Kellie Martinez
Super October 2019

Young Brides

Kellie Martinez, on March 22, 2019 at 12:19 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 48
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I am getting married at 22 years old. (but will be closer to 23 by the wedding date) and I have been disappointed by the amount of people who have told me that I am "too young". .especially at work. My new department is awesome but I worked with a lot of (for the lack of a better word) bitter women who were either divorced or did not believe in marriage and made sure I knew that whether I asked them or not lol. I met my fiance when I was in highschool. We were best friends for over a year until he became my boyfriend. We have been inseperable for over six years. This is unimportant to a lot of people because of our age but it's irritating to me because we didn't run to the courthouse at 18 behind our parent's back and make a huge impulsive decision. (not that that can't work out. one of my best friend's is going on 7 years after doing that) but he's done with school and working as an agricultural truck driver. I am halfway done but still have a great job at a hospital and weare doing well for our age. We have a nice life together in a nice condo with our dogs haha,


I'm not posting this for anyone to say "who cares what they think.." etc etc I'm more just wanting to see who can relate and hear the cute love stories Smiley tongue

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  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
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    I’m only 20, so I feel your pain. 😂
    I’ve had a lot of people tell me I should never get married and that I’m too young, etc. but it’s never really bothered me since I know who I am and what I want lol. As long as me and my FH are happy with our decision, then I’m happy! Good luck to you. ☺️
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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
    Kellie Martinez ·
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    I feel the same way! Congratulations by the way. Smiley smile

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  • AtoZ
    Devoted May 2019
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    Congratulations! I had my fair share of this as well. I am 23 and will be 24 in a couple months. Our wedding is in 6 weeks!

    Shortly after FH and I got engaged, we went to visit my friends at my old job so they could see my ring. My very bitter, divorced former boss said “you know how I feel about marriage, waste of time and no man is worth it” and without even thinking, I blurted out “That’s fine, we’re not inviting you anyway.” 🤣

    Enjoy your engagement, it goes by so fast!
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  • Victoria
    Just Said Yes December 2019
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    I'm also 22 and have been dating my fiance since high school. I met him in my English class by being partnered up by our teacher. We started dating shortly before Prom and decided to go to college together since we were still both undecided about where to go at the time. We get this a lot from friends and family. It gets especially frustrating when people throw out the phrase that we should wait so we can "have fun before we get married". That never sits well with me because well have been together for 5 years on our wedding day (we planned it for our anniversary) and I like to think that well have even more fun together when we are married. In the end I'm just happy to start my married life together with him and try my best to ignore what everyone else has to say. Luckily my parents see no issue with us getting married young since my mom was 18 when she got married. 😊
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
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    I can totally relate to the whole “but you’re so young” thing. We got engaged when I was 23 and some of my family was surprised, despite the fact that I had moved to another country to be with my SO. We definitely didn’t take that decision lightly so I was confused when people were surprised we were going to get married lol. He was 28 when we got engaged so no one was questioning him which makes me laugh because we’re in the same relationship. He’s supposed to know this is the right decision because he’s a bit older but I’m supposed to not be able to know? It just doesn’t make much sense to me. Good luck to you guys and try not to let intrusive people bother you.
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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
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    I'll be 24 when we get married! Its so funny because I feel like all our parents got married super early like 18. My mom had two kids before she was my age so I feel like I'm going at a healthy pace lol. I want to enjoy being married for a while then have some babies. I don't want to be in my 30s trying to rush to have kids because I waited an "appropriate amount of time" to get married.

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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
    Kellie Martinez ·
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    LMAO! giiiiiirl are we related or something because that is so me

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  • Autumn
    Dedicated September 2019
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    We will both be 23. I haven’t actually had a lot of people say I’m too young. My dad has been waiting for us to get married for years. We met in high school on the bus 🚌 but didn’t start dating until we graduated. I went to college and he went into the marines. We started talking on Facebook and one thing led to another. We were long distance for 3 and a half years. Now he’s out of the marines, iv graduated college and started my career. We live together 😊 and are getting married in September. We just celebrated our 4 year anniversary.
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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    100 % agree! I've had the same fun my single friends were having at parties, sporting events, etc. besides the sleeping around and not everyone understands that that doesn't sound like fun to everyone lol. (not judging anyone who chooses to do that while single. i don't care. they can do their thing Smiley tongue ) but everyone is so different and saying we need to have "fun first" doesn't always make sense. At the end of the day after the parties, etc I get to go home and hangout with my fiance and that is fun to me. Smiley smile

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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    Aw I'm excited for you; you're one month ahead of me! congratulations to you both. I'm happy you managed to meet your soulmate eventhough he was in another country. Such a great story to tell you kids, family members, etc.

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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    The funny thing is my parents are so supportive and they are who I'd expect to want me to wait between mine and my FH's parents, They got married at 25/35 years old. dad's 10 yrs older) and are really traditional so were done with school, etc etc. His parents were 18 and his mom was pregnant at the wedding and she is one of the people who originally was like "You aren't done with college yet.. you're so young.." and swore I must be pregnant because we decided we wanted to get married at 22. She is supportive now because she realized that I'm not pregnant and we genuinely wanted to get married now because we feel that we are ready. Although, I would still be upset if she was making me feel terrible if I was pregnant because we have been together for six years and clearly love each other lol.

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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    NO WAY you aren't going to believe this but I met my fiance in highschool on the bus!!!! OMG lol. I've never met anyone on here who had the same story. LOVE IT. :')

    I am so happy for you. We are even getting married at around the same age,

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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2019
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    I totally relate. I was best friends with my fiance for like 4 years before we got engaged. I'll be 23 years old when I get married, but I even got comments from people my age saying I'm too young lol. I know people younger than me who got married!
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  • SraDeCarrillo
    Super August 2019
    SraDeCarrillo ·
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    Some “older people” may be bitter and some I’m sure mean well but, don’t express themselves nicely. We all have to live and make our own mistakes, right?

    I was and am a big believer in love. I was with the 1st love of my life at 19. Had our first kid at 23 and second kid at 25. We had a home and careers and our little family but it was all over at 28. People change. I fought for my relationship and my children and in the end all I had was my children. I personally feel like we change the most between 25 and 30. I had no idea his heart would change the way it did. I’m from a family that tends to marry young and many divorced around 30. I’m not judging or even implying that your relationship wont last, so don’t take this the wrong way. My advice to younger couples is to talk extensively about the future. Map out how many kids you want. What would you do if you can’t have kids? How do you want to discipline them? Do you want them in public or private school? Would you be willing to move if your spouse gets a new job? Would you care for them if they were tragically injured or became ill? Know each others love language. How does your spouse give and receive love.


    Just make sure you’re both on the same page and be flexible. People lose jobs, get sick, careers change, so on and so forth. As long as you can both roll with the punches and make sacrifices for each other, you will be okay. Talk about everything, especially the hard stuff.


    I know I made sure to do things differently in my current relationship to make sure that our goals align and to make sure that we can talk about any and everything. I know he is my forever.


    Good luck to each and every one of you brides!!!

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  • Mrs. C
    Super May 2019
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    I am 24 and will be 25 a month after our wedding in May. Even though I have a good job and a masters degree, people STILL say I am too young to be getting married. It is really frustrating. I guess with more and more people getting married at an older age (average age now I think is 30) they all feel like they have to put their two cents in. My fiance is older (28) and we have been dating officially for 3 years and been best friends for 7 years before that. Ultimately I know comments hurt but, its none of their DANG BUSINESS!! Smiley tongue

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  • M
    Super November 2019
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    I got married at 22. I got told alot at work that it was a bad idea. I was even told by a coworker that he couldnt wait to tell me "I told you so" when I get divorced for marrying so young. 1 year anniversary was yesterday.
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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
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    Both 23 and getting married in three months and have been engaged for 18 months (I was 22, he was 21). I will turn 24 in November. We have been together for six years, known each other since childhood, graduated college, have good jobs in our fields, have lived together for a year and a half and moved twice in that time due to job changes, own cars, buying a house in July, have our own insurance and retirements, make really good money especially for being so young, etc.. Because of all that, people who know us weren't shocked at all and I think were expecting it and are happy for us. People at work or strangers will occasionally make comments about how I'm "a baby" and "too young" but I literally don't care because they don't know our situation and I feel like people who think you need to reach a certain age to be in love and get married are dumb and just basing that off of a bitter experience. I'm more established now than a lot of my cousins were until they were like 30 (actually we make more money and are buying a house faster than some of my cousins 10+ years older than me lol)

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  • E
    Devoted October 2019
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    I'll be 25 when I get married but I started dating my FH when we were 18 and in our first semester at college. He had a lot of push back from his parents when we moved in together after college because he didn't date in high school and I was his first girlfriend. We both got questioned about if we were settling. People have assumed we would be too afraid to break up because we have never been adults without each other.
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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
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    I definitely get that lol. Maybe its because they feel they missed out on stuff from getting married and having kids so young. I'm glad she's being supportive now!

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  • Kayla
    Dedicated June 2019
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    Girl I’m only 19 and I got engaged when I was 18 😂 You could imagine the comments my fiancé and I have to deal with from people. I don’t think people realize how much these comments hurt. I have been told that I’m too young to understand marriage. People try to tell me that I am not ready for marriage because of my age. I never thought I would be judged so much just because I’m young. It is so rude for people to assume things about your maturity and readiness because of your age. Wouldn’t it be rude if I decided to tell people that they were too old to get married? I really don’t think it matters what age you get married as long as YOU and your FH think you are making to right decision. Im just trying to ignore the comments and move on because I know those people dont really know me and my relationship. I will be turning 20 3 days before the wedding sooo atleast I’ll be a little older for the actual wedding day 🤷🏻‍♀️
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