Divorced Parents!
My parents are divorced and dont speak to eachother. My dad will be walking me down the isle at the ceremony, but when it comes to introducing the mother and father of the bride at the reception,im not sure how to handel this, do they walk in together then go seat on seperate tables? lol... . Any of you have divorced parents and how are you handeling this?

Jazmin
Married: 05/29/2011
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Posted On: Mar 12, 2010 at 12:15 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Jazmin
Married: 05/29/2011
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:16 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
sorry my english grammer is bad haha .. i mean sit at seperate tables.

Married: 05/19/2010
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Is there no way they can be civil for 1 day? If not, you can do as you suggested or just have them introduced separate, then they can sit at their respective table.

Married: 09/12/2009
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:20 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Are they remarried?

Married: 2+ years ago
Mar 12, 2010 at 12:24 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My parents have been divorced for the past 22 years. I haven't been on speaking terms with my mother in more than 10 years, so well I'm taking the easy way out and not inviting her. I made the mistake of inviting her to my high school graduation and she tried to pick a fight with my father in the parking lot in front of hundreds of people.

Jazmin
Married: 05/29/2011
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:24 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Im not sure if they will be or not. Theyve never been the parents that argue, but they just havent seen eachother in 5 years, and i know my wedding will bring back memories, and since he left my mom , i can see my mom walking in crying.. I dont want to put them in awkward situations. I will probably just have to have a heart to heart talk with them together.

Jazmin
Married: 05/29/2011
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:26 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
@ potters.. no they are not remarried, but my dad is dating the same lady he left my mom for. Although that bitch is not invited :)

ladylee
Married: 06/05/2010
Mar 12, 2010 at 12:30 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
A wedding I went to last year where the parents were no longer together, the bride's mom & her boyfriend were seated on the first pew. The dad's girlfriend was seated on the 2nd pew and after dad walked her down teh aisle, he took his seat next to his date.

At the reception, instead of having a table for bride's family and groom's family, maybe just have a table for all the parents? That way, it takes a bit of the pressure off b/c they can have smalltalk with the other parents and not feel awkward.

Nicole
Married: 10/01/2011
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:35 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I never thought about this. I have the same problem though =\ My mom pretty much hates my dad. They're not remarried but my dad is engaged and I love his fiance. I guess this gives me something to think about... Although I don't think they would mind too much being introduced together but sitting at the same table... definitely not lol.

Married: 09/12/2009
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:44 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with ladylee....I have also seen it done that way. And also...you don't have to have your parents announced at the reception. I personally only had the bridal party announced.

Brian Cesario Photography, LLC
Mar 12, 2010 at 12:44 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've attended/shot more than my share of weddings where one or both sets of parents were divorced and clearly not on speaking terms. Typically, they're introduced separately as either individuals, or with their current spouse/partner if those people were invited.

Married: 09/15/2012
Mar 12, 2010 at 12:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm in a similar situation with my parents. Luckily as far as seating goes the extended family still gets along so I'm sitting my uncle and aunt on my Dad's side between my parents. When it comes time to have them introduced I am introducing them separately and since FH's parents are divorced I am alternating. So they will be introduced MOB, MOG, FOB, FOG. We are not introducing their s/o.

Married: 10/16/2010
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
i think you could have them introduced seperately when entering the reception. i dont think there would be anything wrong with that at all. i'd sit down and talk to them to see if they'd feel comfortable sitting together or not. like you said you want them to enjoy your wedding and not feel awkward

Married: 06/26/2010
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:50 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My FH parents are divorced. They are kinda on speaking terms. His mother has remarried, his father has a long term girlfriend.
We are having his Mother announced along with her new husband and then announcing his father accompanied by Sue. They will walk in with their sig others.

Married: 08/28/2010
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Mar 12, 2010 at 12:53 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
my parents are divorced too and I have almost the same issue. My dad will sit at the end closest to me, then my mom's husband (he and my dad get along really well- kinda weird) then my mom, brother and SIL. I'm not allowing my dad's girlfriend to sit in the first 3 rows since she is not family (and never will be as long as I have a pulse!) I'm not introducing them at the reception and I haven't figured out how they are going to be seated at the family tables. I really don't want my dad's girlfriend to sit at the parents table or any of the "reserved for family" tables since she is NOT family (I HATE her, she just about ruined my relationship with my dad while he was sick...) but I don't want my dad to get lured into sitting with her at another table. I've thought about not inviting her just to avoid this issue all together.

Shell
Married: 06/27/2009
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Mar 12, 2010 at 1:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
my parents are divorced... but i have never been to a wedding where the parents are announced in... just the bridal party.

ladylee
Married: 06/05/2010
Mar 12, 2010 at 2:03 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have been a BIT concerned about this myself but recently figured out what I'm going to do. My mom never remarried but my dad is on his 3rd marriage (2nd wife died). My mom & his 2nd wife ended up being really good friends. My mom & his current wife have never been properly introduced. They were engaged when they came to my sister's graduation but for some reason, Dad never introduced them - which to me is just common courtesy - and unfortunately it created some tension.

At any rate, I'm going to have my bio brother to seat my mom and sit next to her. I'll have my stepbrother seat stepmom and sit next to her (closest to my brother). Then Dad will sit next to his wife after he walks me down the aisle. Still not sure about the reception. I'm leaning towards just having a table for the parents but I really need to wait and see if my 2 oldest brothers are able to make it before I figure out seating.

Married: 2+ years ago
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Mar 12, 2010 at 5:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm sorry you have to deal with this on your special day. My sister actually got married in May and her husband's parents have been divorce for a few years now but they are very amicable with each other even though they are not the best of friends. They both are in new relationships so they were sat with their s/o at different tables and this was not odd. However, they both sat on front row at the ceremony next to each other with their s/o. The photographer actually got a really cute picture taken right before the ceremony of the groom's mom fixing the groom's dad's boutaneir(sp).

I would sit your parents down and ask them to please please put differences aside for ONE day and be kind to each other. Good luck!

Married: 2+ years ago
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Mar 12, 2010 at 5:31 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
(woops...I didn't mean to say However..I meant Also) :)

Married: 10/25/2010
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Mar 12, 2010 at 5:45 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My parents are also divorced, but they aren't being introduced at the reception, just we are.
Even though aren't on speaking terms, they will be in family photos together (one on each side of me).
But I also sat down and had a talk with them separately. I basically told them this is my day and to please put their hatred for each other on hold for that day. If they feel they are unable to be civil with each other, than don't bother showing up to the wedding.
A bit harsh I know, but it's what they needed to hear. I'm not spending my day crying because they had to start a fight or something.
As far as seating, they are not going to sit anywhere near each other (we aren't doing arranged seating for this reason, that and I don't feel comfortable telling people who they have to sit by).
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