You're not really engaged if..

Lolol guess my engagement is totally fake then! We've got a date now obviously but we didn't have it within 8 weeks of the proposal so brb gonna go tell FH we're not actually engaged...

I'm kind of wondering what other qualifications they have, now. What about couples who don't get rings?

Were you listening to Kiss FM cause I heard the same story

We set the date within 2 weeks of getting engaged but that's because we already knew what we wanted! But we are having an 18 month engagement so I guess that's too long!

Yes Kiss FM!

I know a lot of people who got engaged and never set a date. I don't exactly get it. Why spend a butt ton of money on a ring if nothing about your relationship is going to change in the near (or even slightly distant) future? We had a 22 month engagement but at least we established from the start that yes, we were working on getting married. I know some who have been engaged for over a year with no date. Just keep your relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend until you actually have real intentions of becoming husband and wife. I guess people just like the attention you get from getting engaged or something. I guess being engaged also can make a relationship seem more legit from the outside.

Date twin!! Well mine isn't "officially" set so my engagement doesn't count. lol... We've ran into a bump with FI needing surgery so I should tell him he needs to propose again lol .

Well we had our date before we were engaged (it is our dating anniversary and it fell on a Saturday) but we had 2 years and 2 months for our engagement! So I guess it was all fake, hope the wedding in 12 days isn't fake!

We postponed...what does that mean? Haha.

And, what are you supposed to do if you don't set a date right away? Get re-engaged?

I know so many couples who have more than a year-long engagement.....including FH and I! Our engagement is going to be 21 months total. We did it that long to save money since we are paying a good portion ourselves.

Yes if you don't set a date within 8 weeks you must get re-engaged! Lol. But seriously it shouldn't matter when you set a date I think each couple should do what they want to do it's their life and their wedding! And weddings are expensive so most people need to save up and that takes a little while.

Ack! I'm sad to learn I'm not really engaged

We still haven't decided on a date (ignore my profile) and we've been engaged for months!

That's way different VM

VM it will be so much more special for you!

Guess mine was fake too! It was almost four months before we set a date...

We waited 3 months to start planning anything.

Not that I didn't want to get married, but I hate planning things and we had no idea what to do at the time. And I just liked being engaged without worrying about centerpieces for a minute.

But people that get engaged and then don't do anything for 10 years (minus cases like Vals for obvious reasons) don't make sense to me.

Ha! I think your engagement is as real as you feel it is. We chose our date about 4 weeks after our engagement and it was based on when certain family members were available since our total engagement will be 5 months long. We are both in our mid 30s, want to have kids asap, and didn't want a long engagement. Plus we are having a small backyard wedding so not as much planning or expense. I have friends who have had 5+ year engagements for various reasons but they were younger. Bottom line - do what works for you!

That's crazy talk!

Its kind of a strict rule but I get where they are coming from with it. Like my brother who is 22 and "engaged" with no hopes of being able to afford a wedding in the near future.

We didn't have a date right away but we knew we wanted it to be in the fall. I waited to pick a date until I found a venue I liked. I didn't want to get attached to a date just to find out its not available. But people constantly asking me when the wedding was did get very annoying!