Your bridesmaids expectations?

Would love to hear the ideas too, following this thread

My MOH is my best friend and hair dresser, so we will be extremely busy that day.. All I'm expecting her to do is make me look beautiful, help me get dressed, and keep me from being an emotional wreck! haha. She is also going to help me with the setup and take down, as FH and I leave for our honeymoon that night so she is helping my parents bring my stuff back to the house that night. Other than that she doesn't really have much to do because she is doing everyones hair and makeup for free so I didn't really want her to be too overwhelmed! She also has been helping me with my DIY stuff.

I really don't have any expectations. I just want them to be there that day, stand next to me, and have a blast at the reception. They've kind of taken over everything else that could possibly need to be done. I don't think I would have ever sat them down and talked about expectations...I don't know what else I could ask of them. They have lives and their lives don't stop because I'm getting married...that's what I believe.

Talk about budgets -- how much are they comfortable spending? For their dresses, for make up, hair, accessories, for any wedding related events (such as a bachelorette or shower.) For the wedding day, specifically with hair and make up, do you want them to match? Can they do their own hair make up? If not, you should pay for pros to do it for them.

If you'd LIKE those events, say that it'd be nice to have them. But if they can't do it, don't allow it to come between your relationships with them. Most of the time it isn't an issue. If they are planning on hosting those events, talk about expectations -- if their budget means it's at an apartment clubhouse, is that okay? For the bachelorette, can it be a night on the town rather than a weekend in Vegas?

Those are just some starting points.

I have NO expectations for mine, what for?! I'm glad they are going to be by my side, why would I have expectations for them, all I want for them is to be comfortable and have fun.

You're probably going to get answers on here like, the only thing they need to do is stand up for you.

While that is kind of true, my expectations were that they would all agree on a dress or dresses and shoes. Other than that, it wasn't much. I asked my MOH to help me out with some of the planning (looking at décor, and giving me her opinions). I did almost everything myself for my wedding (with the help of FH). I gave them all the option of getting hair and make-up done (not a requirement), and they all said they wanted to. I'm not requiring that it be up or anything-it's whatever they want.

My expectations are listening to my ramblings throughout the planning process (we have a fb chat going and i tend to post anytime i do something important to the wedding, when i get excited because something came in, or when i have a thought i want opinions on). they have agreed on their dresses, and most are coming to visit me to get fitted at the dress shop, but i expect the one who can't to get herself sized in a timely fashion. i expect them to order their dresses all at the same time (through me, if that works best). i expect them to help my MOH plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party (though i also expect them to NOT do anything extravagant and costly). on the day of, i expect them to wear the right color shoes, show up on time, be happy, walk down the aisle in front of me with a smile, NOT get embarrassingly drunk, and to dance with me (and others) at the reception! pretty reasonable requests i think.

Make sure someone is willing to go to your last fitting, so they know how to get you into your dress and do the bustle. See this thread:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/how-not-to-act-on-your-wedding-day-vent/c8107b68f916f9d7.html

My MOH has the extra duties of helping me get dressed, helping me with my dress when i have to pee, carrying the 'emergency kit', making sure i dont pass out or freak out, and NOT embarrass me with her speech

They're helping me set up, tear down, and have a good time. My sister, the MOH is planning a joint shower with my cousin, my best friend is making the bouquets and my other bm is a photographer who is taking our engagement photos. :-)

I am recently engaged and I plan on having this same type of meeting. I am doing it with my bridesmaids and the grooms men. But I just want them to first all agree to being in the wedding. I know just because me and my FH ask them to be in the wedding they will say "yes". Secondly, I want them to know that this is going to be a process and I know all of them may not be able to help all the time. But these are our friends so as a friend I feel they should do what they can. I will probably have to deal more with getting help than my FH will. I am going to give all my bridesmaids an opportunity to be involved. If they began to slack off I will just take over and they can just worry about coming to the fitting and wedding. I am not going to expect them to do too much because it is my wedding. I thank God that one has stepped up already and I didn't have to ask her anything.

Mine are quite far geographically. I expected them to get their dresses and shoes, be supportive to me, come to fittings when they could, etc. they also volunteered to help me with putting favors together a couple days before the wedding.

I honestly didn't have any expectations other than pick a dress they liked in a certain color/fabric/designer and get shoes and show up and be supportive that day.

For one, I'm a control freak and wanted to do most of the planning/DIY stuff myself.

Second, 3/5 of my bridesmaids live in either a different state or a different country so I would never expect them to travel a whole lot.

However, my BMs have all been awesome and have gone above and beyond anything I could have ever imagined.

I started the discussion off with who had connections to who and went from there. I pooled them all cuz I love them but they each bring something special and different than the other so I started working with what they had to offer and figured out where my voids were. (kept costs down when youʻre friends of friends and so on). I am doing most of it as I do not have an official MOH or planner

I would like them to:

1. get their dresses, which won't cost them a fortune

2. have a blast with me during the shower/bachelorette party/wedding/reception

3. be honest with me! if there's something they can't handle or they're struggling, or I'm being overly demanding, I'd want to know!

To turn up and be the person to reign in her mother (my FMIL) Which she would do anyway.

But then I only have a MOH and her grandparents are buying her dress which she is picking.

Basically be my best friend

I had the same expectation first time around, except I also had to see about budget for dress. (which became a moot point because the dressmaker made them as a present) turn up, smile and be my friend.

Job done