You're either a Bridezilla or you don't have a backbone. Wedding planning is Fun!

Remove as many opinion's as you can from the table. The more voices you hear the more difficult it will be to make your own decisions. FH and myself have been doing the majority of the wedding planning and I have made the majority of choices when it has come down to things like decor and overall feel. It has been much easier to do it this way versus trying to please everyone. I get feedback from my most trusted advisers (mom, moh, etc) but that's just feedback. The dress experience might be slightly chaotic, if you have the time...go alone to a David's Bridal sometime this week before your actual bridal dress shopping day and try on different style's of dresses so YOU ALONE can hear yourself think and how you feel in that garment. This way when you go actual shopping you can know ahead of time what you like on you and can focus on that. Good luck and know WW is here to support you with virtual vodka lol

Damn girl! You pretty much summed up everything I went through. The issues I had was constantly hurting my husband’s parents. They weren’t even paying for the damn thing and they had some idea that they were suppose to be part of the planning and having the dream they envisioned for their sons wedding and nothing more. I’m like YO, I’m the bride and this is what I want. My mom gave my husband and I a budget for the wedding and let us take the reins on what we wanted. There was non-stop nit picking, criticisms and complaints from my parents in law the entire time. They just pushed me away so far and then was hurt that they don’t have a close relationship with me like they would’ve wanted like how I do with my mother. I wanted so badly to be like hey, how can you say that when you brought on all the drama and vibe like it was your wedding... my mom is chill and was for and supported 100% what me and my husband wanted. I will tell you wedding planning is so exhausting because of what you and I went through. People need to know that it’s either they get on board or stay away because they’re only going to make life hell for the bride to the point she just says alright bye I’m done. When they need to remember who this day is about and the best thing to do is be supportive.

You just need to tell her in some sort of nice way that you will let her know what she can assist with but other than that you’ll be planning things on your time schedule.

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Thanks girl!!! I actually secretly went with my MOH, who won't be able to come this weekend, a few weeks ago. I had mentioned to everyone that I wanted to go alone first so I could figure out what I wanted and they all lost their minds because they thought I was going to find "the one" and nobody was going to be there. I'm sorry... I didn't realize finding my dress was about you. lol Anywho, I have a generalized idea of the direction I want to go. Now the majority of this weekend will be turning down the poofy ballgowns that everyone wants me to try on. Oh well! It'll all work out and if it doesn't I can say everyone was included but now I'm doing this alone!

Girl it is about YOU, and soon as it becomes about everyone else! shut it down and return it back being about you ! it doesnt matter who is paying for it, it's your day. People can be so selfish. My best friend hurt my feelings, I had found my dream dress, and omg he told me I should keep looking, but I kept telling him how crazy I was about this one and he still was saying negative things and I ended up changing my mind. So do what is best for you. The second time I went dress shopping, I only took my mother and her only so no input from outsiders would change my mind, YOU and YOUR husband matter. Make it about you guys

Praying for you girl.

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Aw thanks girl!!! How'd the second dress shopping experience go?? If you haven't found another dress yet, I say go get the one you fell in love with! It's YOUR dress You'll look beautiful in whatever you choose!

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Thank you!!! I appreciate it

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Omg I can relate. I see why brides just go and elope to not deal with all of this stuff

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Aww thank you so much beautiful, Yes the 2nd dress shopping was beautiful and I love that one too! I wanted to get both just to be funny and still wear the first one too! because it's about me !I'm not asking anyone else what they like and not taking any advice because I try to please to many people

I’m praying for you. I completely understand. But in the end my best advice would be to be kind and sensitive to others feelings, but politely tell them no when it’s not what you want. This is YOUR wedding. Whether they respect that or not is their problem. Make the best decisions you know how and have confidence in that. Our wedding was ruined because of an issue like this. Be kind and respectful, but make a firm stand in your choices. I’m behind you!😊

Girl!
I’ve been called a bridezilla by my bridesmaids because I gave them a deadline to have their dress and shoes by. Most of them are unresponsive and drag their feet to do anything so I had to put a deadline as we were falling behind. Then because it wasn’t the shoes they wanted one threatened to leave the bridal party over it and proceeded to not respond for over a month a half to anything in regards to the wedding.
They act like they have to look super amazing in front of guests they don’t even know and have to have it their way or I’m a bridezilla if I don’t agree.
My mom acts like I’m cutting off a limb off her body when I mentioned changing my last name or not getting a cake for reception.
People aren’t as easy going with others weddings as you would expect. They always find a way to make it about them.
My MIL to be tried making my engagement party about her the entire time and exploded at the end saying she could have done something nicer if it weren’t for me wanting it to be representative of my fiancé and i’s relationship.

Theres nothing we can do to shake off this bridezilla stigma because it’s just a thing that people cling to when they don’t get their way. Oh I’m not difficult, the bride is! 🙄

Listen, I agree! It’s so overwhelming. But I guess you gotta think about why you are doing it. You are sharing this experience with loved ones. And to have an enjoyable day with those loved ones on an important day. So breathe. And maybe don’t tell them anything and let it be a surprise! Lol

All the good vibes and vodka towards you, fellow bridezilla.

The one question I ask myself is...

"Is this *really* going to matter in 30 years?"

I get the whole "*MY* WEDDING" thing....a few times my mom has tried to hijack the affair but since this is my second wedding, I gently reminded her, that, technically, she already had "her" wedding...she was 99% in charge of my first wedding a long time ago, and, let me tell you, that was downright BLISSFULL! I didn't have to do ANYTHING other than show up! ( and write thank-you notes when it was over😁) There is something to be said for that! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

My planning process has been almost entirely drama free. I kept the majority of the planning to myself and my fiance and only reached out to others for things they are involved in (wedding party input on their attire and stuff like that). Other than that I kept everything to as few people as possible. Try to remember that even though the reception is really for everyone else, it should be a reflection of you and your partner. Keep other people in mind as far as making sure you aren't serving food that people are allergic to, people have comfortable places to sit, you aren't asking them to spend inordinate amounts of money, or travel extreme distances to be there, but other than common courtesy type things like that make it a celebration of the two of you.

We are date twins! Also I am so sorry. I feel like I am going to be called this too. :/ literally this morning my FMIL asked FH if his sis and bro can walk down together and he told her that we haven't figure out everything just yet. Basically made it clear to her that it is probably not going to happen. He asked his co worker this morning and she told him that it was "weird" and I even thought to myself it is also unfair that they think they get to choose who you walk down with bc my MoH and MToH are not walking down with who they want. It made me upset and I told FH that we will match people up how we want to(to avoid the issue of unfairness). For example my best friend MToH will more than likely not be walking down with her husband(who is also in our wedding). I told FH "if anyone is unhappy with the arrangements of walking down then they can all walk down single file instead. I mean people are down our back with everything and we know who want in our bridal party but I am waiting to ask and people just keep asking me. I never knew how annoying this could get.

Just remember its YOUR day...they want to call you a bridezilla own it and continue planning YOUR wedding, when someone has a opinion about my wedding I say okay I'm going to need you to give me the money for that sometimes being nice is not the way to go when its your wedding and then you see peoples true colors when you stand up for yourself, Taylor put on that BRIDEZILLA crown and wave!

This seems to be a common trend with so many weddings today. I started to make my own decision and when asked I give high level details about the wedding (don’t even have a picture of my dress to show anyone). If someone asks you a question about the wedding planning you can give minimal details and politely move on to another subject. Good luck !!