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I am inspired and deeply moved by the beautiful process of helping two hearts honor their love and commitment to each other through ceremony -- talking to the couple about their relationship, facilitating the writing of the ceremony, discussing an altar or symbols they'd want to include, offering assistance in choreographing how the ceremony unfolds and is staged, and truly and fully being there for them on their special day.

I bring my full, heartfelt, accepting, and attentive presence to working with you both, whether you are secular, faith-based, interfaith, intercultural, opposite or same-sex, traditional or unconventional, grand or informal, ritually-infused or casually minimal. I am available to help collaborate as much or as little is needed depending on how far along your vision is when you contact me. I am simply here to help make it as easy as possible for you.

I draw on my education (BA in Cultural Anthropology, MA in Clinical Psychology), my experience as a marriage and family therapist, my joy of working with couples, and my love of poetry, symbols, and ritual.

Please call me for a free consultation, I look forward to hearing about your special relationship and how to honor it with a ceremony you both will love.

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Reviews of Clay Kyle

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Tony Sent on 06/07/2026
5 out of 5 rating

Clay Made Our Ceremony Feel Completely “Us”

Clay was wonderful to work with from start to finish. From our very first conversations, he took the time to learn about our story, our relationship, and what we wanted our ceremony to feel like. He helped us create a ceremony that felt deeply personal, meaningful, and tailored to us as a couple.

We had an intimate wedding and wanted the ceremony to reflect several important themes in our relationship. Throughout the entire process, Clay was patient, thoughtful, and genuinely invested in helping us find the right tone and content. He checked in with us regularly, made sure we felt comfortable every step of the way, and was always available to answer questions and offer guidance.

On the day of the wedding, Clay arrived promptly, fully prepared, and helped everything run smoothly. We truly couldn’t have asked for a better experience.

What really set Clay apart was the way he kept the focus on us as a couple. Rather than making himself the center of attention, he created a ceremony that felt authentic, heartfelt, and centered on our story. It was clear in every interaction that he truly cares about the couples he works with.

We’re so grateful to have had Clay officiate our wedding and would wholeheartedly recommend him to anyone looking for an experienced, warm, thoughtful, and caring officiant.
Melissa
Melissa Sent on 06/06/2026
5 out of 5 rating

Highly recommend Clay

Clay officiated our wedding at Paradise Ridge, and he did an incredible job! He helped create a fun, sweet, and lighthearted ceremony for us. He took the time to meet with us a few time before the wedding day to help us write the ceremony script and ensure the ceremony really fit us and our personalities. He came to our rehearsal and turned in our marriage license for us so we didn't have to worry about it. I would highly recommend Clay to officiate your wedding!
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Mina Sent on 11/09/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Incredible Wedding Officiant

Clay was an excellent wedding officiant who crafted a beautiful ceremony with minimal effort on our end. He wove in our personal stories and vows seamlessly and with ease and we couldn’t have been happier with how it turned out. Highly recommend Clay- thanks for all you did to make our special day even more special!
Ashley
Ashley Sent on 11/03/2025
5 out of 5 rating

An Unforgettable Ceremony!!!

We couldn’t have asked for a better officiant than Clay. From start to finish, he was professional, organized, and made sure to regularly touch base with us every step of the way making the entire experience stress-free and enjoyable. Clay was incredibly accommodating with our last-minute changes and shared our personal story with such warmth and heartfelt emotion.

One of the most special touches was how he helped us create custom vows that perfectly reflected our relationship and personalities. He guided us through the process with care, ensuring every word felt authentic and meaningful.

Our handfasting ceremony was also beautifully planned and executed-thoughtful, symbolic, and seamlessly organized. Clay’s attention to detail and calm presence made the moment unforgettable, and our guests are still talking about how unique and heartfelt it was.

We’re so grateful for Clay’s professionalism, warmth, and dedication to making our ceremony everything we dreamed it would be. We can’t recommend him highly enough to any couple looking for a truly personal and memorable wedding experience.
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Michelle Sent on 10/09/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Professional Execution of Custom Ceremony

Clay was wonderful to work with. We had a very long, detailed, specific ceremony that Clay was able to handle wonderfully. We included multiple unity ceremonies from Russian cultural weddings and had live interpretation. All of which Clay was able to perform smoothly and elegantly.

Clay met with us several times before the ceremony. He was flexible with scheduling and generous with his time. We appreciated how genuine he was the whole time and excited for us and supportive of the process of writing our ceremony.

On the day, he arrived on time, dressed well, and managed the inevitable day-of hiccups of the music starting wrong and the translator messing up without any wrinkles.


We would recommend him to any searching couples!

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Brett Sent on 09/18/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Napa Wedding

Clay was a fantastic officiant. He took our feedback extremely well and crafted the perfect ceremony for us. I would highly recommend him to anyone.
Derek
Derek Sent on 09/17/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Our Dream Wedding

Clay is an amazing officiant, from the very beginning he provided us ideas that aligned with our vision and he was very vested in our story of how we met. When we put the ceremony together he promptly reviewed it and gave us constructive advice, utilizing his knowledge of weddings and understanding of guests reactions to ensure smooth transitions, tasteful jokes all while delivering an emotional story. He was very professional during the entire process and was effective in telling our story, it couldn’t have gone any better and I would highly recommend him if you are looking for an officiant. He’s got you covered no matter what kind of ceremony you are envisioning (funny, emotional, religious, etc.).
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Iy Sent on 03/27/2025
5 out of 5 rating

The Perfect Wedding Officiant!

When looking for an officiant for our wedding, we wanted someone warm, approachable, and with a great sense of humor—and Clay was exactly that!

He worked with us to create a personalized and meaningful ceremony that was both short and memorable. My mom still talks about how much she loved it! Clay’s background as a family and marriage therapist makes him incredibly easy to talk to, and his thoughtful approach helped us feel comfortable and at ease throughout the process. We couldn’t have asked for a better officiant!
Lindsey
Lindsey Sent on 12/29/2024
5 out of 5 rating

Thank you, Clay!

We are so grateful and honored to have had Clay as our officiant! His calming demeanor and professionalism provided a warm presence for our wedding that was felt and appreciated by all in attendance. Our family and friends had nothing but amazing praise for how he conducted the ceremony.
We could not have felt more prepared for the experience thanks to our meetings with Clay and because of the opportunity to create a ceremony that spoke directly to our relationship. We loved the GoogleDoc format he used to help us create the ceremony as it allowed us to tailor it in our own time and write vows that were personal to us. He settled our nerves during the ceremony with confident delivery and subtle smiles. All of the careful planning allowed us to be fully present in the moment, and for that we are thankful.
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Sandy Sent on 11/27/2024
5 out of 5 rating

Love Clay’s support

We highly appreciate and feel lucky to have Clay as our officiant! He’s willing to spend time listening our love story during the 1st call which truly understand our story and what expectation we have. In addition, based on our needs (ex: translation), he also gave us guidance to make the ceremony run smoothly. It’s quite stressful to prepare the wedding but Clay made us feel like a friend who’s truest supporting us calmly :)

We highly recommend Clay if you’re looking for officiant!
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