$300 YEAH Right!!!!

Rustic, I skipped a shower entirely. My first marriage, I had a small coed recipe shower/bachelorette. Everyone brought a dish, and the recipe for the dish, then we ate food and drank wine and just spent quality time together. It was awesome.

For my bachelorette this time, my friend who is a chef volunteered to cater as his wedding gift, and my neighbor offered to host. So I toddled down the hall where 20 girls ate delicious food, drank champagne, and played silly games. Then there was an after-party at my place where we played Karaoke Revolution. Perfect.

That should include a plane ticket! I've contributed $ to wedding showers when I'm in the wedding party. Not $300 smackers though and yes I think that is a lot too.

I think it is normal for BM's to contribute financially to a shower, however, $300 is CRAZY! And it is something that should be talked about / agreed a pon before its books! I was in a wedding and each BM (there were 9) contributed $120 to the shower. Which seemed like a lot, but it was a huge shower.

I would bring it up that she should have discussed this prior to booking! I think $100 is plenty!!

Love you Shannon. I was a caterer for many (arg....too many) years and our 'shower package' was a couple of appy platters to tide everyone over while before the bride arrived, rollup sandwiches or mini roll sandwiches, a couple of salads and a cake. In someone's house, usuallly 20ish people, some champagne, end of story.

The truth? NO ONE ON THIS PLANET WANTS TO GO TO A BRIDAL SHOWER. In many cases, not even the bride/brides, groom/grooms. I would send a gift to an absolute stranger if I didn't have to give up an afternoon to watch gifts being opened with games that involve double entendres about the wedding night. ("Oh! It's so big! Where am I going to put it!"

You know what I mean. But I'm old. My shower was held before Tequila was invented, and we had it in a pool hall.

Hi Ladies,

I just sent the MOH a text letting her know that I can not contribute financially but I will help decor, cook, games etc. I told her that I will get my stuff for the wedding (dress, shoes and hair) but that's it.

Celia, I detest showers. Hate, hate hate them. The games, the awkward chitchat, the way you have to sit around forever and ooh and aah over toasters.

I don't mind baby showers as much, since it's for outfitting a brand new human vs. loading up an adult with material goods.

I think $300 is incredibly excessive for a shower. She should have asked everyone what they were comfortable contributing. It's nice you're willing to help with your time decorating and things. If you can't afford to help pay for a shower then you can't afford it. I know I would have a hard time finding a spare $300 dollars on top of everything else to throw a shower for someone.

On a completely unrelated note I do like showers. I think they're fun and love going to them.

I think my entire shower probably cost around $300. Maybe $500 tops.

One thing I have learned (both from WW and having friends all over), is that what is normal and expected is totally different in different areas. I live in SW PA, bridal showers are usually an afternoon at a restaurant, non-alcoholic, bridesmaids and brides family usually throw it together. However, I have on BM from South Carolina and her (and her friends from home) all had showers in their mother's houses. Never in a restaurant.

Now I do not think BM's should have to put out a bunch of cash, but I think you should also consider what is normal in your area / circle of friends before accepting to be a BM. Again, I think $300 is a crazy amount, but I would expect to put out some money for a shower.

2800!!! That is almost more than I'm spending on my wedding. My bach party is going to be a night at the club with my best friend (she's the MOH and there are no BMs). My mom is throwing a cookout for my shower.

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Did the MOH respond to your text?

@MrsWilson- She was understanding. I took the ladies advice and told her that I would help decorate and set up everything.