1970s Etiquette book...

I have my grandmother's etiquette book about how to be the proper woman & it's ridiculous!

@Katie S. - the coffee thing was a HUGE deal for me too!! I absolutely forgot about it until my Italian grandma was like oh well are you serving tea when the coffee is served? Uhhhhhhh - totally forgot, needless to say it was added so no one freaked!

My mom is absolutely confounded by the fact that you can't get handmade, designed-just-for-you bridesmaids dresses for $100. She keeps insisting that it was only $100 per girl for her wedding, so it will only be $100 now...

Actually, she thinks any price difference from when she got married (35 years ago) to now, it's a "scam" and I'm being overcharged. I have tried to explain inflation lol.

Absolutely everything I do is wrong to my FMIL. She's mostly mad that my parents can't afford to pay for the whole thing so it will cost her son money. We've already moved the date to make her happy, but she's calling me stuck up for wanting a wedding in Newport, RI.. where she lives all summer long on her big beautiful boat. SMH

@julie g your post made me so happy! My mother has been comparing everything in my wedding to what she did for her wedding in the 70s. When she isn't doing that, she says, "well, your brother didn't do it that way." She thought that I would spend my wedding day alone because my bridesmaids would stop by quickly to get their hair and makeup done then leave.... She also didn't think that she needed to be in pictures with me. She said that she would be too busy getting ready and entertaining guests to see me before my wedding. I could go on. Lol

My mom thought we would be putting the BB&B registry cards in our invites. Granted, everyone in my area does this, but I had to explain it's something that is changing. Still not sure if I'm going to win that battle.

Oh, my parents are also inviting more people to our wedding than we are. Fun. So more than 75% of the guests are family/from my parent's guest list. I get that they're paying a good chunk, but this still upsets me.

My mom was really disappointed we didn't ask my granddad (her dad) to officiate. He's a real officiant, but we don't want a religious ceremony. She's on her third marriage and he officiated the first two.

She also is confused as to why we're not getting married at a church, since it's "free" according to her. I told her it's not free, especially if you're not a member. My family doesn't know we're not religious but I'm sure it'll come up at some point in the wedding planning.