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Dedicated June 2019

11 days b4 i do and had to let go a bridesmaid

Lovec, on May 21, 2019 at 1:26 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 53

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So b4 the etiquette police come for me I want to say I really don’t care about what a bridesmaids only requirement is to buy the dress and show up!
I let ALL my bridesmaids know 10 months ago the requirements of this title! Pay for dress, makeup and hair! Everyone was ok! I pick a dress that was $140 and had to do a little alterations so all together $170! I got dress from azazie so they can make sure they get the right sizes! Long story short bridesmaid didn’t try on not one dress and order her dress 3 sizes to small! Which she never told me it was too little🙄 When alterations started she was told it will be way more because she have to take it out 8 inches she will cost $150! Now 11 days b4 the wedding she saying she not getting her hair or makeup done and will be doing them herself!
So I told her to step down cause it’s her fault and I shouldn’t have to pay for the expense when she knew the price from the beginning and agreed to them! But I do feel bad for our relationship after have any had to deal with this so close to the wedding?

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LB · on May 21, 2019 at 1:36 PM
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So you required hair and makeup but then are making the BMs pay for it? That's where you messed up. Anything required outside of the dress should be provided by the bride (ex, hair and makeup or if you want a certain shoe like a cowboy boot).
It's pretty ridiculous to end a friendship (because kicking someone out of your wedding is ending a friendship) over hair and makeup, but since you don't care (according to your first sentence) all the best....
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Dedicated June 2019
Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 1:39 PM
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Thanks and you still choose to make that comment! She agreed to it (expenses) but I’m in the wrong!
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on May 21, 2019 at 1:41 PM
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I don’t know anyone who would kick a bridesmaid out over hair and makeup so no I haven’t ever been in this situation. Are you prepared to no longer be friends with her? That’s what I would expect to happen here.
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Master June 2019
Danielle · on May 21, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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Agree with PP...I would never let my wedding come above my friendship.
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Anna · on May 21, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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If she agreed to it and backed out last minute..shame on her. Also, who doesn’t know their size? Come on! She clearly didn’t take her role seriously IMO
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Lauren · on May 21, 2019 at 1:46 PM
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Buying a dress 3 sizes too small is where it went wrong! Who does that?! It was her one responsibility. If she was okay paying twice for the dress and not for hair and make-up that is her choice not to participate in your day. If she bought a dress in her size she would probably have been able to afford hair and make-up.
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Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 1:47 PM
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Thank you it all come from her ordering the wrong size dress!
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MrsD · on May 21, 2019 at 1:47 PM
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If it were me, I just would have covered her cost of hair and makeup or just let her do it herself. That seems like a really big response for her making a mistake, probably not on purpose. I assume the friendship is over after that.
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CDickman · on May 21, 2019 at 1:48 PM
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You may have ruined your relationship. Things in life come up maybe she thought she could pay for it and now can not. SO you did what you felt you had to do. Unfortunately that can come at a risk.
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Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 1:48 PM
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And I do too but when someone disregard my special day with no effort upsets me! So she clearly don’t value me as well! Thanks for the wishes tho
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Dedicated June 2019
Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 1:49 PM
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Exactly what I said
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Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 1:50 PM
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Yea I know but hopefully we can get pass this but right now we are both hurt
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Mrs. C · on May 21, 2019 at 1:54 PM
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NOPE nope nope. That's not how it works with hair and makeup. If you wanted it REQUIRED then you need to foot the bill. That's just proper wedding etiquette. Yes she probably was in the wrong on the buying the dress 3 sizes too small. But still to let her go over that? That is something you both will regret. I wouldn't let it ruin your friendship like that.
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Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 1:56 PM
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She probably did...
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Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 1:59 PM
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I can’t leave room for debate over this cause if she come to my wedding looking different then I should feel happy that she came No no no! This is my only wedding and I want what I want! She agreed to pay for it so now she can’t its ok! Nope nope nope
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CDickman · on May 21, 2019 at 1:59 PM
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But you are hurt because she made a mistake and could not pay to get her hair and make up done. She is hurt cause she feels that her hair and make up is more important then friendship.
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Mandi · on May 21, 2019 at 2:02 PM
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This. Absolutely this.
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Lovec · on May 21, 2019 at 2:03 PM
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A mistake that could’ve been avoided months ago have she told me that he dress was way too little but to wait two weeks b4 and tell me what u can’t do that hurts!
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Formerbride · on May 21, 2019 at 2:44 PM
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Maybe she ordered her dress 3 sizes too small because she was hoping to lose weight and it didn't work out. Obviously, I don't know if that's the case, but I know a lot of women do things like that, even with a bridal gown. I can understand why you would be frustrated that she messed up her dress order, but from the sounds of it, she ate the cost. At this point, I'd be surprised if she attends the wedding as a guest.
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