11 days till the wedding and my FH's father died on friday...

I can relate. My FHs father died on Saturday. If you wanna talk, PM me. Hang in there.

So sorry for your loss ... give it some time before you make any real decisions about your wedding and talk with your parents and his mom to see what they think too. But for right now just focus on being there for your FH and his family and deal with the wedding stuff later.

:-( I'm sorry to hear that, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers!

His parents have been divorced for over 10 years and she's not really in the picture. its just my fh and his 19 year old brother. fh says he wants to go ahead with the wedding because his dad would of wanted it but it just feels weird now. i dont know if i feel right partying it up exactly a week after my father in laws funeral....this was def. unexpected and soo sad, pops was only 59.

I say yes go ahead...at times of sadness sometimes it is best to rejoice in some way... right before Todd's sister got married their grandfather passed away... two days later she got married. It was sort of an escape for all of us... although we were severly saddened by our loss we had time to be happy and relax... I am sorry for his loss. I lost my dad when I was 15... God bless him

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no advice because I don't know what I would do in that situation, but I'm sure you will find the right decision for your family. Good luck.

I would go ahead with the wedding if that is what your FH wants. I would also maybe do a tribute to his dad during the ceremony or at the reception. In a way to say you are still with us even though you have moved on to a better place.

My mother passed away before I met my FH and we are doing a tribute to her because she cannot be there for this day.

I am sorry for your loss and you and your FH will be in my prays.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Honestly, I would go ahead with the wedding, especially if you think that's what FIL would have wanted. I've been through so much death in my life, and the fact of the matter is that it's those left behind who are sad. Not the one who died. DS knows that if something ever happened to me, I would want him to find someone else and what not. I just want everyone to be happy and LIVE their life, and not be hung up on death.

Wow, I'm sorry! **hugs!**

I'm so sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you and FS family. If FS wants to go ahead with the wedding, maybe you should. It would be a nice thing to do some kind of tribute to his father though. Take a couple days before you decide. I know it's all happening fast.

I am so sorry to hear this. Yall are in my thoughts and prayers!

Thanks for all the love and support

I'm sorry to hear your loss. You have to do not only what feels right for you all but what the loved one would have wanted.

That's so sad! My condolences. Keep us posted on what you decide to do.

I'm so sorry for your loss. and like stated above if Fh wants to go ahead with the wedding, then do it. see if it's not to late to add something special for his dad in the wedding. like my grandfather died before i met FH and he was such a big part of my life that i'm doing something special for him at my ceremony to remember him by. let us know what you guys decide on.

I, too, am very sorry for your loss.

Truly, it is hard to give advice like this, as I am not you, I do not know how you or for FH react. So I will simply tell you what I would do. I would go ahead with the wedding and do something to honor his father.

My father passed away when I was on the National Board of an organization. I traveled a lot at that time. I took a week off from his death through the memorial service, and then had to get back out there. While it was hard, it was also helpful.

Hang in there and know that we are all here for you.

My favourite Grandfather died this morning, so I know how you feel since FH and I are having our civil ceremony on Sept 17th, a day before your wedding. In Venezuelan tradition, the bride and groom have a civil ceremony first, then prepare for a Catholic ceremony months later. The civil ceremony is supposed to be only our closest family and friends... so his presence will be sorely missed during our ceremony.

I asked my mom and dad to get a picture of him where he's smiling and I want to have a table with a candle and a single white rose and figurine that has to do with fishing (he loved fishing and taught me how to when I was 12) next to his picture for our civil ceremony. Perhaps, ask your FH if we would also like to do something like that? So he's included and watching over you on your day, even if only in Spirit.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and if fh wants to go ahead with it, maybe it would be best for everyone to have a reason to smile. I don't know how long these take to make or where youd get them, but i remember on one of the wedding programs i saw, her fiance's dad and brother had passed so she got him cufflinks with their pictures in each one. maybe you could get him ones with his dads initials carved in it or do something like that to incorperate his dad if you dont want the focas to totally be like another memorial service, it would just be something personal. sorry, i guess i should be offering better advice but i just wanted to share that in case you were trying to think of other options of how to have him there on that day watching over you guys - so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for you loss. When the time is right for both of you (and it may be in 11 days time), it would be a beautiful tribute to do something special to remember his dad maybe keep a chair for him at the head table, or pictures of him, or a special flower, or light a candle

((((HUGS))))

I think marrying your FH & joining his family would be a very nice way to remember FFIL.