Your least favorite part of wedding planning

Decor, and tracking people down to confirm they have their outfit, etc. I do NOT have a crafty, or inspired eye for anything decor. I would have loved to just show someone a few pictures and have them run with it. My hope is that with what we have, we will look back and see how it turns out and actually be proud that we pulled it together with little help!

The budgeting! And paying in general. Money stresses me out on a regular basis much less with something this expensive.

ALL OF IT!! We should’ve eloped but I’d have to plan that too lol!!

1. Dealing with my very disorganized, careless, and scatter-brained in laws. Some people just aren’t meant to plan anything in advance.

2. Dealing with a few bridesmaids who were too wrapped up in their own issues to really step back and celebrate the biggest moments of my life...

3. Losing 2 bridesmaids in the process... wedding planning really makes you see who your real friends are!

4. Seating arrangements & RSVPs .. ugh people!!!!

I really wish someone would come up with decorations for the venue for me. I was so indecisive about how I wanted the tables and centerpieces set up. It was probably the most stress for me, and when I think back on it I realize I never remember centerpieces at a wedding, lol!

Also, if I could go back I'd totally pay for someone to put all my invitations together. I had to stick all these separate parts together. They were beautiful but....man they took forever.

View Quoted Comment You’re so right! The waiting isn’t fun.. if we didn’t have to try coordinating waiting for my graduation from college, hubby to get a few days away from his company, and trying to invite everyone from all over the country for the same day everything would be fine.

In laws and rsvps. I will actually really miss planning I’ve genuinely enjoyed everything else

Picking an officant. I'm in Virginia and the marriage laws here concerning officiants are ridiculous. I want someone that isn't affiliated with a religion and that is hard to do here. I do have religious beliefs but don't want a minister to be the officant especially since I'm in an area were there are very little people who think the way I do. I want an officant who loves everyone regardless of their race,gender,sexual orientation,religion, or other demographics and I'm going to be lucky if I find one like that as around here as most express bias against people who aren't white,Christian and heterosexual. I know many of the ministers in the area and they openly express these views. I'm getting married because we love each other and I won't have an officant who has hate in their heart for people based solely on who they are. So I feel very frustrated and I can't stand picking an officant.

Spending the money to pay for everything. I know that sounds dumb, but when I swipe my card for a $3500 purchase, I internally cringe.

Guestlist, Getting people to rsvp. All stationary: invites, STD, Menus, Programs, Signs. putting together an itinerary. I am over it.

We are doing a DW so we have a planner THANK GOD! But FW and I think it would be a nice idea to put together a list of Airbnbs for people to be able to choose from (taking the guesswork out for them) since we will be island hopping. But now that I'm on Airbnb daily ready reviews and amenities and bed counts.....I would 1000% hire someone to do this part for me lol

All of it!! LOL!

Event agency... we really should have taken that one.
There were so many people involved with this event and everyone wanted my attention...
... there is barely anything left of my nerves. And i am a pretty duff girl.

Someone to answer repetitive texts "when is rehearsal again (despite the invite I sent)", "when did I need to fitted for tux for?", and then someone to vet mom's requests (on both sides) and say no for me.

I would say the guest list. Initially, my FH and I wanted to have a moderate sized wedding (50-80) and realized it just wasn't possible, so we changed our venue and are sitting at 33 of our closest family and friends. The guest list is the HARDEST because we both have many people in our families that we have issues, friction etc with. Had to think about if we're going to offend people by not inviting them. And it doesn't matter what your budget is or how you feel about it, you cannot invite EVERYONE. My fiance and I realize and accept that. Now that our guest list is complete, I feel like I can have fun with my wedding plans now. The guest list made is so dreary, and almost like you don't even want to talk about the wedding. Now I can focus on the fun stuff, like looking for dresses, choosing a beautiful invitations, just having fun!!!!

Paying for things lolol nahh. I genuinely enjoy planning weddings, but I'm a party planner. my least favorite thing is probably deciding on a guest list because i want a msll wedding but have a massive family

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Do you have a friend who you love and trust and who is a good public speaker who could get a license to marry you? That's what we are doing. My FH's best friend from high school is a comedian and is awesome. he'll be marrying us AND writing our comedy vows. (i'm not into sappy vows)

The waiting game for me. We wanted a longer engagement so that I could have the wedding of my dreams (I waa going to settle for court house but he said he wanted an over the top one for me), but at the same time it seems like we’ve been engaged forever lol

View Quoted Comment What happened with your photographer contract that brought you to tears?☹

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At the end, it was a matter of too many cooks - nothing to do with the vendor. My mom reviewed it for me as a second set of eyes (she explicitly asked to review and normally she's great and gives really good advice) but for some reason, she does nothing wedding related in a timely manner (very out of character, don't really get it). Anyhoo, she took issue with the liability cause (which was standard and fine) and severe issue with the ownership and model causes (which I get but also know why it's in there) but she didn't offer any suggestions on compromises. So I stressed the whole day trying to figure out what exactly we wanted changed in the contract and trying to get more information out of her and couldn't get a text back. It all got resolved fine but it was just very frustrating. I think it was just the cumulation of "she doesn't do anything wedding related in a timeline manner". I feel like I need pester to get anything out of her. She says she wants to be involved but her actions make it seem like she more annoyed than anything to help with the contract/addresses/boring stuff I actually want need on. That was a much longer vent than planned.