Younger sister getting engaged 1 week after older sister?

Is the older sister you?

No.. she doesn't have to wait 8 years just because the older sister did.. would the older sister still feel like her spotlight has been taken? yea.. if I were the younger sister I might tell my older sister but wait a little while to tell the family.. but honestly, I don't think there is any harm meant behind it..

Now if I were a guy and knew that my soon to be fiance's sibling just got engaged, I would have waited because I wouldn't want the whole "copy cat" thing to be precieved or assumed.. but, obviously he didn't think about it THAT much.

I think the younger sister waited 4-5 years! I think the timing was just a coincidence.

I understand sibling rivalry and all, but it's not like the younger sister and her fiance have just started dating. It's been 4 years. They can get engaged whenever they want. It's not out of the blue. Why should she put her life on hold because her older's sister's boyfriend took way too long?

Now, having the weddings a week apart would be a very different story...

I think it is just possibly a fluke accident that they happened only a week apart.

Nicole, good question. Maybe this is younger sister worried about upsetting older sister and worried about how everyone else will see it.

What the boyfriends do is what they do. How the sisters feel about it is what matters. If one of my younger sisters got engaged right after me, I might have felt a little overshadowed at first I admit. And then I would have let it go. But I would never think that she convinced her BF to propose to her, nor that he should have waited. Her relationship has NOTHING to do with my relationship, and now I have a planning buddy! My love and support for all of my sisters comes FIRST. And who cares how the rest of the world views it? They aren't the ones living it.

ETA: I'm with Jen - if I were younger sister, I'd tell older sister first and see how she feels, but probably wait to tell the family.

Would you think the little sister "talked" the guy into proposing to her too? No

That the guys just happened to be planning around the same time and the proposal has absolutely nothing to do with the older sister's proposal? Yes

Little sister is trying to steal the spotlight/attention/whatever? No

That it was about time she got engaged as well? Yes

Would you feel the boyfriend should have waited to propose? No. He probably thought it would be nice for the sisters to share that time of their lives and help each other with the planning of the weddings.

That a week is long enough for the couple to spread the excitement and there shouldn't be any drama. Yes.

With only a week separating them, I bet the guys had it planned way before they knew the other sister was getting engaged.

I agree with everything Genevieve said. I think it just so happens that the BF proposed after the sister. Didn't you ever see Meet the Parents? He just didn't have as many obstacles.

If you're the older sister, I wouldn't take this as a personal competition. If you're the younger sister, your big sis should be understanding and feel excited that you two get to plan together.

My cousin, same age as me, born months apart, and close to me my whole life, got engaged after me and is planning a wedding within 3 months of mine. In no way do I feel like it's a competition.

Id say its a fluke...

My Fiancee was planning on proposing in December, got into a car accident so then had to buy a car. My brother was already planning on proposing to his fiancee on the beaches in AL in March... So when my FH popped the question on Valentines Day everyone was surprised, and my brother still went through with his plans 3 weeks later. Our weddings are 10 months apart and NO one really cares... We have VERY different wedding planned...

To answer your question, I am the younger sister, not the older one. My BF proposed and of course I would say yes. We'd been looking at rings for a while, but I never shared any of the details with anyone. I know, because he explained it to me, that he'd been planning on asking me around Valentine's day, but I had gotten really sick and spent the better part of the weekend before and week of Valentine's day in horrible pain. Our lives then got really busy and this week was a "down" week for us, so he'd been aiming for around this time.

My sister's proposal came as a shock to me. Not to my family though. My mom and sister had gone to several wedding events because she and her BF had been seriously having the wedding talk. My BF, erm, fiance (eee =] ) decided he couldn't wait.

I will agree, it isn't the ideal situation. Well, the circumstances that is. I am thrilled that I am getting married to the man of my dreams and I am excited for my sister. However, I haven't told anyone yet because I was afraid of how people would react. I'll probably tell my parents and my sister that we're engaged, but I'll probably hold off on the huge facebook announcement (like my sister did) and will wait to call extended family members.

I really didn't plan it to be this way, in fact, it was just a fluke. I am glad that - with no extra information except for the fact that we've been together 4 years (5 in April) - you came to this conclusion. It makes me feel less hesitant about sharing my good news with my family. I too was looking forward to having someone to constantly wedding chat with! I will though, make sure to plan to get married after my older sister (granted her engagement isn't a several years long one) so she can have her day in the sun without thinking I am tryin

To race her to the alter.

Thanks. Anymore tips would be nice. I won't make the call (I live out of town, so a call would probably be best) until tomorrow.

(sorry for the multiple posts, just had a lot to say)

My younger brother proposed to his gf the same day fh proposed to me. By accident...sort of. Fh told my brother he was going to...and then coincidentally they ended up proposing on the same day. Regardless of the reason...i will say that the entire process has been less than enjoyable for me. It was very rough 'competing' for attention with my sil. Theyve been married for 6 months now and are already expecting...so i sympathize with the overshadowed sibling.

I was pretty much going through this same situation with my older sister but we are 8 years apart and she officially got engaged a week after me. I did know of her plans but she wasn't officially engaged and hadn't mentioned to anyone about her plans except for a few of her close friends and me of course so when FH started giving hints about a proposal I was excited but at the same very nervous to tell her because I didn't want her to think I was trying to outshine her or copy her in any way FH proposing just came out of nowhere especially since we had taken a 2 month break. I wouldn't feel bad about spreading your news...being engaged is a wonderful thing and nothing to hide especially when you had been dating your bf for almost 5 years - it's not your fault that your sister took forever to get engaged (same with my sister as well) but yes you will have someone to wedding chat with now which is great!!!! And yes just like you I chose to have my wedding after my sister - good luck!!

My biggest concern in this whole thing is one of the sisters feeling like the weddings are a competition. If you live in different cities, you need to be concious of mutual guests who will have to travel to one event or the other. I'd suggest one of you do a summer wedding, and the other do a winter wedding. Give them a few months apart and go with very different themes/colors/styles.

I'd call your sister first and share your concerns about not wanting to steal her limelight. She may also be very happy you called her first to share your news. But expressing your concerns and making sure she realizes that it's not your intention to take anything away from her joy or her day may go pretty far.

When the time comes, talk to her about things like dates- to make sure that events are spaced far apart. Not just the wedding, but showers, and stuff.

All i have to say is that poor mother and father of the bride having to fish out money for 2 weddings back to back.

OMG congrats I say call your best friend if you didn't already so you have someone to share the excitement. Then call your sister tomorrow even maybe before you mom.

Find out from your sister when her wedding is and plan a good 6mths between weddings if possible.

Congrats!! It would be nice to wait, but I'm sure your closest family and friends would want to know too.

I haven't changed my status or posted any engagement news on FB. I like to tell people personally, plus, I didn't want any FB friends assuming they will be invited to the wedding.

Well I ended up calling my parents first, and asked them how they thought my sister would react. They seemed to think she would consider this a "low blow" and that I was trying to steal her spotlight. They however, did not think I was trying to do anything for any other reason than marry the man I love. They seemed to think the "time" was coming. I told them that I wanted to call my sister and let her know the good news, and while they were a little concerned we agreed that it is better now, than later. So I called her up... yes she felt like I was going to steal the spotlight. She really wanted this wedding planning time to be about her. (Hey, she was honest at least.) She tried to convince me to "hold off", but then realized she was being "selfish" (her word) and congratulated me. I think after the initial shock set in, she realized that we can each plan our own weddings, and enjoy it. Besides, we only share 1/2 the wedding guests - we each have our own "future in-laws" family too.

Her wedding is planned for March 30th 2013, and mine is planned for June 22, 2013. Neither of us have booked anything, but those are the dates we're looking at. We can push back to July 27, 2013 if needed though. So roughly about 3-4 months apart. Ideally I had wanted December or January of 2012/13, but decided that, since it was important to my sister to be married first, I would push back the day. My fiancé didn't mind at all, even though a year and a half seems a long time to wait! Also, to the person who was concerned about my parents: As far as I am concerned my fiancé and I are paying for our own wedding, seeing as we are adults with our own jobs. I think the only thing my parents are paying for is the dress. My mother has always been set on buying the dress for her girls' weddings, and trust me, my dress and my sister's dress will not break the bank.