Yes, you DO need a planner - and you need Kris!
I have accidentally written an entire novel here, so here's the short version: work with Wildwood! Kris is extremely friendly and competent. And on the actual day of my wedding, she handled everything so expertly that neither me nor any guest had to worry about a thing.
Now here's the long version (including why I changed my mind and decided that, for pretty much all weddings, you DO need a planner!):
PART 1: REVIEW OF WILDWOOD: Kris was an absolute dream to work with. I hired Wildwood for "day of" event planning and assumed that I wouldn't hear from her at all until four or six weeks out. WRONG! Kris was there for me throughout the process to recommend vendors, answer questions, and help me manage details. (Of course, read the package descriptions carefully and select the one that meets your needs.) Kris was so patient with my procrastination, my wishy-washiness, and my long-winded emails. I am an anxious and sensitive person; I have trouble advocating for myself and feel guilty requesting things (even when I am a paying client). Yet working with Kris was honestly easy. She was endlessly warm, patient, and reassuring.
As an example, I made a vendor change just a couple weeks before my wedding. With this change, we were going to need someone to pick something up in the middle of the wedding. Despite how lovely Kris had been, I was nervous to throw this curveball. But she didn't tell me it was impossible, or act like it was an inconvenience, or even say "That's a big change, I'll see what I can do." Instead, her exact words were, "This is GREAT news!!" And just like that, she handled it.
But if that's not enough, here's what else you need to know: my wedding day was perfect and I was able to entirely, fully immerse myself with my husband and guests without worrying about anything. Really!!! Kris was completely on top of everything with my vendors, my set-up, my timeline, my teardown, and making any adjustments needed along the way. Instead of feeling the stress of hosting a party, I felt like I was simply a VIP guest at a party where every single detail was somehow exactly how I wanted it. And at the end of the night? I wasn't packing up props or hovering to make sure my caterer took proper care of glassware-- I got to leave with my guests and continue the fun! I wish I had more adequate words to explain how smoothly the wedding went-- because of Kris.
PART 2: DO YOU REALLY NEED A PLANNER? In case you are still on the fence about hiring a planner, I'm going to give a little background info on myself and why I now believe that YES, you do.
I did not plan on hiring a wedding planner. Organization, checklists, details, timelines, communication-- these are literally parts of my job! I wondered why I would pay someone to do something I could do myself.
But then my venue required a planner. I toyed with the idea of hiring the absolute cheapest person I could find, just to check their box. I ultimately decided that a bad planner could actually ruin my wedding, so I "gave in" and began searching for a good planner at a reasonable, industry-standard rate. At this point, I still didn't think it would be worth the cost.
Here's what I finally realized (AFTER signing on with Kris!). I am an expert on planning in. my. field. If anyone else told me they could step in and do my job just because they're good at planning, I'd be offended and they would be wrong. And it's the same thing in the wedding industry. I may have the skills, but I don't have experience applying them in this context. I don't have the expertise you gain from doing something over and over again. I haven't learned from my mistakes. That's what you're paying for-- not only skills, but also knowledge and experience with weddings. (Plus, as mentioned before and will be mentioned again, the value of a planner on the actual day is ENORMOUS and cannot be overstated.)
This is going to sound like a cliche, but as soon as I spoke with Kris I felt a huge wave of relief. Despite everything I said in the previous paragraphs, wedding planning had become very stressful. There were endless decisions to make. Did you start having wedding nightmares yet? You know, where it's your wedding day and you realize you didn't order a cake? Or it's the middle of your ceremony and you realize you forgot to pick up florals? Having Kris ensures those wedding nightmares could never become a reality. She's got your back!
Another great asset of working with Kris was the SUPER detailed planning checklist I received. It included some things I wouldn't have thought of (like whose car does the extra alcohol go in at the end of the night?). Even more importantly, the recommended deadlines for each item helped me prioritize (even though I had already missed many deadlines since I signed with Wildwood only a few months out from my wedding-- it was still a hugely helpful tool!).
Do you still need more reasons? No vendors said this outright to me (except my venue requirement), but I got the sense that vendors prefer to work with planners. This makes sense; in my job, I would also prefer to work with people who have been around the block a time or two or two hundred.
Finally, refer back to the first part of the review. On your wedding day, you don't want to be worrying about details. And you don't want your best friend, mom, or bridal party worrying either. You want a friendly, professional expert-- and that's Kris at Wildwood.