Young Flower Girl and Ring Bearer?

At first, I was worried with our two FGs being so young, one was 3 and another 4 at the time but I really wanted them both to be in the wedd. They did not know each other and the 3 yr old was always a very shy, quiet girl and the 4 yr old very hyper. They did not attend the rehearsal the night before but by then being so close to the date I did not worry about it. The day of the wedding they did very good, it only took one instruction to give them and side by side they followed the aisle throwing out the petals. The only thing, they both stopped almost getting to the front since they had ran out of petals! The hyper one started yelling out to her mother in the seats that she had ran out of petals. It was cute and funny and the guests started pointing them to the front. We did not know this until watching the video. Having them stand during the ceremony, not a good idea. Have their parents or close relative sit in one of the front rows to sit next to after you have walked down the aisle

Its to hard to say now since kids can change a lot in a year and that is an unpredictable age. I would say plan to either have them just walk up and then sit in the front row or at least, leave 2 empty chairs in the front row with an available babysitter or one of their parents ready to have them sit down next to them if they are start making a fuss.

I say jump right in and train them little mofos into what you want! They're stilll young and impressionable, you can dewww it!!! now get to it! AND don't listen to their bitchy parents!! Just tell them in no uncertain terms this IS YOUR DAY and you need to train these youngins to perform to YOUR expectations!!

Our daughter is 9 months and she's our flower girl. She's walking pretty good herself now, but FH will walk down the aisle with her. Either holding her if she doesn't walk or holding her hand letting her take her time.

Our son is 3 1/2. He'll hopefully be going himself and meeting a best man down at the end with the rings. If he gets scared, he can walk with the best man.

We have a contingency plan. If there are issues, we are just going to have their Moms help us out a little. I'm not too worried, kids are kids....and everyone usually has a good laugh and takes pictures.

My flowergirl will be 5 RB will be 3. Im worried about the RB because he is very shy. I know he will walk down the aisle with the FG, but i dont think he will stand for the ceremony. I am placing his mom in the front row so that if he decides that he does not want to stand she is right there for him .

I have the same concern. My nephew will be 2 1/2 and FH's niece will be 3 1/2. We are having a Catholic ceremony with Mass. The church has quite a long aisle too. But I really want them in the wedding! Since I have a brother who is too old to be a ring bearer and too young to be a groomsman.. I might have him assist them down the aisle. Not sure yet. Honestly, I love them too much and Im not that uptight, so if they act up its not going to ruin my wedding. I will let them sit with their grandparents during the ceremony.

A friend of mine just got married less than a month ago. their flower girl was fine on her own just standing and waiting, but for the ring bearer one of the GM kept suckers in his pocket and the boy would just reach up and get another piece of candy while he waited. They actually have an adorable photo of the boy trying to reach in the pocket during the ceremony.

As they get older just check to see how they behave when youre out with them. You dont want children that are running around during the ceremony- that happened to my cousin! FH wants his god-daughter to be a flower girl, but she cut up so bad at the engagement party, screaming at the top of her lungs! I dont think so!

We are having 3 FGs (FHs nieces who will be a week shy of 4 and my BFFs little girl who will be 2 1/2) and 2 RBs (my nephew who is 4 1/2 and FHs nephew who is 2 1/2). We love all of these kids dearly and want them to be a part of our day.

I think the important thing is to have realistic expectations. Our RBs will not carry our actual rings, and none of the kids are expected to stand at the altar, they will all be sitting with their parents/grandparents in the first row at the ceremony. If one or more of them cries or won't go down the aisle, then so be it, FH and I will be just as married. I for one want to at least take the chance of it working out.

Our flower girl is 3 and our ring bearer(FH's son) is 6. Our little flower girl has already been practicing throwing the flowers at home. She is too CUTE. I was in a wedding last summer, where the flower girls threw tantrums, so I was worried. But the walk down the isle is short and I think she will be ok. Ring bearer is excited and I think he will be fine.

I think the key is to talk to them before hand and maybe practice with them. Not sure what to do during ceremony, since we will all be too busy getting married. lol

I guess have someone watch them.

One idea is to use a wagon. You decorate the wagon all pretty and put the kids in it. then their mother or a bridesmaid pulls them up the aisle in it.

My niece I think will be fine, she's 4 and will be very well behaved. My son will be 2 1/2 by the time our wedding rolls around. Depending on how he is I may have my two older cousins (they will be 6 by the wedding) maybe walk down with him just to help him know where to go. Which I think he will be fine walking with my niece becasue they love to play together and he follows her a good bit as it is now.

I'm going to be realistic here... I think you may just have to be flexible - is it ok, for example, to have mom/dad walk or carry them down the aisle? With kids in general, but especially kids that young, you just can't expect everything to be perfect. Our youngest kids will be almost 5 and even with them, I'm expecting to be flexible. Personally, I'd rather have a happy child being walked with mom than one that's screaming, crying and running down the aisle. And have them sit with parents during the ceremony.

Also, you definitely want to make sure they practice beforehand. Let them get comfortable with it - even if you have some friends over, have them do it once or twice in front of a small group of people so they don't freak out on the wedding day with the audience.

Frankly, 2 is going to be kind of young, but with kids you just have to flexible and know they sometimes do their own thing! We had wanted my husband's grandson to be our ringbearer (aged 3 1/2 at the time), and his dad (my husband's best man) thought it would be okay. Just prior to the wedding, our ringbearer was with his dad, while his mom had been with me and his sister (who was my Jr Bridesmaid). When the ceremony started, and the little guy was standing there with his dad, and he saw his mom being seated, he suddenly wanted to be with his mom, like NOW! His dad tried to keep him up at the front, but the little guy just had a mind of his own, and almost came to tears. While I was appreciative of my stepson attempting to "force" the ringbearer into place, I certainly didn't want to traumitize him! So, I stopped the ceremony long enough to let my stepson know the ringbearer could go to mommy - and we all enjoyed a nice chuckle.

Just be flexible when children are involved!

I'm in the same boat- our wedding's in 16 days and the ring bearer just turned 1!! He's walking pretty good, but since his mom is my maid of honor she's gonna walk him down the aisle. We considered a wagon, but after a few test runs he tried to jump out every time!

Our ring bearers are 2 and 1.. My FH wil be shaking a bag of candy at them to get them down the aisle! lol