A Prenup? Yes or No?

We are not. The only way I could see ever doing that is if you had kids to protect their inheritance. But neither of us are in that position or have parents in that position.

@Tiffany M. - I never even considered parents with significant assets. That's a great point.

We're not getting one because we're both broke!! Ha ha! Even so, when FH and his last ex-gf broke it off, he let her keep all their shared possessions. He said he would do the same for me if we ever split, and I fully believe he would. I would be fair to him, though, and split things evenly.

We're not getting a pre-nup because we just don't believe in it for our relationship, but we do believe that there are people out there with some circumstances that do call for such agreements. This is something that should be between the couple...no one's opinion should make that decision for them.

We are not getting a pre-nup, but I'm not against it. I will say this though, my FSIL husband cornered her the night before her wedding and made her sign one (being the ditsy self she is she did it with no hesitation) his family is filthy rich and he is a trust fund baby. Come to find out a year later after she actually told my FFIL about it he read it and his family's lawyers wrote in there even if he dies and they are still together say there 70 years old she will not get a dime. She will never be taken care of. I agree that the money before they were married should be protected but all the money they make together after they are married is half and half. It is not right to be left high and dry if he passes away one day. So I also say, READ READ READ that pre-nup before you ever sign it. (they were together 8 years before they got married)

For those of you who don't have money yet: what happens with you make more than your FH and your marriage ends and his lawyers go after you for spousal support so he can continue his lifestyle? For those of you who say your FH isn't like that, he isn't now but he could be later!

We are not. But if you have alot to lose in a divorce if it were to happen i dont see a problem with them

I agree with Shamika.

We are not getting a prenup.

I'm with Ghandi "You cannot prepare for war and peace at the same time." I figure either you are jumping in, feet first and committing to this relationship, or you're not, in which case you shouldn't get married. But that's just me and a (I freely admit) totally-emotional-not-at-all-rational-take-on-prenups.

My out look on it is, 100% of marriages end in death or divorce. It is not uncommon to plan for death, why not plan for other possibilities too?

Absolutely!! FH has a couple of businesses & a family farm that were in existence before I came into the picture & where his adult children haven't exactly accepted me with open arms, I am insisting on one because I won't have anyone calling me a gold digger...

@mrslightfoot generally if you sign the document within a few weeks of the ceremony the document can be thrown out because it was signed under duress.

I signed a prenup and it mostly just made sure any inheritance we have stays with the person who inherited it. His family has a lot of assets and mine has a lot of priceless family heirlooms. Both of which would be sad if they got out of the family. It doesn't talk about spousal support or anything. It also says I will not inherit his families assets upon his death but that can be overridden with a simple will.

I think prenups are smart and necessary if one partner or both are entering marriage with A LOT of assets. Hardly anyone gets married planning to get a divorce yet half of married couples do get a divorce. We aren't signing a prenup because we don't have a lot of assets so it's not necessary in our case.

We aren't mostly because we are comfortable with the matrimonial regime where we live.

for all those who say that you have no assets now - a pre-nup can be much broader than that. you can also reflect future earnings, create different situations for adultery versus general marriage breakdown, etc.

Here in Ontario, there are several reasons that a prenup (or any contract) can be found to be invalid. Duress is one of them, you can't force your future spouse to sign something. Another thing that must be present is that both parties must have had independent legal advice (or waive their right to independent legal advice), meaning each has their own lawyer protecting their rights. One lawyer can't write the agreement to be completely one-sided, it would never stand.

I am absolutely getting one. I have assets, future assets, and children to protect.

I didn't go into my first marriage thinking it would end, but after 20 very good years and a few bad ones at the end, it did. I'm glad I protected myself.

We aren't doing one. Mainly because our biggest asset is our house which is both of ours. With that being said when we bought our house fh put the down payment 20% of the house price. We had the lawyer draw up a document that says if anything happens and we split fh is entitled to that portion of money back and the rest is split. I had no issues signing that. It's his money. However whatever we make together us ours

We were joking around saying our assets would be a macbook pro, ps3 and a nutribullet.

Yes. And everyone should get one. Even if you have nothing now, you will later. It protects both of you.

We aren't doing one as the only thing we currently own is the house, which we bought together. I agree with protecting assets you come into the marriage with, but I would never protect "future assets". I think anything FH or I gains while in our marriage should be open for discussion in the event of divorce. But that's what works for us, everyone's marriages and worldviews are different.

We aren't. Our assets and family assets are close to equal. We also come from families that have very amicable divorces. The Netherlands is community property regime unless there is a prenup, and it's automatically joint custody unless exceptional circumstances.