Giving cash as a wedding gift...

I also go by the "cover your plate" rule. I always give money. I would never show up to a wedding with gifts. That's what the bridal shower is for.

I give a minimum of $100 per person attending, so if I go with FH, that's at least $200. For couples we're closer with, we try to get creative. For instance, a friend got married on 6/26 last year and we gave him $626. I went to a wedding for a coworker and gave $300 once. Those were the two largest amounts, per person, we've ever given.

I always give around $100 unless I'm really close. When i was in one of my friend's wedding I got him and his wife (two of my best friends) $400 worth of bed linens because I knew they really wanted them and nobody had gotten them for them two days prior to the wedding. They still have and use them almost 4 years later.

You will discover that most weddings these days are asking for cash or gift cards. It's just so much easier than trying to figure out what a couple may need. That way the bride and groom can purchase what they REALLY need than get dishes and blenders that they really don't need or can get at a housewarming. I find most people give between 25 and 100.00. It really just depends on the financial status of most of your guests and family and also the time of year you have your wedding.

Typically FH and I give a minimum of $200. If they are really close friends we give upwards of $500.

My FH likes to go big, anything under 200 isn't good enough for him so we've given (Mostly him) as much as 500$ to couples.... I think that is overkill esepcially when we are trying to save for our own wedding but I can't argue with him.

I never give cash i just like going and finding things for people so i buy off their registry several items and put them together in a gift basket (if they are kitchen or bathroom things that look good in it) i havent been to a wedding since college though and then i could only afford 50 bucks to be spend... now if a friend was getting married i would say i spend between 100-150

We usually buy a gift to give at the shower and then give a cash gift of $150-$200 (depending on the type of wedding and whether or not there's open bar) on the day of the wedding.

Well, if a couple has a *wedding registry*, I usually buy a gift/s from the registry, and throw in $50. If I attend any showers or bachlorette parties, I'll buy a gift for that, and just give cash in a card for the wedding.

I usually do $50-75 or $100-150 if I bring a guest (which is the obvious situation now) I will give a little more for really close friends. It Aldo depends if I got them a bridal shower gift/bachelorette party gift etc. I get the whole "pay for ur plate" thing but as someone else said - how do u know how much the per plate cost is? And do people consider the total wedding cost divided by guess # as their plate cost or just strictly the cost of the food?

I always spend $50 for a bridal shower gift and get something nice off their registry. We give $200 and up for our wedding gift to a couple. It really depends on the couple, how well we know them, etc... :-)

If one is really lucky, they'd get 1 of each: cash/check/registry from the same guest! LOL!

Growing up, our rule of thumb in the DC region was $100 per guest or what it would cover the plate (as some have implied). Apparently, hasn't changed much.

We usually give $100. money is the best gift, you know the couple can always use it.

I base it on how well you know the couple. I live in a small town so between $50-$75. Also think about if your invited to the shower as well then you give two gifts!

I was always told to "Cover my plate" as well. I usually give between 100-200 depending but with family/best friends I usually go 300-400

I haven't been to a wedding (until my sister's wedding and best friend's wedding last year) since was a child, so I didn't give a gift. For my sister's wedding and my best friend's wedding, I told each of them my budget and asked them what on their registry they wanted the most that was in my budget. For my sister, it ended up being a nice 4 person plate set. For my best friend, it ended up being a vacuum cleaner since she and her husband were starting out from scratch and needed everything. If money were not an option, I'd give $100, but since DS and I are still college students, we really cannot afford $100. Also, around here $30 is a standard gift.

I second Cavan & the other brides- at least cover your plate plus some extra for a gift. Even if money is tight, you have advance notice & some time to save up! I.e. cut out the Starbucks & takeout for a while.

In general we give a minimum of $125-150 per person (so if we're both invited $250-300). FH gives even more if he's close to the person (even if he is a member of the bridal party).

I also try to use the "cover your plate" rule. But how DO you know how much the plate is? FH and I try to stick to about $50 pp...unless they're closer family and friends. Then we try to give more.

I give $25-50 depending on how well I know the couple. I write checks because it's harder for a thief to use than cash.

Around here, a fancy dinner/open bar would be $50 and an average dinner/cash bar would be $20. So I guess I have the pay your plate thing covered. Never heard of that though. And how would you know how much it cost before you get there?

I also try to cover my plate, but weddings in my area are on the pricey side. I usually spend $100-$200 depending on how close I am to the couple.

I'm actually going to the wedding of a family friend next week. Do you have any idea how tempted I am to just write in the card "Call it even"? LOL