Your least favorite part of wedding planning

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Agreed! I would also add the opinions of others!

Dress shopping was the worst for me. I don't think I look good in anything, I didn't want to spend a lot of money, and the dress couldn't be hot or heavy. So I tried on so many dresses and looked at so many more online. It was by far the most stressful, and I wish I could have had someone to just find me a dress and be done with it.

THE WAIT!!!!

Figuring how to pay for things. Money is tight and we are getting some help from our parents, but it’s giving me a lot of anxiety.
Another problem I’m having is dealing with the unsolicited advice. I’ve ended up distancing myself people who just don’t know when to be quiet. 2 friends have been really bad with it. One broke off her engagement. Any time she asks me about my planning she’ll reply with what she did and end it with “but we know how that ended!” If talking about wedding plans brings her down I wish she wouldn’t ask.
Another friend is a know it all and it drives me insane. She’s married and has been a bridesmaid several times. Because of this she feels she needs to give me all the advice in the world. She’s very condescending when giving advice and I’ve come to resent her. Because of this I didn’t ask her (or my Debbie Downer friend) to be a bridesmaid. We are keeping our wedding party family only. My fiance has 4 sisters and my best friend from high school is my matron of honor. We also asked his 2 nieces to be junior bridesmaids.
I’m just so sick of hearing “you need to do this” or “MAKE SURE you do that!” Any time anyone outside of our family or wedding party asks about planning I just say it’s going well and change the subject. I just want to enjoy this experience and not let people get to me.

Wrangling guests! Hands down, my least favourite part of the whole process. 80% of people never bothered to officially RSVP, and many of the ones who did went through a game of telephone via my parents. Our wedding isn't even that big, but I've spent so much time trying to get a solid answer out of flaky guests. Then there's the guests who say they're "definitely" coming and just don't.

And don't get me started on the absolute headache of trying to get all of three groomsmen to give me their suit size. You'd think, great, three groomsmen, that's not that bad... OH.MY.GOD. What a pain in the ass it has been getting these numbers out of them. The best man just said XL jacket (not a thing) and groomsmen #2 & #3 gave me their exact tailor measurements instead of their size. I don't need to know your outseam length, just try on jackets at a store and figure out what feels comfortable!

Honestly the hardest part is the budget. Trying to be able to pay for everything that we need makes this WAY more stressful than it otherwise would be.

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That's why I went through the Black Tux for our groomsmen and fathers. It was as simple as telling the Black Tux what type of tux I wanted and then giving the men the website and then all they had to do was fill out the form online. They could even go to the store in Chicago to try on the tux if they wanted to which is what my FH did.

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FW was adamantly against a black tie wedding, which I was okay with TBH (much cheaper). Medium grey suits for the groomsmen it is.

And I am very jealous of all the great wedding resources in the US - including the vendor & venue search function on this site! I can't count the number of times FW has said how much easier and cheaper this would be if we had Amazon (the American version), Michael's, Hobby Lobby, or (don't say it) Walmart.

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The Black Tux where we got our tuxes from does suit rentals as well and those are even cheaper. I feel you on the websites thing... I can't imagine doing this without Amazon or Michaels... although i will admit to ordering a whole bunch of stuff from China.

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OMG I'm having the same trouble!!! I just can't decide on stuff!! Actually, I did pick my dress, and I've made some other decisions. But I'm having so much trouble with my "style" that every time someone brings that up now, I have a fit inside my head!! I don't know what my style is. Stop asking me.

I have a very small budget for decor, but don't want my event to look tacky. I don't even know where to start. There is just too much on Pinterest, and no way to narrow it down, since I don't really know what I like. Yeah, if I could have someone just listen to me talk for an hour, then come up with a few choices for me to choose from, that would be great! (not going to happen though.)

Ugh! The wedding website. Everyone says we should have one, and I have started creating it here on WW. But I'm not a tech savvy person, and I feel like such an idiot every time I try to do something with this website!!

I feel like I need the Geek Squad with me to explain all of this!! I like the idea of a wedding website, but have no idea what I'm doing in the creation of it. FH is no help as he is less tech savvy than me!! Any suggestions? Is this really necessary? It's going to be a smallish wedding anyway (75 guests), and there aren't a lot of "other" events planned besides the ceremony and reception. So what do I need a website for?

Can I just say paying for it? If someone else wanted to foot the bill that would be great lol. but really I think picking the dress. I have had the hardest time with this so far.

Celebrating our 2 months of being married here.... but man I hated so much about wedding planning lol pretty much anything that required depending on other people was horrible. But I think finding specific vendors was so difficult for me; I wanted to work with people who were amazing with high reputations, but also needed them to fit in my fairly tight budget. That was definitely most stressful (although it all worked out in the end... aside from our horrendous DJ).

We are getting married 4 months after the engagement. Surprisingly it is not as stressful as I was expecting but.

1) Paying for everything

2) Everyone saying they want to help but not actually helping. Instead they just ask a bunch of questions.

3) Making sure everything gets done in time. 4 months is not a lot of time to plan a wedding especially when its the Holidays.

Spending money

I love most of the whole process, but waiting on vendors to reply or not getting adequate responses is what's been frustrating to me! Maybe I sound a little bridezilla-y, but I think vendors should be catering to the brides so that we want to work with them. Some have been less than enthusiastic and that doesn't make me want to give them money.

I think my least favorite part is the guest list! I hate having to make cuts and its always awkward when people ask if they are invited and I have to say unfortunately not. We are inviting 150 and still that has been super hard to narrow down.

Spending so much money all at once!! And deciding on big vendors when my FH just shrugs.

Omg the guest list!! There are so many people who I haven't interacted with in YEARS who all of a sudden have expectations about what the wedding should entail and that they should be invited. Like I haven't spoken to some of these people in 20 years. It's crazy lol

Playing family politics with guest list, money, decor, etc. We originally wanted to pay for the wedding ourselves but long story short, we’re having family members contribute. With that in mind, they do have a say in some things and it’s finding that balance of adding what they want without compensating what we want.