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Tom Ham’s Lighthouse is a historic wedding venue located in San Diego, California. Weddings here feature panoramic views of San Diego Bay and the city skyline. Nestled on Harbor Island just five minutes from San Diego International Airport, the venue is both picturesque and convenient for guests traveling to the wedding.

Facilities and Capacity

The venue’s ceremony site is situated on the waterfront with the San Diego skyline as the background. The calming blue tones of the ocean and the property’s vibrant lawn serve as wedding decor. Couples can stand under the arbor sculpted by artist Christopher Puzio to recite their vows. The ceremony space can accommodate up to 230 guests, who can retire to the adjacent reception areas easily after the ceremony. The California Room has large floor-to-ceiling windows and opens onto a private patio offering sweeping views of the bay. This function room can comfortably seat up to 230 guests. Intimate weddings of less than 80 attendees can be held in the Harbor View Room, which, like the California Room, features its own outdoor deck.

Services Offered

Tom Ham’s Lighthouse hosts a variety of wedding events apart from ceremonies and receptions, including engagement parties, wedding showers, and rehearsal dinners. Their master culinary team can aid couples in selecting the catering style and menu that is right for their event. The venue also covers setup and cleanup for the convenience of the newlyweds.

Cuisine

The venue specializes in fresh, creative seafood fare, though they offer an array of other dishes for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions. Catering styles available include cocktail service, hors d’oeuvres, buffets, and plated meals. Both function rooms feature a full bar, and couples can choose their bar service.

History

Tom Ham was a UCLA graduate and history-lover who moved to San Diego in 1955. He purchased a property on Harbor Island to build a restaurant and sought to incorporate the space’s existing beacon. Tom decided to add a fog bell and make the United States Coast Guard Beacon #9 a main element of the restaurant. Today, the restaurant is run by his daughter, Suzie, and her sons.

FAQ

Do you have a site fee for wedding receptions at your venue?

Yes

What is the starting site fee for wedding receptions during peak season?

$1,000

What is the starting site fee for wedding receptions during off-peak season?

$500

Do you have a site fee for wedding ceremonies at your venue?

Yes

What is the starting site fee for wedding ceremonies during peak season?

$1,000

What is the starting site fee for wedding ceremonies during off-peak season?

$500

Which of the following are included in starting site fee?

Chairs
China
Clean Up
Flatware
Glassware
Linens
Parking
Set Up
Tables

Which of the following are included in the cost of wedding catering?

Cake Cutting
Server(s)

What is the starting price per person for bar service?

$15

Which of the following are included in the starting price for bar service?

Bartender(s)
Champagne Toast
House Wine
Signature Drink

How many event spaces or rooms does your venue offer?

3

Describe your venue:

Banquet Hall
Restaurant
Waterfront

What kind of settings are available?

Indoor
Uncovered Outdoor

Which of the following wedding events does your venue service?

Ceremony
Reception
Bridal Shower
Engagement Party
Rehearsal Dinner

What event services do you offer?

Bar Services
Catering Services
Outside Vendors

What catering services do you offer?

Buffet
Cocktail Reception
Hors d'oeuvres
Plated
Server(s)
Tastings

What bar services do you provide?

Bartender(s)
Cash Bar
Champagne Toast
House Beer
House Liquor
House Wine
Liquor License
Open Bar
Premium Liquor
Signature Drink
Specialty Beer

What event items are available?

Aisle Runners
Altar/Arch
Chairs
Dance Floor
Tables

What food and beverage items are available?

Barware
China
Flatware
Glassware
Linens

What transportation and access is available?

Parking
Wheelchair Access

What months are included in your peak season?

May
June
July
August
September
October
November
December

What months are included in your off-peak season?

January
February
March
April
November

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Reviews of Tom Ham's Lighthouse

Weddingwire
4.6/5 67 reviews
Google
4.5/5 4294 reviews
Tanya
Tanya Sent on 10/22/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Beautiful wedding on the water at Tom Hams

We chose Tom Hams because we love San Diego, and have many memories there as a couple. We live 2 hours away in the IE and planned everything over email with Tom Hams. Their communication was exceptional, they always responded quickly. We went to the venue twice prior for food tasting and walk through. The food was delicious, all our guest complemented how good it was. Since this venue is primarily a restaurant the food preparation is superior. It was nice being on the water. I would like to thank their coordinator Laugan for all her help! We will cherish our wedding memories forever, thank you Tom Hams!
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Crisy Sent on 08/15/2022
5 out of 5 rating

Beautiful evening wedding at Tom Hams

From the start of the process the staff at Tom Hams were a pleasure to work with. Laugan and Lisa were prompt with their responses to our questions and requests & helped make a wedding and reception that we planned in 3 months a success. You just can’t beat the location of Tom Ham’s. Having downtown and the bay as the back drop of our ceremony and reception made for the perfect night for us and our guests. Beth, along with the other staff made sure we were taken care of serving us our drinks, food, and cake for our reception. Our guests kept telling us in the couple weeks that have passed since our wedding how perfect the location was, how much they enjoyed the food, and how smoothly the evening went. We would highly recommend Tom Ham’s as a place to hold your wedding.
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Tammy Sent on 10/16/2021
5 out of 5 rating

Amazing venue!

I am still on cloud 9 after having my wedding here. Planning a wedding in the midst of a pandemic was not fun by any means and it was difficult to have fun. But, Courtney was absolutely amazing. She truly turned our experience around. The day was absolutely flawless. That view is something I will dream about for the rest of my life. Every penny is extremely worth it here. The food was delicious and plentiful through the buffet. Beth and our bartenders had amazing hospitality. People treated my husband and I like king and queen when we were getting wine service during our seated dinner. They made sure we had all appetizers, cake and buffet. If i had to do it all over again, I would pick Tom Ham's again and again!! You won't regret it with that view and amazing balcony.
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Charmaine Sent on 06/14/2021
5 out of 5 rating

Absolutely Stunning view and delicious foods

I highly recommend Tom Ham's Lighthouse for any events! The view is absolutely stunning during the day and especially in the evening! The food was delicious, from their appetizers, main entrees and their chef's dessert special of the week or month? They also have the best deals for big events - the quality of foods, space and breath taking view!

Had my wedding here back in April when restrictions for COVID were still heavily limiting us from having huge parties. However, Sharon and her team made it happen for us!

Sharon was ALWAYS, I mean ALWAYS available for us to speak to regarding every detail, changes or any random question that a bride must have to make sure our wedding will happen accordingly. She sure took very good care of us even with her busy schedule! Sharon was such a doll!!! Very sweet, approachable and professional!

Absolutely 100% recommend Tom Ham's Lighthouse and Sharon's team! Thank you for accommodating our wild and crazy family and friends
Katie
Katie Sent on 03/28/2021
5 out of 5 rating

Perfect Venue

This was the perfect waterfront wedding venue for us, we love the food and beautiful views there. When the pandemic started we thought we were going to have to postpone. Tom Ham's Lighthouse had thought of everything and we only had to make a few logistical changes like a smaller guest list, outdoor reception, and no dancing. Our wedding actually turned out to be even better than I imagined. Perla was so organized, professional, and helpful throughout the whole process. We were able to have our reception outdoors and our guests absolutely loved the view and the food. The wedding ran perfectly and all of the staff was so kind and professional. I highly recommend Tom Ham's Lighthouse for the most beautiful wedding day!
Marissa
Marissa Sent on 09/08/2020
5 out of 5 rating

Best wedding venue

Planning a wedding during COVID is no easy feat but you CAN have the wedding of your dreams with vendors like Tom Ham's. Pre-Covid, TH was always my dream wedding venue. We snagged our date after touring the venue. You cannot beat the location and view. Wow, I am now so glad I chose TH. With all of the regulations put in place there was a time I was worried we would have to postpone or cancel entirely. TH stepped up to the plate and was as cautiously optimistic as I wise that we could pull off a safe and beautiful wedding! Perla is truly incredible! From the beginning, she was organized and detail oriented. We were able to truly have the wedding of our dreams because Perla and TH were able to work with us to create it. Due to COVID, we had a smaller guest list and the biggest change we made was having our reception on the ceremony site. TH did a beautiful job, guests were seated at their reception tables upon arrival. Then after the ceremony, they set up a king's table under the arch. We were able to decorate the outdoor space with papel picado and string lights. We also set up AMOR marquee letters. The wedding was absolutely stunning and I think it was because we were able to have it all on the ceremony site!

Perla was a wonderful coordinator! She made my dream wedding happen safely for us and our guests. Thank you!!
Stevie
Stevie Sent on 08/13/2020
5 out of 5 rating

Tom Ham's staff is nothing sort of AMAZING!

Two days before our scheduled wedding, our venue called and canceled. Our awesome photographer (Katherine Beth Photography) mentioned them, we reached out right away, and with 24hr to spare, we had a venue for our intimate ceremony and lunch. They really felt for us and were able to work some magic around another event that day just to help us out (shoutout to the coordinator, Perla)! By the time we got there, our story had circulated the staff and they could not have been more accommodating. One of the owners (Andy) stepped right in there, didn't even realize who he was at the time. Tom Ham's offer such gorgeous views, great food, and amazing service! They helped make our day SO special and for that, we are forever grateful. If you are looking for a San Diego venue, don't leave this place off the list!
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Julie Sent on 03/28/2020
5 out of 5 rating

Amazing venue, you will love it!

We are so happy we chose this venue. They have a beautiful ceremony site, large patio and reception room, all on the waterfront with a million-dollar view of the harbor and downtown skyline. As a top-notch restaurant (regular dining is upstairs and totally separate from the wedding venue) , the food is delicious and the serving staff and bartenders are very professional. Linens, tables and chairs are all included so you don't have to worry about those details. Brooke and Perla provide exceptionally professional and responsive service, so you can be confident through the whole process that your wedding will be wonderful.
Jahara
Jahara Sent on 03/03/2020
5 out of 5 rating

The perfect San Diego Wedding Venue

We had our wedding last Sunday and loved everything about Tom Ham’s - the location, the delicious food, the affordable price, and the staff! Perla (one of the event coordinators) did such an amazing job assisting us and answered all of our questions promptly - thank you so much!! We are so happy that we chose Tom Ham’s Lighthouse!
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Danielle Sent on 02/04/2020
5 out of 5 rating

Choose this venue!

Seriously this venue is beautiful! It can be a little pricey, but worth it! The staff are so wonderful and helpful! The food was amazing. Buffet was worth it! People kept coming up to us and telling us this was the most beautiful wedding they have ever been too. Also you cant beat that San Diego Sky line view during the sunset!
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Tom Ham's Lighthouse frequently asked questions

Tom Ham's Lighthouse includes the following items and services for wedding events in its starting site fee:
  • Chairs
  • China
  • Clean Up
  • Flatware
  • Glassware
  • Linens
  • Parking
  • Set Up
  • Tables
Tom Ham's Lighthouse includes the following items and services in its wedding catering costs:
  • Cake Cutting
  • Server(s)
The bar service starting price at Tom Ham's Lighthouse includes:
  • Bartender(s)
  • Champagne Toast
  • House Wine
  • Signature Drink
The space offered by Tom Ham's Lighthouse for wedding events is known for:
  • Banquet Hall
  • Restaurant
  • Waterfront
Tom Ham's Lighthouse offers the following indoor/outdoor options for weddings:
  • Indoor
  • Uncovered Outdoor
Tom Ham's Lighthouse offers the following types of wedding events:
  • Ceremony
  • Reception
  • Bridal Shower
  • Engagement Party
  • Rehearsal Dinner
Tom Ham's Lighthouse offers the following services for wedding events:
  • Bar Services
  • Catering Services
  • Outside Vendors
Tom Ham's Lighthouse offers the following furniture and decor items for weddings:
  • Aisle Runners
  • Altar/Arch
  • Chairs
  • Dance Floor
  • Tables
Tom Ham's Lighthouse is recommended by 92% of couples who have used their services. Their overall rating is 4.6 out of 5 with the following breakdown: 4.7 in quality of service, 4.6 in average response time, 4.6 in professionalism, 4.6 in value and 4.5 in flexibility.
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