1970s Etiquette book...

@Polly my grandmother said the same thing! "Well I guess we'll just get the hotel for only one night if we aren't invited to all the festivities" ummm okay.

Also my aunt sounded miffed we weren't having a post wedding brunch. But she only talked to my mom and didn't mention anything to me so who cares.

Omg I thought my wedding was pretty drama free but apparently I was wrong!

@MKEBride, are we long-lost cousins? My grandma was also appalled when I told her I wasn't wearing a veil..but had no problems when I told her I was not going to get married in the Catholic church.

Kooky grandmas.

Omg! MY FMIL gave me the EXACT same book!!! So funny.

My mom seems to think that we need to invite everyone who knew me when I was a baby. Apparently I have an uncle I have never met who HAS to be invited.

Also, my mom is upset that she doesn't get a special dance but my dad and FH's mom do.

My nana was sitting in horrified silence when I told her we weren't getting married in a Catholic Church (both FH and I aren't religious) and she also said, "you HAVE to have coffee at the wedding. It's the Italian thing to do." I agree I love coffee at dessert but it's an extra expense we don't want.

My grandma was horrified that I didn't hand write calligraphy on the invites.

But, like everything, they got over it.

Fun to look back in time.

One thing to remember...those 1970's prices also brought a time when minimum wage was around $1.25 an hour and people making a "good" income made less than $1000 a month (before taxes) so it is all relative. ;-)

Here is a fun site to calculate the difference. http://www.in2013dollars.com/1970-dollars-in-2016

My mom was freaking out about us getting married in church. Neither of us actively practice our religion (I'm orthodox and he's catholic) and religion plays no part in our everyday lives.

She was so excited we finally got engaged she's let that go, but she keeps telling me to make sure to tell our officiant to mention God at some point lol I'm hoping she'll be too overcome with emotions and excitement the day of she won't notice when that doesn't happen.

My mom and FMIL are both suprised I won't be doing a bridal toss, money dance and garter toss. They both believe that it's traditional and 99% of the weddings they have both been to have had all three. I have explained to both of them that they are old traditions that make people really awkward now and they both understand. I'm tired of explaining why's though

My mother thinks I am antisocial because we are not having a bridal party. She even gave me a list of potential bridesmaids.

@AMV lol, that's too funny! It's so strange how she is so bent out of shape over it. She also was totally cool with and supportive of us living together after we got engaged (my mom, not so much).

This is a little different, but...my mother seems shocked that we aren't asking her to do anything. When my siblings got married, it was family-vendor/friendor central--we made the cakes, self-catered, arranged bouquets, did hair and makeup, decorated everything. My FH and I made the decision early on that we weren't doing that, and my mother seems a little...out of her element, I guess. I told her we were hiring a caterer and she seemed simultaneously relieved and confused.

My mother is insisting we have those Jordan almonds as favors since those are tradition. Nope no thanks.

@futureMrsV.... I didn't know if it was a sign or what lol. Everyone has been pretty fair about their requests so I can't complain but I'm sure as I get closer more "suggestions" will come.

@brittany I'm not doing the bridal/garter toss either. So awkward! & I never heard of the money dance until lurking through these posts so that's a no.

My mom is annoyed that we are doing a seating chart. We are inviting 125 people and she thinks we should just have reserved tables for the immediate family and let everyone else sit where ever. Every time it comes up I tell her we are doing a seating chart, period.

My mom wants me to invite all of my aunts, uncles, and cousins. She kept telling me that they will all expect it and that I need to consider them. At first I conceded and compromised with no kids but then she started trying to advocate for certain kids so FH and I sat down and went over numbers and I told her we're going back to the original guest list of immediate family and very close friends. When she started saying how I need to invite everyone, I, very much the smart ass, asked her if she would be forking over the money to pay for all of these extra people. It shut her up and I haven't heard a word about inviting them all since.

@bobbi I had the same issue!

My mom and dad had their reception in their friend's basement and the last wedding we had in the family was 15 years ago. My dad is a little better because he watches wedding shows with me, so he kinda knows what things will cost. My mom is clueless

My mom made cake for my sister's favours 25 years ago and she insists on doing it for mine. My sister had 50 people at her wedding I'm praying for 275. Plus she's not as young as she used to be, and she no longer has her big kitchen. She's kinda dropped it for now but I have a strong feeling it is coming back up.

The last thing she brought up was that all 8 of my nieces and nephews should play a role in the wedding. That one her and my FMIL have decided to unite and bond over. Both of them got a ya not happening.

My mom hates that we are doing a first look.

My grandmother has been pitching a fit about not being the "guest of honor" because she is the only living grandparent on both sides! I told her its not happening, Im not making a spectacle of you when FH grandmother just passed away and your still here. So then she decided she should be announced and on the programs since she "started all this" i told her we were not announcing anyone other then the bridal party and she threw her hands in the air. Then she wanted to be there while the girls and I get ready that morning, I told her no its just the bridal party and the mothers, well she was appalled at that. Then she wanted to go tux shopping with the guys because my dad (her son) was going and she thought that meant she was entitled to be there, again I said no! I caved and invited her dress shopping and caught her taking a picture of me in my dress, i looked at her and said "DONT POST THAT ON FB!" She looked at me shocked and asked why not?!?!? I later found out she sent the picture to my aunt. Shes been hell!!!! Were not close even tho she lately has tried to force herself down my throat.

My FMIL is appalled at us having a open bar. Feels like we are "inviting folks to get drunk". I told her without a open bar, my friends would just sneak in flasks and get drunk anyway. She didn't like that comment lol.

My mom is also "concerned" that I'm not getting married in a church. But I told her we were taking premarital counseling through our church and it made everything okay lol.