Writing the names on the RSVP cards

How many guests do you have?

Filling in the names helps reiterate exactly who you are inviting. Also insures they won't forget to write their name and then you have no idea who sent the RSVP back.

You must put the postage on if you expect to get them back. Yes people are adults, but adults are flawed and sometimes *gasp lazy.

Yes they can write their own bleeping names but sometimes even very smart well educated guys who run their own business don't...I just got this back yesterday because I was in such a hurry/excited that I didn't fill this info out for the first 15 or so invites (DUH). Fortunately, I was able to narrow down the culprit and will spend the rest of time making fun of him

You can also number the RSVP cards and keep a master list of who belongs to what number -- in case you don't know guest names, etc

I decided to print the names of guests on our response cards, but our alternative was just like Juliette said!

Write a little number on the back and keep a little list of who was assigned what number so you know who the card was from. I heard (read) WAY too many horror stories.

If you personalize the response card, there's always the accidental "put the wrong response card in the wrong envelope" - I was afraid of that one.. only did it once but caught it RIGHT AFTER I did it!

That is what I said. He respond by saying some interesting stuff. I will got back and put the names but he is serious about the postage. He is paying for the wedding.

We are inviting about 65 people.

I saw someone on here who in the place where postage would normally go put "save a stamp and RSVP online" or something like that. Do you have an online RSVP option? or a call/text option? I think that if you're not going to provide postage, you should provide an alternative to someone getting a stamp. I don't keep stamps around the house because I rarely mail anything...for me it isn't about the $.50, it's about an extra errand to run

If it's any consolation, I didn't put postage on mine. (Shoot, I didn't even put a WEDDING stamp on our invitations, my mother gave us a roll of forever stamps and we just used those!)

We really wanted traffic on our wedding website, so we encouraged that strongly. We noted "save a stamp, RSVP online" on our response cards.

Our guests are mostly tech savvy, so we weren't worried..I've gotten a few back that people put their own stamps on.

It says a lot for me, because I'm usually such a big "by-the-book" and etiquette-heavy kind of person.. but the "save-where-you-can" kind of personality came out stronger in me that time. I didn't like the idea of buying postage that people wouldn't use.

LOL the person Juliette is talking about was me. That's funny [;

We were thinking about that. Most of my guest won't do it. They said it is proper to send the card madge. Not everyone is addicted to the computer/internet. that is what wrong with this generation. Hot mess mind. you. i have a website and only five people went on it . I told my mom and she said that was and is a waste of time.

Update: Convince the man to put name on RSVP and pay for postage. Told him about my nightmare and he agreed.

So yay

Haha Rubylee...I liked it I also liked your QR code on your invite -- we did those on our STD and they provided hours of enjoyment for friends (the family wanted to know why we had a funny looking square on our STD lol)

YAY Madge...it's probably too late for you but saving on postage is why we did RSVP postcards!

We are doing the postcards size. So the postage should be cheaper right?

Yes postage should be cheaper.... but im not gonna lie..... i LOL'd for real when i read that! Your FH made me laugh. I understand his point. I didnt even think of writing the names on it! and postage...Lord help us all! LOL

LOL thanks Juliette [:

Just a reminder, postage goes up January 22nd 2012!! [:

http://about.usps.com/news/national-releases/2011/pr11_116.htm

I know right. This is why I am marrying him. He crackes me up.@ rubylee, love your name, I completely forgot about the increase. Stupid Federal Government.

Yes I second the stupid federal government! A postcard (i believe) is different than a postcard size paper in an envelope. True postcards are currently $.19 while anything with an envelope is $.44...although I'm not a postage expert so you might want to check with the post office.

The other thing to keep in mind is how much your invites will cost to mail. I made sure ours were $.44 by cutting out the inserts (we just had the RSVP postcard) and making sure the size was right. Postage is a bigger waste of money than the invite that most people are just going to throw away

For 65 people postage won't be that expensive. We had the same debate too until DH said he's not arguing over $12 lol!

I read another option somewhere instead of writing the names. Just label the RSVP cards in some relatively hidden place. For example write *1* next to Uncle John and Aunt Gertie on your guestlist. Then write *1* in the corner of your RSVP. It's quicker and it will still let you figure our who RSVPed it they forget to write their name.

Postcards are currently 29-cents and increasing to 32 mid-january.

In fact, at some point this year, post cards increased from 28 to 29 cents. I'm a big post card sender AND sent STD postcards.

Personally - i think postage on the rsvp is a must. yes. people are adults and can buy postage -- but this is about taking care of your guests, and believe it or not... your wedding begins with the first thing you send out. also, the postage for 65 rsvps would be $24.05... so tell him to let it go! ;o)

initially i was going to write the names on our rsvp cards... but decided to let it go. i spent about 70 hours lining envelopes and hand addressing 175 invitations and i was just shot.

regardless of whether you fill it in or not -- be SURE SURE SURE you code the cards to your guest list. just in very light pencil on the back indicate the line number from your spreadsheet. you would be amazed at people forgetting to fill it in or having horrible handwriting.. it will save you some trouble in the end. ;o)

I would put the postage. There are always people that don't use the internet (or aren't very savvy) and won't want to go on the website. They just want to go to the mailbox.

Yes--put the names on the card. People forget and yes, put on the postage., To be blunt...these are your guests. You should treat them as such. Even though the "party" isn't until later, this is part of it so...to be blunt...suck it up and pay the 30.00 for stamps.