money than her ex.

We do. I have several properties, & a substantial pension/401k & savings. FH has a home & decided to go into practice with 3 other attorneys.